How To Get An Aquarius Man To Commit (7 Amazing Ways)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
If you’re into an Aquarius man and trying to get a deeper relationship; you’re in luck! Here's how to get an Aquarius man to commit...

Hello, my angels! I hope you are all doing really well. An Aquarius man commitment can be a complex issue to navigate. Trust me, I so often hear from my clients asking how to make an Aquarius man to commit and I understand the struggle.

These men are very detached and distant, so it can be really hard to get them to open up and commit to a relationship. This can be so frustrating and make you feel totally unwanted and unimportant.

But it doesn’t have to be like that. The key to getting an Aquarius man to commit lies in understanding his unique personality traits and the approach to take when it comes to building a meaningful connection with him.

In this article I will help you to understand all the ways how to get an Aquarius man to commit to you. So keep on reading to find out how to capture the heart of your independent Aquarius man and create a lasting bond.

Signs An Aquarius Man Is Ready To Commit

If you want to get an Aquarius man to commit, you need to respect their freedom over everything and anything else. They don’t want to necessarily be alone forever but they don’t want to give their free time and space to anyone either.

These men want to do their thing their way and in their timing. The only woman they will settle down with is one that will allow them to maintain the time to themselves that they require.

He’d often rather be by himself than put up with someone not allowing him to do what he wants when he wants. This makes him reluctant to commit to anyone. Knowing this is half the battle for the woman that adores him.

What you need to understand is that it truly ISN’T you much of the time. It IS him. When or if he suspects that you want to hold him back or tie him up in some way, he’ll resent that and run in the other direction.

How To Get An Aquarius Man To Commit (4 Amazing Ways)

Here are some of the best ways on how to get an Aquarius man to commit:

Be Patient And Understanding

The number one thing you can do to get an Aquarius to commit to you possibly is by giving him time and space. I know it may not seem like the easiest thing to do, but the truth is, the Aquarius man takes his time.

This is one of the most difficult out of all the signs to get to commit. It’s not because they don’t want to. It’s because they want to make darned sure of what they’re doing and who they’re doing it with.

Aquarius men do not want to waste their time with someone they think will not work out in the long term. They do not mind having “friends with benefits” or occasional “fun buddies” because they are not emotionally tied.

When they’re ready to settle down, you’ll know it for sure as they will tell you and show you that they want you. To get him to get to that point though, it will be a long road.

Aquarius is in no hurry to jump into a committed relationship. He’d rather wait and possibly lose out on someone than jump the gun and be stuck with someone he knows isn’t right for him.

If you genuinely want the Aquarius guy that you are into; give him some time and be very patient with him. Remember he may not call every single day or reply to every single text you send but as long as you don’t overreact, things will go well.

Enjoy Your Own Freedom

While an Aquarius man appreciates his free time; he’ll still want to see you having a good time when you’re not with him. He wants to see that you can still have a good time with friends, family, or even alone.

A good example would be going out with your friends and at some point in the night sent him a picture of you and your friends together. He’ll love it! He’ll see you’re having a great time without him. And this is exactly how to make an Aquarius man commit.

This will provide him with a bit of security in knowing that you don’t have to be glued to his side to be happy. However, if you keep texting him throughout the night, he’s going to wonder if you’re enjoying yourself or just trying to prove to him you can be out without him.

There is a big difference between the two, and he’d rather know you’re having fun than missing him the whole time. Look at the difference between the two. One way says you care but having fun. The other says you’re out but not having fun because you miss him too much.

One way seems clingy and needy while the other shows you’re independent and can stand on your own two feet.

Aquarius men do not like clingy or needy women. They like women who enjoy having personal freedom just as much as he does. That makes for a better match in the long run. Here’s more about what an Aquarius man likes and dislikes in a woman.

Let Your Confidence Shine

Aquarius men are drawn to women that are just as independent and free as he is. He prefers a woman who exudes confidence in herself and in what she does. This is a turn on for him.

If you find that you’re a bit on the lack of confidence side; you may want to work on yourself. Aquarius men aren’t into broken women who need fixing. They see this as a waste of their time and energy.

If your Aquarius guy has hang-ups; he may also struggle to commit to you. Past things could have him working on himself. So he may be conflicted when it comes to feeling for you.

He may care for you and want to be with you, but he will be honest in telling you he needs to get himself together before he gets into a relationship. You may see this as an Aquarius man sending mixed signals.

As understandable as that may be, he’s still telling you that he isn’t ready for a committed relationship and though he cares for you, he wants to remain, friends, until he can get his head straight.

Be A Strong Communicator

When you two get together, try to have some intense conversation. Whether it’s something personal or something you both enjoy, get him mentally stimulated.

The more intellectually stimulated he is; the better off you’ll be, and the more he’ll feel connected to you. He loves smart people who can relate to him. The more you can show him this aspect of yourself; the more he will appreciate you.

Try taking him on dates to museums, book stores, antique book stores, or some historical sites where there is much information. He will eat this up, and you’ll both have a great time talking about it.

This man loves brainy women — the more information you can share with him, the better. I wouldn’t recommend trying to show off or trying to show him you know more though; that may backfire.

Even if you ARE smarter than him; it may be best to keep that on the down low. Otherwise, he may take it as some sort of insult of his intelligence. Any insult will make him decide to turn his back and go the other way.

3 More Ways to Convince an Aquarius Man…

Here are some of the most profound ways to convince an Aquarius man to commit:

You Let Your Unique Authenticity Come Through

An Aquarius loves everything off-the-wall and whacky – including people! They are one sign who would find the homeless prophet on the street corner to be misunderstood, and they would call the ‘crazy cat ladies’ charming. 

So needless to say, you’re safe to show him all sides of you. The Aquarius is one of the least judgmental signs of the Zodiac and they’re fascinated by the parts of others that society condemns. 

Dress the way you want, do your makeup in clown colors, and take up hunting for Bigfoot in your free time. The Aquarius can handle anything you throw at them! 

Dating the conventionally attractive woman who wants kids and a two-story home in the suburbs was never for them… Let your freak flag fly and you’ll have the Aquarius man asking “where have you been all my life!?”

Always Do Something Unpredictable To Keep Him On His Toes

The Aquarius man is ruled by the rebellious Uranus, which thrives in the arena of sudden upsets and surprises. He is rarely comfortable with the feelings of stagnation and boredom. 

This may sound paradoxical, but he really needs to have a lot of upheavals in a relationship to feel stable in one. If enough is moving and evolving in the relationship, then he’ll feel that there is a future in it. 

If you want to keep an Aquarius truly enticed, then make sure that the two of you are always striving for stronger communication, better chemistry, and a happier partnership. 

This is change manifesting positively, which will strengthen the bond for both of you rather than just creating drama to scratch the itch of excitement. 

You can also ensure the spark is kept alive by scheduling unexpected dates, trying new things in the bedroom, and making every day feel like a mini-adventure. 

This is the type of environment an Aquarius thrives in, so I can guarantee that he’ll stay totally committed to the woman who can accommodate his need for novelty in romantic relationships!

Show Him That You Trust Him

There are certain people that on some level enjoy the possessiveness of their partner because it makes them feel loved… that simply won’t fly with an Aquarius. He’s too free-spirited to be contained for any amount of time.

This isn’t to say the Aquarius man is a cheater. In fact, once he’s found his one true love, he tends to stay put and nix the flirtatious nature! So, he just needs to feel trusted. 

He knows he is loyal and he won’t tolerate a partner that doesn’t see that! He is steadfast with his partners until the end – as long as mutual trust and good faith is present between the two of them.

An Aquarius who is given room to roam and total trust is going to flourish and blossom, and he’ll have no reason to leave you. He’ll be wrapped around your finger as long as he’s given the green light to do what he wants (within reason!).

How To Know If An Aquarius Man Is Serious About You

The Aquarius man, who is known for his unpredictable nature, thrives on spontaneity and upheavals in a relationship to feel stable. He is quite addicted to the chaos and excitement that comes with change.

Which can make it tricky to gauge how he feels for you and if he does feel something serious towards you. One of the ways you can tell if an Aquarius man is serious about you is by observing his actions.

He may not be one to profess his love in grand romantic gestures, but an Aquarius man who is serious about you will show it through consistent actions that demonstrate his commitment to you and the relationship.

Most importantly, he will make you a priority in his life and be willing to make compromises to accommodate your needs. It can be difficult for him to do this, but his willingness is definitely a great sign that he is serious about you.

Don’t expect grand declarations of love as he is too cool for this, rather, pay attention to the consistent and thoughtful ways he shows his care and commitment and if he has a continuing presence in your life. Him showing up is him showing he is serious about you.

FAQ About Aquarius Man Commitment:

Here are some frequently asked questions about an Aquarius man’s commitment:

How Long Does It Take An Aquarius Man To Commit?

An Aquarius man usually takes a while to step into commitment because he is not very fond of giving up his freedom and independence.

The process of commitment for an Aquarius man is not rushed. He will definitely take his time, and it may feel very confusing to you, as Aquarius men often make the habit of leaning on friendship first and seeing where that goes.

This can make it hard to discern if you are just a friend to him or if he genuinely sees a future with you. So take things slow with him, cultivate a strong friendship, and let the commitment develop naturally over time.

You may also want to readHow To Get An Aquarius Man To Open Up Emotionally

Will An Aquarius Man Ever Commit?

An Aquarius man is not commitment-phobic, but he does value his independence and freedom. It may take longer for an Aquarius man to commit compared to other zodiac signs, but he can commit, it just takes a while for him to feel confident in the decision.

Read nextHow To Deal With An Aquarius Man That Is Distancing Himself

Is Your Aquarius Man Avoiding Commitment?

Does your Aquarius man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection?

Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?

Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.

And both are caused by childhood trauma…

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Click here to turn things around with your Aquarius man in 30 days or less.

Sending you love and light, 

Anna Kovach x

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6 thoughts on “How To Get An Aquarius Man To Commit (7 Amazing Ways)

  1. I’ve known a guy I’ve always liked for 7 years. He is an Aquarius. We can go months without talking, then circle back to each other all the time. We went on a trip with his friends. Since then he’s been distant. What can I do to get thin to open up? Or will I have to be the one to initiate a serious conversation about our future.

  2. This blog on getting an Aquarius man to commit is a gem! The insights and advice provided are not only practical but also deeply insightful into the unique characteristics of Aquarius men. The tips are presented in a way that’s both informative and engaging, making it a must-read for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships with Aquarius partners. Thanks for shedding light on this topic with such clarity and wisdom!

  3. This article is totally spot on in describing my Aquarius guy boyfriend of 8 years now. I am a very adjustable and understanding Gemini gal– who picked up on a lot of these characteristics. Just like him– I take my time in relationships and value and need my alone free time. And also love learning things and being spontaneous as well. We have our groove down in our relationship. Thank you for this very thorough and informative article😊!

    1. Dear Davia,
      This is a stellar opportunity for love and friendship to flourish! Both Aquarius and Gemini are air signs, making them like-minded.
      Gemini can be a misunderstood sign, but Gemini will definitely find a friend and ally in Aquarius. Aquarius finds it easy to get along with most people but will be particularly drawn to Gemini.
      Both Aquarius man and Gemini woman are unconventional and they can form a compatible union based on their sharp wit, adventurousness, and desire for freedom.
      I hope all goes well for you both! Sending Love.

  4. I’m in love with an Aquarius man . It’s been 4 years that we met. It was love at first site for us both . The problem is I’m married . He is also my husband’s friend. We want each so bad but we can’t get to close . He always blocks me then unblocks me . I also just found out that he is actually obsessed with me. Long story , but believe me it’s true . I think about him all the time . He always goes away for a bit when things get a little too serious with us . Then he comes back asking me to hang out with him . Then when we do decide on a date he always cancels. I’m going crazy about everything in my life , Especially when it comes to Mr Aquarius . I’m so torn and lost in my life. I still love my husband so much and never want to hurt him . I have fallen deeply in love with Mr Aquarius. Help me please

    1. Hello Confused,
      Act a little unpredictable yourself, like scheduling a date he would never expect from you.
      One thing is for sure, Aquarius man is here to challenge you and to help you grow. So, you might as well think outside the box and push your own set of boundaries. Be unique and embrace your authentic self. Challenge his opinion, because they enjoy the “chase”, and it’s fun for them. Aquarius man likes debating and enjoys mental challenges!
      Try to define what you want and how your life would look like should you leave your husband. It is OK to flirt but you have to know your limits.
      I hope all goes well for you.

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