7 Clear Signs An Aquarius Man Just Wants To Be Friends

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Spotting the signs an Aquarius man just wants to be friends may be disappointing. But there is a way to get out of the friend zone with an Aquarius man. Here's how...

You’re in the dreaded Aquarius man friend zone… You wouldn’t believe how many women find themselves in this position when all they actually want is for the Aquarius man to be their lover.

So an Aquarius man just wants to be friends with you, trust me, this is more common than you think. Aquarius men are notoriously aloof and have a very tough time committing themselves to a romantic connection.

They are just way more comfortable just being friends with a woman as this puts all the pressure off him as all he really wants in life is to be free and independent. So being friends with an Aquarius man is a very good place to start out. 

This might make you wonder how to be friends with an Aquarius man… It is a lot easier than you might think, friendship is something the Aquarius man can definitely do. The other stuff is when he starts freaking out and pushing people away.

So, do you think you might be stuck in the Aquarius man friend zone? Then you have definitely come to the right place. Here are all the signs an Aquarius man just wants to be friends and how to work yourself out of this position.

Why Does The Aquarius Man Friend Zone Me? And Do I Still Have A Chance?

He Doesn’t Like You

An Aquarius man has very high standards in his life, with his work, friends, and lifestyle, but especially for his romantic relationships. He always knows when a connection has the potential to be long-term or not. He has a sense for these things… 

If an Aquarius man has friend zoned you then the chances are pretty big that he might just not like you romantically, but this doesn’t mean he won’t be friends with you. 

Often, this is easier for him to cope with than a full-blown romantic relationship and you will actually get closer to him in a deeper sense because he doesn’t always allow his romantic connections to go as deep as his friendships. 

He is definitely an anomaly. If an Aquarius man doesn’t like you romantically, it might not be the worst thing in the world, especially if he still wants to be a friend to you.

He Is Not Interested In A Romantic Relationship

As I have mentioned before, when an Aquarius man friends zones you, it isn’t always a bad thing because this sign will often end up dating one of his friends anyway. 

An Aquarius man will always be less interested in a romantic relationship, than a platonic friendship because his friendships are like family to him. Romance just isn’t that big of a priority to him. 

An Aquarius man will often only settle down much later in life, and often with one of his best mates. The foundation of having a solid friendship is where the magic is at for the Aquarius man.

When he tells you he would rather be friends with you, don’t take this as a rejection because it really isn’t. Be his friend and then see where it grows and goes…

Are Aquarius Men Able To Commit To One Woman Only? << find out here

He Feels Pressured

If there is one thing you need to know about your Aquarius man then it is his love for freedom and independence. This man is a free spirit and only does what he wants, he isn’t someone who loves listening to authority as he is bit of a rebel.

When an Aquarius man can pick up that you have feelings for him, and it isn’t aligned with his timeline, it can actually freak him out and make him feel pressured into something he doesn’t want. 

This is when he will cool his jets and tell you that he just wants to be friends. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for you, he might just not have the same level of passion for the relationship that you do. 

This is why it always best to play it cool with an Aquarius man. Keep him guessing, or else you might frighten him away unfortunately!

Read next: Aquarius Man Disappears And Comes Back — Now What?

7 Clear Signs An Aquarius Man Just Wants To Be Friends (Even If You’re Hoping For More)

1. His Communication Has Changed

Be mindful of the way your Aquarius guy talks to you. Does he speak in present tense or does he mention things in the future? This is very important. Does he ask you about yourself?

When an Aquarius man is interested in you, he will make it rather obvious as he’ll start to call you more, talk to you more, text you more or try to spend time with you. If you’re just friends, he’ll keep it at a certain level and not really move forward.

So if you can pay attention to how he talks to you and the frequency, you can figure out what his intention may be with you. If he never talks about hanging out and doing stuff, he probably wants to be friends.

Although sometimes, friendship can mean sharing a cup of coffee somewhere. If he wants to be more, he’ll get a little more romantic than coffee. He’ll want to take you to lunch or dinner.

If he is doing THAT out of context then he may actually let you know in some way that it was a great time hanging out. He’ll say it in a “friendly” way versus something like “I’d like to see you again soon”. See the difference?

2. He Doesn’t Care About Your Opinion

Again, if he’s interested in you for more than friendship; he’s going to find ways to kick things up a notch. He will still move slowly and take it at a steady pace. However, he’ll start to ask personal questions about you.

He will suddenly want to know what you think about important life plans, goals, or what your dreams are. Granted, he doesn’t want to know everything all at once. He wants to get to know you piece by piece.

As a friend, he may be interested in whatever you’re doing or talking about at the time but he isn’t “invested” in much out of it. In other words, if he detaches easily and takes off afterward, he’s just a friend.

If you find he lingers a little bit after a conversation or after hanging out, there may actually be a little interest there. You’ll soon be able to see if that is the case because he’ll start to get more personal.

Is your Aquarius man using you? << here’s how to tell for sure

3. He Doesn’t Go Deep With You

I mentioned the way he talks to you is a telltale sign. The other thing is the conversations you have. As friends, he will talk about surface stuff that isn’t all that important.

If he starts to have feelings for you, he will make it obvious by asking you personal questions he’s never asked you before. He may ask you what you see your life looking like 10 years from now.

You see how that would be a question that is of interest to him? He wants to see where your head is at and what you want. He wants to see if it lines up with his overall picture in life as well.

As friends, that sort of stuff doesn’t matter as much to him. I mean he cares but unless he’s going to dedicate his life to you, it’s just surface conversation for him.

Talking about movies and music is something friends do. Talking about life plans, goals, family, etc is something left for possible lovers to discuss. If he starts talking to you about sex, this could be one that’s hard to measure.

Some Aquarius men like to “play” and that means that they have no qualms having a “friend with benefits” as in being able to have fun, play and have sex without any commitment involved.

He may try to feel you out on that to see where you stand. As long as you make it clear to him that you’re not into that sort of thing, he’ll respect it. If he still wants to get to know you after that, he’s interested and not just a friend.

If your convictions are strong enough as are your morals, he may find this more attractive and want to get to know you more than friends. Strange I know, but this is how Aquarius men sometimes roll.

4. You Haven’t Met His Friends Or Family

This is a big one. If you are spending time with an Aquarius man, he will not take you home to meet his family nor will he bring you to his family unless he is absolutely serious.

If you find that suddenly one night he takes you to hang out with some of his friends, he’s interested in you! On the other hand, if he just hangs out with you and you never meet anyone else he cares about, you’re in the friend zone.

This is one of those things that you absolutely will know what is going on with the Aquarius man. He only brings those he’s absolutely serious about around his family.

He wants to be sure that he’s with the right person before introducing them to his parents or family. Otherwise, he feels he looks like a fool for bringing just some girl home.

As friends, he sees no reason to bring you home nor does he feel he should introduce you to all his friends. If he doesn’t intend on bringing you to anyone of significance then you are not what he’s after.

That is the biggest telltale sign there is. Family and friends are part of his freedom and part of his world. He will not share that with someone until he’s positive that it’s moving somewhere.

5. When An Aquarius Man Calls You His Best Friend

Aquarius men have a reputation of being aloof and detached, because they definitely are, but some of the more evolved Aquarius men will happily tell you directly if he just wants to be friends. No second guessing!

And when he calls you his best friend he definitely means it. You probably mean more to him that some of his romantic connections because there is nothing more important to an Aquarius man than his friends. 

This is quite significant, the fact that the Aquarius man is actually taking the time to tell you that he just wants to be friends is a great sign of respect. You clearly are special to him, perhaps just not in the romantic sense. 

When an Aquarius man says this to you, accept this and recognize that you could perhaps build something with him further down the line. He won’t be forced into anything he isn’t ready for, so give him the space to realize how wonderful you are. 

Discover more about Aquarius man negative personality traits and how to deal with them <<

6. He Isn’t Inviting You To Social Events

Knowing an Aquarius means knowing how insane their schedule and social commitments are. An Aquarius always has something going on with their friends or community. This man loves a good gathering. 

So, if an Aquarius man isn’t taking the time to ask you to these events, it probably isn’t a very good sign. It either means he doesn’t want to see you, or that inviting you has slipped his mind. 

Neither of these reasons are great. You need to be on his radar for him to want to invite you out to spend time with you. If you aren’t getting those invites he might just see you as a friend, or maybe even just as an acquaintance. 

7. You’re The One To Reach Out

Communication is very important to Aquarius men. They love to keep in touch and have their minds stimulated. You should see all the group chats these guys are on Whatsapp!

So if you’re the one who is always reaching out to an Aquarius man first, and he never contacts you out of his own, then that is quite a big sign he just wants to be friends. 

If he knows how you feel about him, then this is probably a way of deterring you from contacting him and expecting more from him than what he can give you. If he still replies and is friendly, then he probably just wants to be friends. 

However, he is ghosting you when you contact him, then this is a major sign for you to leave him alone and give him some space. 

Here’s more on how to get an Aquarius man to call or text you first <<

Is It Possible To Escape The Friend Zone With An Aquarius Man?

Yes! It is definitely possible to escape the friend zone with an Aquarius man. Usually his romantic relationships are bourne out of friendships he had first, so it is very possible! Here is how:

How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With An Aquarius Man?

Lay Off The Pressure

If an Aquarius man knows how you feel about him and that you want to be more than friends, then there nothing more you can do. However, if you want to push him away then apply pressure on him. 

Be his friend, give him space and make him realize what a cool girl you are. You want to make him comfortable and make him see that there is no pressure coming from you. 

The more relaxed, detached, and aloof you are, the more you will intrigue him and make him realize that you are someone he needs to have in his life. He will come around soon and see your romantic potential!

Show Off Your Smarts

One thing that drives an Aquarius man absolutely crazy is a woman who has brains. He loves an intelligent woman who can talk about interesting things and can keep up in conversation. 

Sometimes when the pressure of a romantic relationship is on it can be difficult to show your intelligence. But when you’re in the friend zone, you won’t have this pressure. 

This is why it is the perfect time for you to show what your mind is made of and all the fascinating things you find interesting. This might make your Aquarius man see you differently and realize that there is more to you. 

This might be enough to make him want to pursue you and see if there is something romantic between the two of you. Try, you have nothing to lose!

Related: Questions To Ask An Aquarius Man To Spark His Interest

Lean Back And Focus On Yourself

Independence is the sexiest thing ever for an Aquarius man. He loves it when a woman has her own life and is doing her own thing. Often, he gets turned off by a woman if she focuses on him a bit too much. 

This may have been the reason he put you in the friend zone in the first place. If you think this is the reason why, then you need to lean back and put a lot more effort into yourself and your own happiness. 

Stop looking at him for validation to make you happy. The Aquarius man can’t handle that kind of pressure. When you start focusing on your own goals and hobbies you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and make your Aquarius man see that you are a woman worth pursuing!

Discover more about Aquarius man likes and dislikes in a woman here <<

How To Know If An Aquarius Man Is Interested Or Just Being Friendly Through Text

It is pretty hard to guage when an Aquarius man is interested in you because he can be so distant and aloof… Even when he is madly in love with someone he will tend to hold his cards to his chest. 

But, the Aquarius man can be pretty flirty and forward when they like a woman. And this is especially easy to pick up over text. If an Aquarius man isn’t interested in you, you’ll never hear from him, he’ll never text first and you’ll always be questioning how he feels about you. 

However, when an Aquarius man is interested in you he’ll definitely make the effort to signal to you that he is interested in you on a deeper level and that he wants to get to know you.

He will be the one to reach out first, he will actively try to keep the conversation going, and he will often text you to make plans with you to see you in person. If he tries to move the chats from online to reality, then you know he is probably smitten. 

How To Tell If An Aquarius Man Really Likes You

In general, an Aquarius man is quite a friendly guy! There has to be a reason why he has so many friends, so he can be pretty open with people and has no problem making connections. 

But, he goes the extra mile when he is interested in a woman and really likes you. When an Aquarius man likes a woman she becomes his universe for a while and he wants to know every little thing about her. 

The Aquarius man’s aloofness and distance will disappear and he will come across a lot more friendly and warm. You won’t have to question the way he feels about you as it is pretty clear. 

He will make the effort to spend time with you, to get to know you better, and to connect with you on a deeper level. He won’t be shy to show you how he feels towards you. Check this out to see all the signs an Aquarius man likes you <<

Is Your Aquarius Man Avoiding Commitment?

Does your Aquarius man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment, but get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…

What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology <<

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Go here now to turn things around with your Aquarius man in 30 days or less.



About Author

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9 thoughts on “7 Clear Signs An Aquarius Man Just Wants To Be Friends

  1. Hello. I have been “dating” an Aquarius man off and on for over five years.He just told me that he didn’t want anything romantic with me right now and informed me that he just wanted to be friends. One of the things he said is that he wanted to be free to do was invite me around his friends and not feel the pressure of a dating relationship. You said “If you find that suddenly one night he takes you to hang out with some of his friends, he’s interested in you! On the other hand, if he just hangs out with you and you never meet anyone else he cares about, you’re in the friend zone.” This is actually untrue and the complete opposite. If he hangs out with you alone, he is interested in you. If he wants to hang out you with his friends, you are in the friends zone.

    I been following you and reading alot of your articles and even bought your book . I apologize if this comes off rude but you are dead wrong about Aquarius men. Everything I have read that you wrote have been the opposite in my “situation” with this Aquarius guy. Perhaps, one size doesn’t fit them all.

  2. I have known one Aquarius man in my past that invited me to hang out with him and his friends quite a bit, but he always told me that he never wanted anything serious.

    I saw him working one day building a stone wall with several other men. He didn’t see me looking from my car. He told me that he couldn’t provide for a wife or a family. It was true as I know he worked in the construction business and was in and out of work mostly.

    I had my horse boarded out next door from his parents house. One day i soon noticed him bringing home another girl to his parents house on his motorcycle. Never seen her before, she was with him at the same time i was going out with him too. He said she was only a friend. I guess he made his point that he said he didn’t want any serious relationships.

    He was looking to be “friends with benefits” with these young women that actually turned me off from wanting to pursue anything more with him. I felt that I deserved better than being treated that way.

    1. Hi JC!

      I can definitely see why you’d be turned off. I guess that’s his thing though. I want you to know that not all Aquarius men behave like this though. Don’t write them all off because of one. He sounds like all he wants to do is play. You are on very different pages. Keep moving forward sweetheart. You’ll get the right one sooner than later. You’re strong!

  3. When he wanted to hang out with me alone, it was because he wanted a booty call. He never invited me to meet his parents. I met up with him a year later. he asked me if i wanted to stop over at his parents house to swim in his pool while in front of his friends. I asked him who was going to be there? He replied no one but us… (nuts) !! I just turned on my heal and said… No Thanks .. The look on his face, i will never forget that day.

  4. However I have found that if you give enough time to get to know him better, {when a girl sleeps with a guy}, she imprints on him , she can loose control of her emotions and then he can have control over her. Not a good place to be in.

    But if you get to know him first before you do anything, keep your friends around to help you to stay smart. When you wait to get phisically close to him. ask your self this, does he really own a construction Co? Does he really own that apartment building?

    He could be telling the truth, or he may be trying to impress you so that you will value him. To build himself up in front of you and your friends.

    Is it really his or his mothers business properties? Or if he is poor and can’t provide for a wife and a family? He may be honest and tell you that he can’t or doesn’t want a serious relationship.

    What does he really want from you? On the other hand, if you make him wait long enough to find out about him, ask his friends about this business, ask them in a way that your not trying to corner them. try to read between the lines what they tell you. However If you make him wait to be intimate with him. And he stays with you and hes treating you well. and find out the truth ,

    Hes a keeper. But if he leaves soon after you say NO. He only wanted you for fun.

  5. Hi Anna, I really find your information so interesting. I read that most Aquarius men, and some others take much longer to fall in love. Longer than a girl can to fall in love, he may be infatuated with her at first, but not in love so readily. some times a lot longer than the 4th or filth date. They say they want to be free and have time alone in between to think and digest their previous time together.

    They need some time to miss her. I think they really do have trust issues like you say. He;s sensitive, I found that if or when they bring you to meet their friends, they like you physically, and may like your mannorism, or they wouldn’t be bothered with you too much. You are right about what you say, but it all depends on the chemistry they find they have as they slowly get to know her,

    I think that they may be feeling things out and will want their friends opinion of you. Is she honest? Will she hurt me? He wants to see if you fit in with their crowd of friends. If she fits what he is needing in a friend ship then maybe a relationship and feel like she understands him. There could be a chance eventually for him in a relationship down the road. She is the one to think also about what she wants too , and if she is ready for such a responsibility if things go too fast for her too. So many things can result from two people coming together. Does she like my friends? If not too much, will she try and take my freedom away? if she thinks he is too distant for her. He maybe looking for an independant girl that knows what she wants, and has something going for her so she wont be focusing on him to make her happy all the time. And wont be wanting to be hanging on his arm all the time. But i think that if he finds that she is not what he is looking for, is she too immature? Not at his level? is she pushing him? He may back away and end it with her. With out much of an explanation. Everything takes time to figure out and will come in stages, most of those millinaum this push button tecknology time erra i think and expect things to come instantly and easy. But doesnt work that way. Ask you aquarius guy what he thinks?

    In my experience, if the aquarius man/ or “men” are the ones to push for intimate relationship early on, woman / girl may get confused with him being her boyfriend.

    This girl must have an agenda , almost a little like Ma. he wants her to look out for his best intentions. Not a girl looking to trap him in any way, if he feels like she wants to get intimate with him too soon, he may like the idea at frst, but in the long run, he may think that she wants to trap him in a hasty relationship, that he isn’t ready for. He wants some one to think about his feelings and to have his back. She needs to stand up for him, and be conciderate of him. And stand up to him when he needs it. He takes a lot longer than her to really fall in love. So if you keep it just friends for a while with him. He may have a chance to fall in love.

  6. I worked with an aquarius guy once. The next day he mentioned that his girlfriend recently broke up with him for another guy. We worked together at this auto dealership and he worked in the garage section of the building as an auto mechanic. About a week after that. He drove in to the garage while all the men were still working in an open jeep with a girl. And the next day, a different girl with him, he must have brought in a half dozen of these different women every other day for the next two weeks, and you could tell the girls were sitting there were feeling a bit uncomfortable. But no one saw them with him again after awhile. Why do you think this happened?

  7. Hi Anna, I was wondering about this aquarius guy . We worked together. One day he mentioned that his girlfriend that he really loved had recently broke up with him for this other guy. You could tell how hurt he was. We worked at this auto dealership garage and he worked in the section of the building as an auto mechanic. About a week or so after he mentioned it. He drove
    into the garage while most the men were still working . He showed up in an open jeep with this girl. And the very next day, another different girl with him again, he must have brought in a number of them ,more than a half dozen of these different ones every two to three days for the next two weeks, they seem uncomfortable because he left them all sitting by theirselfs for a while while he went in the back to see his buddy’s , while everyone was wondering who they were . Anna do you think he was asking them out so to show that he still had it as far as being attractive and wanted? I never seen anything like it before.

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