So you’ve set your sights on an Aquarius man, but you have noticed that he tends to blow hot and cold. You might be wondering why are Aquarius so hot and cold? One minute he is all over you, and then the next you haven’t heard from him in days. Did you do something wrong?
Well, let me tell you, Aquarius men are seriously one of a kind, so I’m not surprised that so many of my clients come to me asking for advice about them. They can’t help but grab attention wherever they go! Aquarius man hot and cold is not rare but it can be very confusing to try and understand him.
Let’s start with what makes your Aquarius man so damn attractive. You have probably noticed he’s quite the progressive visionary; always thinking outside of the box and eager to revolutionize the world around him.
Your Aquarius lives in his mind – his intellect drives him. He’s a deep thinker and ever so ambitious and can be quite inventive once he focuses his ideas into a clear goal.
His rebellious nature makes him quite the individualist and he craves independence and freedom. No wonder you find him so sexy! We would all like to say that we tamed the untameable beast.
You might be thinking, “but at the beginning of our relationship, everything was so perfect. He was so loving and caring and now I barely hear from him!” So, what actually happened to the sweet and attentive partner you once knew?
Why Are Aquarius So Cold?
Aquarius is an air Zodiac sign. He is an independent and unpredictable creature. Air signs are not as emotional as water signs, so an Aquarius man can be emotionally detached, very observant, and have strong defense mechanisms. Their nature is unique, and they often wonder why people do what they do.
All of the above can make them seem less affectionate and cold in their relationships. In fact, he could be affectionate one moment and then abruptly become distant and cold the next. It is very confusing for his woman to understand why he acts this way.
It is not because he is not interested, but because he wants individuality and has a strong need for independence.
This is why he can become indecisive when it comes to committed relationships. It is important to mention that Aquarius is ruled by Uranus, a planet of change and unpredictability, which can also contribute to his hot and cold behavior.
Aquarius Man Acting Weird — 4 Possible Reasons Of Aquarius Man Hot And Cold Behavior
His emotions aren’t that accessible to him
Aquarius men are known for suddenly disappearing. More often than not, it’s because he’s overthinking things, which stresses him out and makes him go distant.
The downside of him being so cerebral and intelligent is that he can quite often get stuck in his head! Emotions and feelings totally freak him out – he’s completely uncomfortable with whatever he can’t rationally explain!
Feeling deep emotion is uncharted territory for an Aquarius. Things might be moving a bit too quickly for him and he’s feeling unsure about how to process what he is feeling towards you. He’d rather go quiet and start ignoring your calls and texts.
If you struggle with getting your Aquarius man to open up and finding the right words to make him feel special, I strongly suggest getting my Aquarius Man Love Language guide. It will help you finally speak the same love language as him, and make your bond so much stronger.
When an Aquarius man goes hot and cold, he doesn’t mean to hurt you; he just doesn’t know how else to act. If he’s bad at his own emotions, then trust me, he’s quite terrible at knowing how to handle yours!
If you react too harshly and too emotionally, it might trigger a similar experience he had with an ex that makes him shiver with terror. Try your best to remain cool and calm, and show him you have a handle on your emotions.
Becoming hysterical is a sure way to get him to retreat and disappear. Giving you the cold shoulder is his defense mechanism. For him, detaching is the only way he knows how to handle stress.
He’s afraid of losing his individual identity
Your Aquarius man loves his freedom – he wants his space and autonomy. He does what he wants when he wants to. Being seen as an individual is high on his priorities.
Aquarius men love being unpredictable and going on last-minute adventures. The last thing he wants or needs is having a clingy girlfriend calling him every five minutes asking where he is.
Independence is part of your Aquarian’s identity, and knowing his very stubborn nature, it’s quite unlikely going to change any time soon. He knows exactly who he is, and lives by his truth.
You might perceive this behavior as quite selfish, but in all honesty, your Aquarius will never misrepresent himself or pretend to be something or someone he is not. It’s just not in his nature to be a fake and fraud.
It is never his intention to hurt you, but unfortunately, his number one priority is himself. He will fight for his freedom and individuality, no matter the consequences.
You’re not enough of a challenge for him
Everything goes back to the mind and intellect when it comes to an Aquarius. You might not know this, but his sign is actually ruled by Saturn in Astrology. The planet of restrictions, limitations, and challenges.
He does not expect anything to come easy in life, because nothing ever has. Everything your Aquarius has today, he has worked his ass off for his entire life. So, the same can be said for the woman he chooses for his life. He wants to work for her, and earn his spot in her heart.
This is the one man that playing hard to get is a right turn-on for him, but be genuine about it! Don’t play games with him, simply have a full schedule! Be interesting, be an asset.
He loves seeing you pursuing your dreams and living life to the fullest. He wants a partner who doesn’t need a man to fulfill her – a loving partner is just the cherry on top of an already exciting life for her.
If you want to keep your Aquarius man interested, keep as busy as possible. Indulge in all your hobbies, see friends often and work towards your goals. He honestly finds nothing sexier than a woman living her life to the fullest.
An absolute turn-off for him would be having you pursue him and be too available! He wants to feel challenged and excited by the prospect of chasing you. If you make things too easy for him, he’ll more than likely get bored and start pulling away.
His impossibly high ideals
Aquarius is also the sign of hopes, dreams, and ideals. He often has a set-out ideal of what he wants and aspires to have in a woman. Aquarius doesn’t seem like the type to HAVE a type, but trust me does. He’s quite stubborn, remember?
Often, he might start dating a woman because he sees her potential and tries to mold her into his ideal. He sees an image he has conjured up himself and often overlooks the person standing right in front of him.
And then when his fantasy starts merging with reality, and he sees you’re not quite what he imagined, it can all start to crumble down. And this is when he starts to get weird and distant.
Aquarius men have impossibly high standards; they won’t settle for anything less than the best. This can put a lot of pressure on you, his woman, to be perfect all the time. He seems to forget that he isn’t perfect either. A little humility would do him a world of good.
What To Do When An Aquarius Man Blows Hot And Cold?
The most important thing you can do when your Aquarius goes distant is to accept it, be mature, and let him breathe for a second.
His aloofness might not even have anything to do with you, so don’t give him any reason to start avoiding you! Give him space to sort through his thoughts and most importantly his feelings. Do not chase him! This is the key to having him come back.
He’s pretty unpredictable, so when he does come back and acts all hot and interested again, make sure you keep things cool! Keep things light. Resist bringing up your feelings and overwhelming him.
Act a little unpredictable yourself, like scheduling a date he would never expect from you.
One thing is for sure, your Aquarius man is here to challenge you and to help you grow. So, you might as well think outside the box and push your own set of boundaries. Be unique and embrace your authentic self.
How To Emotionally Connect With An Aquarius Man When He Becomes Distant?
His life will be transformed when the right person emerges and shows him love as he has never experienced it, as well as patience and diligence. He will either tell her everything at once or divulge enough information so that she understands it.
When an Aquarius man becomes distant, be patient. Communication that is open and honest is essential in any relationship, and this one is no exception.Uranus brings sudden changes and anxiety, and as a result, he may withdraw.
It is important to give him the space he needs so he can sort out his feelings rationally since he will be thinking and planning ahead of time and it can be overwhelming for him.
Do not frequently text him. The more you text Aquarius men about where they are and what they are up to, the more they may feel the pressure, which isn’t good. It will take him time to recharge and be his old self. Give him space to do so.
FAQ On Aquarius Man Being Cold And Distant
Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Aquarius man and how he feels about you when he is distant? Well, luckily for you I have compiled a list of questions that might come up in your relationship.
Hopefully, this can help you navigate your relationship with him.
How To Play Mind Games With An Aquarius Man?
There are a few ways to do this, but it all comes down to keeping an Aquarius man on his toes, guessing, and very confused. Then, just at the point when you think he’s going to pull away, you become your charming self once more.
So, act like you are unpredictable and spontaneous like he is. Challenge his opinion, because they enjoy the “chase”, and it’s fun for them. Aquarius man likes debating and enjoys mental challenges!
Why An Aquarius Man Becomes Distant When Everything Seemed To Be Going Well?
His disinterest in having a relationship with you is a possible reason for an Aquarius man to act distant. He is not sure about his feelings for you, and this is why he blows hot and cold. You can’t figure out what happened when he suddenly pulled back!
It may be that he does not want to hurt your feelings and does not want to tell you what it is.
Stop Crying Yourself To Sleep About Your Aquarius Man
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with an Aquarius man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Aquarius guys. I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her.
She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.
Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language.
And it worked!! So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Aquarius man is MADLY in love with you…
And never feel anxious about him again…