How To Deal With An Aquarius Man That Is Distancing Himself (11 Ways)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Whatever the case may be, keep reading for some important tips on how to deal with an Aquarius man that is distancing himself.

Hi, my gorgeous ladies! Knowing how to deal with an Aquarius man that is distancing himself can be really confusing. The first thing you need to understand about these men is that they are a little detached and aloof by nature. 

This is just who they are, so sometimes their behaviour can appear to be a little strange to others. This is especially the case if you are dating one of these glorious guys, romantically they can be a little out of the box, never acting the normal way one would expect. 

An Aquarius man distancing himself is kind of something you will have to get used to if you want to be in a relationship with him. Seeing as this is part of his personality, there is nothing you can really do about it except that this is sort of who he is as a person. 

However, sometimes Aquarius men do distance themselves for other reasons such as no longer wanting to continue the relationship, feeling overwhelmed, or being emotionally unavailable.

If you find yourself in a situation where an Aquarius man is distancing himself, here are 11 ways to deal with it. Keep reading to find out exactly what to do with an Aquarius man that is distancing.

4 Reasons Why An Aquarius Man Is Distancing Himself

Something Is Going On In His Personal Life

Sometimes when an Aquarius man seems to pull back or disappear, it’s due to him having to cope with something going on in his life that has nothing to do with his partner.

He’s a private type of guy, and if it’s something personal that he’s not yet ready to discuss, he will pull back, he will withhold information, and will seem as though he’s keeping secrets.

It’s not that he wants to hurt you or make you feel excluded, but if he’s not yet close enough to you to open up about whatever this is, he’ll tend to pull back for a while so he can handle his issues.

Typically when this happens, he’ll come back around and apologize for his lack of attention, and he may explain it. I’ve had clients write to me about this type of thing, and they report back to me saying that he told them and all is well.

So there is always that chance that he has to deal with something outside of what he has with you and doesn’t want to talk about it, bother you with it, or feel it’s best to take care of it on his own.

Aquarius man is very independent and that is why he will want to take care of his problems. It’s nothing personal, and unless you two are in a committed relationship or engaged, then you shouldn’t worry if this is the case.

Here’s more on how to get an Aquarius man to open up emotionally.

He Feels Suffocated Or Tied Down

This is a big problem that can make for an Aquarius man distancing himself. Often, women will want him to commit himself to them quite quickly, and he’s not that type of guy. He wants to take his time and make sure of who is getting involved with.

That being said, he will respond badly to a woman who is pressuring him for more, is making him feel guilty for not spending more time with her, and makes him feel he has no more personal freedom.

The thing is, an Aquarius man is one who is an advocate for personal freedom. He has to have it; otherwise, he feels chained down, and he will eventually break free and force freedom.

Sometimes when the Aquarius man ghosts you after being so close to you for a while, he may need a breather so that he can reclaim his freedom. I’m not saying that he’s breaking it off.

I’m saying that he has to allow himself to have time without you or anyone else breathing down his neck. He wants to do his own thing, in his timing, and in his way.

Something Happened From Your End

There is always the case of you hurting or pissing the Aquarius man off. It makes him re-think everything and wonder if you’re even someone he can see a future with or not.

You may have said something or done something that you’re not even aware of. This will make him pull back and try to think things over. He may not want any contact with you while he does this, thus you’ll deal with a distant Aquarius man.

Then again, he may, at this point, decide that he’s done and pull out all the way. Eventually, he’ll tell you why and give you closure but sadly, he’s not going to volunteer that information right away.

He will want to give himself some time to make sure of his decision and figure out what he wants to do from there. During this time, you’ll probably try to message him or call him, and you find him to be unresponsive.

He Needs Time To Process The Changes

An Aquarius man isn’t the most comfortable when it comes to romantic relationships. This is a man who values his independence and freedom. It isn’t always easy for him to commit fully and understand his own emotions.

Sometimes he just needs some time to process what is going on and to evaluate his feelings. This requires some patience, do try not to take this too personally, as he just needs some space.

He knows that he cannot talk to you while his mind isn’t right. He ultimately doesn’t want to hurt you, but he doesn’t want to lead you on either if he feels that maybe this relationship has reached its end.

In the event he decides you’re not right for him, he will evaluate the relationship. In doing so, you’ll either hear from him thus telling you what’s going on or he’ll disappear for good with no word.

If you’ve tried for months to get a hold of him, it’s probably time to hang it up and let him go because if he goes that long, he’s not willing to go back or work on it. He’s also taking the cowardly way out by not telling you.

Read alsoHow To Know If An Aquarius Man Is Serious About You (Obvious Signs)

How To Deal With An Aquarius Man That Is Distancing (7 Ways)

Dealing with an Aquarius man who is distancing himself can be a challenging and confusing situation. Here are 7 ways to deal with an Aquarius man that is distancing himself:

Give Him Space

When an Aquarius man starts distancing himself, it might be tempting to chase after him and try to get him to open up. You might send him a barrage of texts and calls, hoping for a response. But this is exactly the opposite of what you should do. 

The most important thing you should do right now is give him some space and time to process his emotions and thoughts. If you put too much pressure on him to communicate or give an immediate response, he may feel overwhelmed and retreat even further. 

The more space you give him, the more likely he will be to come back to you when he feels ready. He will appreciate your maturity and the fact that you didn’t put any pressure on him during this time.

Reel Your Energy Back

While it isn’t always easy to do when you have a crush on someone, or even when you’re developing deep feelings for a man. But when an Aquarius man is distancing himself, it’s important to reel your energy back and focus on yourself. 

You need to invest more time on yourself, girl. Instead of worrying about what he’s thinking or doing, focus on your own personal growth, hobbies, and self-care. 

At the end of the day, a man should only be the cherry on top of your own beautiful life, if he is the sole reason why your world spins in orbit, then you may be putting too much pressure on the relationship.

Don’t Take It Personally

When an Aquarius man is distancing himself I know that it can be so tempting to think that you did something wrong and that it is your fault that he’s pulling away. However, you need to remember that ANYONE’s behaviour is a reflection of themself, and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. 

I am very aware of how easy it can be to put your self-worth and confidence in the hands of a man, but it is really important that you catch yourself from doing this. You will only make yourself feel bad by taking his distancing personally. 

As long as you are yourself, and aren’t pretending to be someone else, no one can fault you, including this Aquarius man. So please don’t take it personally, you aren’t doing yourself a favour by going into self-blame.

Approach Him With Logic

Aquarius men really struggle with their emotions, they sometimes don’t understand what it is they are feeling. This is when they become super overwhelmed and may distance themselves as a coping mechanism. 

They feel a lot more comfortable just dealing with matters logically and rationally rather than emotionally. So, when an Aquarius man is distancing himself, it might be helpful to approach him with logic. 

Don’t get too caught up in your emotions, even though I know this is very easy to do. Instead, try to have open and calm conversations with him, focusing on problem-solving and understanding his perspective. 

Just speak about the facts and avoid bringing in any emotional or accusatory language. The last thing you want to do is trigger his flight response ever more by coming across as confrontational or overly emotional.

Here’s how to communicate with an Aquarius man properly.

Try To Be Understanding

When your Aquarius man is distancing himself it can easily make you feel that you are in the wrong or that you may have done something to upset him. However, it is important to remember that Aquarius men have their own unique way of handling emotions and relationships. 

If you can, try your best to be understanding of his need for space and independence. There is a reason why he is being avoidant, and it isn’t necessarily your fault. Many different factors could be contributing such as things going on at work or personal issues that he may be dealing with within his family. 

Try not to assume that his distance is solely because of something you’ve done. By being understanding and empathetic towards his need for space, you can create a safe and non-judgmental environment for him to open up if and when he feels ready to do so.

Talk To Him

When an Aquarius man is distancing himself, it’s important to have open and honest communication with him. Of course, he needs to be willing and able, but if the two of you have been together for a while now, then you are very much in your right to express your concerns and ask for clarity. 

You deserve to be with someone who can communicate their feelings and intentions with you. One way to approach the conversation is by expressing your observations and feelings without being confrontational or accusatory.

I think it is best to take a few days to just calm yourself because I know that these situations can be very triggering and emotionally challenging. So it is better to do this when you have a clear head and do not feel too emotionally triggered. Be clear about what your needs are and how you feel when he behaves this way.

Reach Out For Help

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure of how to handle an Aquarius man who is distancing himself, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. You don’t have to go through this process on your own, even if you just vent to a friend about the way you are feeling, it can provide you with some clarity and support. 

Another option is to speak to a professional such as a therapist who can provide guidance and insight into navigating relationship challenges. Don’t be afraid of telling people how you feel, this is a situation that can feel really isolating and confusing. You definitely have the right to ask for help and seek guidance from those you trust.

4 More Tips On How To Reconnect With An Aquarius Man

When things are going awry with you and your Aquarius man it can feel really frustrating, like you don’t know what to do or how to reconnect with him. It isn’t easy, and you might feel stuck in a trap not knowing how to break free.

Knowing how to deal with an Aquarius man that is distancing himself is the only way to navigate this situation. An Aquarius man distancing himself is doing this for a reason, and it’s important to respect his need for space and independence.

However, if you want to try and reconnect with an Aquarius man who is distancing himself, here are 4 tips that may help:

  1. Give him some time and space to reflect and recharge.
  2. Focus on yourself and your own goals.
  3. Try not to take his distancing personally or as a reflection of your worth.
  4. Communicate your feelings and concerns openly and honestly, without judgment or blame.

Aquarius Man Suddenly Becomes Distant After Intimacy — What Should I Do?

If an Aquarius man suddenly becomes distant after intimacy, it can be quite confusing and disheartening. Maybe you felt like you finally connected with him on a deeper level, but now that you have slept with him, it feels confusing and uncertain. 

You need to remember that closeness feels quite threatening to an Aquarius man, especially when it comes to emotional intimacy. He just doesn’t view things like we women do, and he may need some time and space to process his emotions and regain his independence. 

Aquarius men aren’t always the best at romantic relationships and can become a little weird around sex. So if you have just slept with him for the first time, it’s important to keep these things in mind and approach the situation with patience and understanding. 

The best thing is just to give him some space and don’t appear too needy or clingy. Take your power back and don’t let his actions control you.

You may also want to readAn Aquarius Man Disappears And Comes Back — Now What?

When An Aquarius Man Disappears After Intimacy, Here’s What To Do…

Does your Aquarius man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment…

Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment, but get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.

And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…

What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.

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This will stop an Aquarius man from distancing himself when you two begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

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11 thoughts on “How To Deal With An Aquarius Man That Is Distancing Himself (11 Ways)

  1. Hi
    I am 42 libran female. I have an aquarian Male friend.We share a good bond.He has often said I am a special friend in his life and we share a great physical intimacy. We are together for 8 months now.Two days back he got to know that I had shared his chats with my friends and that made him angry on me and I was also insecure about his growing connection with a friend of mine so asked him to give me a commitment…all this made him furious and he said …leave me for sometime or it will break….
    Help me out how to deal with it…
    He is precious for me and I want him to be there in my life for lifetime.

    1. I live in Mo and he in Ca. I talked to an Aquarius man for eight months Jan-Aug last year. I got the Aquarius Man Secrets. We were becoming very close, texted or talked almost every day. We talked of visiting each other several times. He suddenly ghosted me with no explanation, not returning texts or calls. Then I gave up, heartbroken. Never heard a word.
      Now I’m dating a Capricorn man here where I live, for 5 months, see each other nearly every day. He’s been attentive and caring, no intimacy yet but confusing as well. Lately he’s been uncommunicative with no answers. I really care for him. I can’t spend money again to order Capricorn Secrets. Any way you can help me? At least stop sending info on
      Aquarius and send Capricorn instead. I need help. Please 🙏

      1. Dear Linda,

        Sure, we will make a switch from an Aquarius to a Capricorn mailing list. A Capricorn man strives to be one of those “down to earth” types of guys. He wants you to feel comfortable when you’re around him. He won’t make a big deal out of anything.

        He will be relaxed and allow you to talk about anything under the sun. Whatever you do; make sure that you are always truthful. Being on the level with him will be the best way to handle growing something special with him.

        Communication should always be a priority if you want it to work with a Capricorn man. Make sure that you logically tell him what you want and he’ll work to try to provide it to you.
        Best of luck to you both!

  2. I just started dating an Aquarius man and its been a rollercoaster already and it’s only been 2 wks! He came on hot and heavy with the compliments, texts, calls, video chats like I couldn’t even breathe but I loved it. He was attentive said he was dating with purpose. He planned a romantic first date and things started to kind of turn very intimate fast. I was hoping that was not all he was about but I also loved feeling desired. We ended up having sex and now he is pretty distant. No more pet names, compliments and constant communication just a few basic texts daily. I miss the person I met and don’t know what to do. I asked him how he thought things were going and he said good, great pace and that no one was rushing the other person into anything. Help!

    1. Hi Kristy!

      Yes, Aquarius can be roller coaster like indeed. They aren’t consistent. It’s because they always have a lot on their mind. They do too much and get tired. They get bored or they find that they need to pay attention to other facets of their life. They are excited in the beginning then they start to calm down to be more normalized but for women, it seems they’re being cold. Tell him how you feel about this and he should actually be able to tell you why he’s pulled back a bit. He’s right, Aquarius doesn’t rush. I think you’ll be fine sweetheart. Just be patient with him.

  3. Aquarius men can be so frustrating. I been with an aquarius man for almost eight long years and he is just now committed to me. I’ve learned one thing that always works. It’s to imitate them, if he acts distant, you be distant. They need to feel that you don’t rely on them too much emotionally. Always have them communicate first. Do not try to do it first, there will be just crickets and the more you push the longer the disappearing will be. He’ll come back faster if you imitate. Then just to make sure he doesn’t do it again, just go off the grid for a while. When my man starts to slow down on the texts. I stop all communication for a couple days, until he starts to worry and contacts me, then I wait awhile to respond.

    1. Hi Amanda!

      Yes they certainly be frustrating. I totally agree with you! Thank you for chiming in as I appreciate feedback. Yes with Aquarius when you go silent, they wonder what is going on and then will reach out IF they care. I would like to say though that if he slows down on texts you should probably tell him how you feel about that instead of right away going quiet. Perhaps if he knows you don’t like it and it makes you worry, he’ll actually make changes or do better. Slowing down on texting shouldn’t be an end all be all though. Think about when we didn’t have cell phones. I wish you all the best with your Aquarius man Amanda!

  4. Hello, Anna,
    I’ve had a relationship of 3 very intense and passionate months with an Aquarian, after which he broke up with me, very abruptly and violently and without wanting any conversation or therapy or any solution that I suggested, like starting to live separately. We were very happy during the first 2 months of the relationship. He claimed he was unbelievably lucky to have met me and to not have been so happy since the birth of his second child. We had been living together, because he insisted I move in with him after just 1 month. 3 weeks into the relationship he introduced me to his children (10 and 13, he is separated, but not yet divorced), after one more week to his family and then he said :I love you” and “Move in with me”. I thought these grand gestures were in earnest and proofs he was very serious and comitted, as he claimed to be. Almost 2 months into the relationship, my mother fell ill abruptly and then died. He showed no compassion or empathy whatsoever and 10 days after her death he broke up with me and asked me to move out. I had barely accomodated all my things and had bately started feeling home with himin his appt. Because my relationship with my mother had always been difficult and strained, her illness triggered me deeply and I started feeling a deep fear of abandonment (my father died 3 yrs ago and I have no siblings and no other family except a close cousin) and became needy and suffocating. In response, he started being verbally and emotionally abusive and the horror cycle of the anxious and avoidant couple began. He was rude, acting hot and cold, distancing himself and then, as I said, he showed no empathy when my mother passed away.
    I was devastated by the break up, confused and utterly vulnerable and it hurts to say that it pained me more than my mother’s death which I completely blocked for some time in order to focus only on how to get him back. Intimacy was fantastic between us, intelectually we were great together, although there were disagreements about several topics and we had different visions on the world, minorities, women’s rights and value and so on. Emotionally, I had believed his promises and love declarations and I thought we had found love in each other. We are both 46 and we’ve been apart 5 months now. He is in total no contact, blocked me everywhere and threatened me with the police if I come close to him again. I don’t know what to do, I am heartbroken, very depressed and I miss him a lot. What can I do to make him come back and to break this wall of hatred and rejection I keep bumping into whenever I try to communicate with him? He thinks and says the worst about me, he swore at me very badly many times and he records me on camera everytime we meet in the street (we live in the same neighbourhood). Is there a chance to make him change his mind about me and the relationship and to get back together? (My birthday is September 15, 1977, 6 am, his is January 23, 1978, I don t know his birth time). I would very much appreciate your help and not just an answer about letting go or moving on, which is a scenario that makes me feel very sad and depressed. Thank you so much, Laura

    1. Dear Laura,
      Thank you for your question and sorry to keep you waiting.
      I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences.
      Coping with our losses represents our biggest life challenge.
      It takes time to process the loss of a loved one and on top of that, you Aquarius man showed no compassion and empathy for the hard period you’ve experienced.
      To majority of women this would simply be an unacceptable behavior, but if you really want him back, then space in general is never a bad idea when dealing with an Aquarius man. He needs copious amounts of it, whether he is in a relationship or not. Without space, this guy will go insane, no doubt!
      This is also a very useful trick to use when you want to get your Aquarius ex back, but this usually only works right after the break up so you need to time this properly.
      if you don’t have contact with him, if he has blocked your number, you should carefully consider if you want him in your life.
      You need to appreciate and love yourself so much to the point that your energy rejects anyone who doesn’t know your worth.
      Always remember, you deserve to be loved and respected.
      Best of luck to you!

  5. I my self was dating a Aquarius man ,he broke up with me about1 month and 1/2 ago and then was with another women talks to me about just now wouldn’t talk to me for some time we got together on Monday and had sex then nothing rxr is short with him idk what to do because I love him and now not sure what to do I can’t keep letting him in and out on min he says he loves me but goes for someone else now he’s not talking to me hardly and when I ask if he wants to do something with me there’s always an excuse

    1. Hi Barbara,
      There are certain people that on some level enjoy the possessiveness of their partner because it makes them feel loved… that simply won’t fly with an Aquarius. He’s too free-spirited to be contained for any amount of time.
      This isn’t to say the Aquarius man is a cheater. In fact, once he’s found his one true love, he tends to stay put and nix the flirtatious nature! So, he just needs to feel trusted.
      He knows he is loyal and he won’t tolerate a partner that doesn’t see that! He is steadfast with his partners until the end – as long as mutual trust and good faith is present between the two of them.
      An Aquarius who is given room to roam and total trust is going to flourish and blossom, and he’ll have no reason to leave you. He’ll be wrapped around your finger as long as he’s given the green light to do what he wants (within reason!).
      Best of luck to you!

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