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How to Get an Aquarius Man to Open Up and Share His Feelings

It’s easy to find the good in your Aquarius man—he’s charming, he’s intelligent, and his sense of humor is out of this world.

With so much to love, you expect that after the first several dates, or first several months, that your Aquarius man will open up, share his feelings, and let you know he’s falling for you.

Instead, you hear crickets. 

What’s going on? Don’t panic—I’m here to clue you in.

As I’ve shown so many women in your shoes, your best tactics from relationships past won’t work because an Aquarius man is so different. He’s like a puzzle—but he’s not unsolvable! 

You just need to understand how his mind—and heart—work.

To him, rules are made to be broken. His fierce independence and need for space and freedom will guide his decisions every time.

It’s confusing and can even be heartbreaking because you expect his feelings for you to be his biggest priority. But they’re not, at least not the way you’re expecting.

Aquarius Men and Emotions…. It’s Complicated

I know you may be thinking that all women struggle to get their men to open up—but an Aquarius man lives in a whole different world. If men are from Mars and women are from Venus (hint: they’re not!) then Aquarius men are from their own universe. You’ve got to let go of any assumptions you have from past relationships.

You know your guy is smart, that’s part of what attracts you to him, right? But it’s not just that he’s brilliant. Aquarius men are cutting edge. They’re innovators who can sense what is coming, and they crave intellectual stimulation. 

His mind is a battery, and he needs to keep it active. But all this focus on progressive, futuristic ideology keeps him from feeling with his heart.

To him, the heart is a deep and murky ocean, a confusing and dangerous place. There’s so much beneath the surface. A killer shark? A riptide that will pull him away from his beloved freedom? 

Yes, he knows that a buried treasure is somewhere in the depths of that ocean, as well, but he’s going to take his time immersing himself in search of it. Don’t expect a deep sea diver at first. He’ll want to keep his head above water. 

Learn to Speak His Language

How to Get An Aquarius Man To Share His Feelings

Your Aquarius man won’t get too close at first. He’s notorious for disappearing acts every time he starts to feel too attached. Ok, honestly, every time he starts to feel period. Emotions aren’t his language. 

One of the biggest complaints I hear from women about their Aquarius men is that while he isn’t afraid of talking, he doesn’t truly open up. He may go on about a million different subjects, but he doesn’t get deeper into his feelings.

There’s a reason for this. He doesn’t know how.

Even if he’s a neurosurgeon or mechanical engineer, the fact that he can perform all kinds of impressive mental gymnastics doesn’t translate into emotional literacy. He doesn’t talk about how he feels because he doesn’t know how to feel safe articulating his feelings. 

Geeking out in the academic, trivia, and tech worlds is his comfort zone. Being vulnerable in the emotional world is not.

But like any language, emotional recognition and expression can be taught. This is where your patience and understanding become vital. Rather than expecting him to speak your language right away, you’ve got to learn to understand his language and help him translate. 

You wouldn’t get mad at him for not suddenly knowing how to speak German because you can. So you can’t fault him for not being emotionally fluent. He hasn’t been living in the same world as the rest of us. 

Unraveling the Layers

How To Make Him Open Up Aquarius Man

Your Aquarius love interest is complex. Think of your relationship not as a straight line but as a series of layers, each revealing deeper connection. This is not a process of smashing through his walls. It’s a process of winding through the labyrinth. I know it’s hard, but you’ll need to be patient. 

Now that you’ve got the message that you can’t expect him to be emotionally fluent right away, your role in the relationship can be to help connect him with his feelings.

Whatever you do, don’t pile all your deepest feelings onto him at once in an attempt to ‘teach’ him to be more expressive. This will put him into overload, and he’ll shut down.

You’ve got to start where he is comfortable. 

When he talks about his friends, hobbies, and interests, notice when he seems to be emotionally connected to certain topics. No need to get jealous. He’s able to express emotions more when less is at stake

He may talk affectionately about a coworker, but it’s not because he has romantic feelings for her. In fact, it’s probably because he doesn’t.

When he talks about his passions for 3D printing, Bitcoin, or his new Ancient Aliens class, use these opportunities to help him express his interests in more emotional language. Be subtle, though—he’ll know if you’re ‘fishing’ for a certain reaction. All you’re doing is encouraging emotional expression in a neutral or safe topic. 

Take note of the words he uses. You may notice that he avoids placing himself directly in the conversation but describes things like outside scenes he is observing. The more you can be patient and demonstrate that he can take risks in talking about how he feels and how things affect him, the sooner he will start to open up.

Read next: The Best Ways to Respond When an Aquarius Man Ignores You

He May Already Love You… From a Distance

Aquarius Man Sharing His Feelings

This is one of the hardest things women face when dating an Aquarius before they really tap into his brain: the amount of distance he needs. 

When he’s not calling back or sharing his feelings, you can drive yourself crazy looking for ‘signs’ that you recognize as love. But you have to remember it’s not personal.

Your Aquarius man processes things first through intellect. He avoids the deeper emotional connection and may even retreat from his feelings, back into the safety of trivia and academics, sci-fi and conspiracy theories. 

Here’s something you need to keep in mind: He may already be falling for you. In fact, if he’s started to pull back, he probably has. I know, you’re thinking, ‘That makes no sense! This isn’t kindergarten!’ 

You’re right, but Aquarius men are highly sensitive, and behind the intelligence, they can feel downright awkward in social situations. He knows how to connect intellectually, so start there. Allow him to take baby steps from his head to his heart. 

He doesn’t wear his heart on his sleeve. He keeps it on a twelve-foot leash. Though he tries to keep feelings at bay, his heart will eventually catch up to him.

Even right now, from his safe distance, he may be falling for you. He just doesn’t fully understand that yet.

Read next: 5 Signs An Aquarius Man Likes You: Know If He’s Interested

Whatever You Do…. Don’t Do These Things

While you’re learning his emotional language and teaching him to express his own feelings, there are a few things you absolutely must avoid. No matter how tempting. Trust me on this, you won’t regret it.

You know those rom-coms where a man is indecisive about his feelings until his woman suddenly catches the eye of another man? Maybe you’ve played that game in the past with some success? Don’t do that with an Aquarius man. Ever. It will only backfire. He’s game-proof, and he’ll see manipulation coming a mile away.

Don’t provoke his jealousy. 

Don’t try to role-model emotional expression by showing him a dramatic outpouring of feelings. He’ll only get scared away. He doesn’t know how to handle your feelings because your feelings will remind him of his own. I know, that’s the goal, but take small steps.

Here’s What to Do Next

He’s worth it, you know that, but this is just the beginning of an exciting romance that will challenge everything you thought you knew about love. Don’t go it alone—I’m here for you.

If you’re ready to dive deeper and start your journey to unconditional love with your Aquarius man, you can purchase Aquarius Man Secrets right here.

Leave your biggest challenge or question below or share your own success stories! I can’t wait to hear from you!

Your friend and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach

7 thoughts on “How to Get an Aquarius Man to Open Up and Share His Feelings

  1. My Aquarius guy and I met about 2 months ago, we “hit if off” (putting it mildly) from d at y 1, it’s as if we’ve been best friends forever; talking about everything from A -Z and then some.He has shared things with me he says he’s never shared With anyone ever before. Needless to say, I fell fast and hard g or him. Then out of nowhere, he stopped calling and texting, after a couple of days I called him and asked why he was avoiding me. He said that I was so easy to talk to and share things with that it scares him. He called the next day and things picked up right where we left off. A couple of weeks have passed and we’re only texting a little. Why is he going this? HELP!

    1. Hi Shelia!

      He told you that he’s frightened. He is telling you the truth. He got closer to you faster than he wanted to and the idea of how wonderful you are freaks him out. He either thinks that you’re too good to be true or he’s afraid that you’re too good for him and he might mess it up. There are lots of things that run through an Aquarius man’s mind and you should read up more on it. Check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more useful information.

      1. Ironically you are so on point in all the areas. My Aquarius Man is very unique. As a Leo woman I’m strong headed! Knowledge is very powerful and your descriptions are incredibly valuable.

        1. Hi Jen!

          How wonderful! I am so glad to hear that my articles are providing you with useful insight. I value you as client as well sweetheart. I have to tell you though, this is only scratching the surface. You should check out my books on Aquarius Man Secrets! There is even more information that you may find helpful. I wish you all the best!

  2. We have been best friends for years, told me he wanted to marry me someday , came after me like a spider monkey. Then we got ourselves i to a situationship. Sex is amazing. I feel us getting closer but, he will pull back. Way back. The day I think its over , there he is… And we fall back in.
    He said he could only be friends with benefits , I said I cant. I already love him not , possible. He said it would be ok. He wouldnt hurt me and I still believe him.

    He treats me different now, doesnt text me as much but , always texts me whats going on good. Always tells me what hes gonna be up to but, the way he shared with me has changed.

    Im gonna stop taking his swings personally and give him more space when * can tell its needed. He will tell me he wants me around.

    He is worth all of it but, damn it if it isnt a roller coaster ride like no other

    1. Hi Kristin!

      Ah yes, the Aquarius man often does seem like a roller coaster. You’ve got to set boundaries with him. It’s good you told him no to being friends with benefits. Knowing your worth and letting him know that ensures him being unable to use you for sex. He’s afraid right now of the commitment because he doesn’t want to get hurt. My guess is someone really screwed him over before you and so he’s terrified of getting close to someone even though you are the woman of his dreams. Learn more about him via my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.

  3. Pisces woman (March 16) here and WOW, did you describe my Capricorn-Aquarius cusp guy (Jan. 20) to a T. We’ve been friends (more like FWB) for almost 4 years and I feel like I’m still getting to know him. He’s smart as hell, funny, charming and full of innuendos. All of my friends adore him and say it’s obvious he likes me, but I constantly question it because he’s so guarded. I realize he shows his feelings instead of telling, but this is foreign to me! One night, out of nowhere, he blurts out that he has trouble expressing his emotions but he’s working on it. He also mentioned that he’s been told before that he can be hot and cold, which is the understatement of the century!
    I had to learn to stop taking his disappearing acts personally, but it’s so hard, especially with my Pisces emotions. He has opened up more than before, but I still feel like I’m talking into a void some days.
    Thank you for the advice above. I will try and exercise more patience with him.

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