Aquarius Man Disappears And Comes Back — Now What?

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Just when you think you have him figured out, he goes completely silent. Here is why your Aquarius man suddenly disappears and what to do about it.

All seems well at first, and then your Aquarius man disappears. Many questions tend to run into your mind when an Aquarius man disappears without an explanation. The first question that comes in is “Why do Aquarius disappear?”

There are all kinds of reasons why do Aquarius disappear? This behavior is very much linked to their super elusive personalities. It can be rather difficult to tie these men down as freedom and autonomy is their most important desires in life. 

You’re probably wondering why does an Aquarius man disappear and come back? And if this is something you need to get used to if you want to be in a relationship with this man?

Let us break down all the reasons why Aquarius men disappear and what you need to understand about it. Keep on reading to find out all the possible reasons why an Aquarius man disappear and come back.

Aquarius Man Disappearing Act

Aquarius men can come across as extremely aloof and distant. This is because they aren’t very emotional by nature, these gentlemen operate solely on a level of intelligence and intellect. They are extremely rational and logical and this is what motivates them primarily. 

This is often the reason why an Aquarius man will disappear so please don’t take his behavior personally as this has nothing to do with you. This is just a reflection of his own personality. 

An Aquarius man’s disappearing act can be related to many different factors, so here are some you need to keep in mind:

Why Do Aquarius Disappear — 5 Possible Reasons

1. His Freedom Feels Stifled

An Aquarius man will never allow himself to be encroached upon or robbed of his freedom if he feels it has been taken away from him. It can sometimes be necessary to cut off a partner’s access to texting, calling, and spending time together in order to accomplish that.

Although he doesn’t necessarily want to break up, he’s trying to teach his partner how to treat him. Basically, what that means is that he wants more freedom in his life. When you don’t ease up, he’s going to show you how he’s going to handle it if you don’t do the same.

Related: What is an Aquarius man like when in love? What is his love language?

2. You Come Across To Clingy

In my experience, Aquarius men tend to prefer independent women who do not need to constantly be attached to him at all times. When he senses that you’ve started obsessing about him, or you’ve been spending all your time with him, he’ll be ready to back off or walk away depending on how bad he thinks it is going to be.

As a result, he would go radio silent, which would eventually result in the end of the relationship.

3. He Feels Incompatible

In some cases, if an Aquarius man decides his current partner isn’t the best match for him, he will pull back to think about the situation some more before committing himself to it. 

Unfortunately, this makes the partner feel that he is cold and has broken it off due to the fact that he seems to be cut off and aloof. There are times when that is true and there are times when it isn’t. In order for him to be able to determine if this person is the one for him or if he should give up on this process, he has to take inventory.

Wondering why your Aquarius man is ignoring you? Check out here.

4. He Only Answers To Himself

Aquarius believes that he is his own man and will go to great lengths in order to prove that to himself. In his opinion, he feels that he shouldn’t have to explain himself to his partner or tell her what he is doing, when he is doing it, or with whom he is doing it.

Most partners find this uncomfortable, but he will push the limits in order to see if the supposed partner is really who he claims to be. It’s then that he decides whether or not she’s a keeper and whether or not she’s worth keeping.

It seems that none of these appear to be very good reasons for an Aquarius man to pull away at this point in time. Unfortunately, this is how they think, and how they operate as well.

It is important if you are in a relationship with an Aquarius, to realize that he may pull a disappearing act from time to time. Don’t let your emotions get the better of you. He will use this as a reason to argue with you or break up with you if you do that.

It is up to you to go about your business and do your own thing. In this way, he will be less concerned with trying to prove his point to you, and more concerned with enjoying the partnership with you.

If you have been wondering whether your Aquarius man is playing you and is not interested in a serious relationship, check it out here.

5. He Prefers Rational Communication

There is something special about the Aquarius man compared to most other men. He doesn’t think the same way they do nor does he talk like anyone else. Aquarius man is a bit unique. He has a very detached approach typically.

As a result, you may get the impression that he is being cold or keeping you at a distance. He really doesn’t want to be seen as a hard-ass, he just wants to make sure that there is not going to be too much emotion involved in the process.

In his mind, emotions can tarnish the message that he is trying to convey. According to him, you should be able to sit and have a discussion about anything without having any sort of emotion attached to it, even if you are discussing something that you feel deeply about.

If you’re going to talk with your Aquarius man, the best approach to take is to do it in an intellectual manner as opposed to feeling your way through it when it’s time to do it. The best thing you can do is to learn to detach from the situation so that you don’t react, cry, yell, or become visibly shaken.

There is a possibility that he will shut down when he sees you’re too emotionally charged, which means he will not be able to comprehend or hear what you’re saying.

Watch this video to learn some more reasons why Aquarius man disappears and comes back:

Why An Aquarius Man Suddenly Disappears When Everything Seems To Be Going Well?

Emotions really confuse the Aquarius man because for him everything can be understood through the lens of intellect and logic. So when he starts to feel like he is falling for a woman, dealing with those emotions can really confuse him. 

This is another possible reason why an Aquarius man will suddenly disappear, especially when it felt to you like things were going really well between the two of you. It is so confusing!

This is when I would advise you to take a step back and focus on your own happiness otherwise you might get in the way of his process and push him even further away.

If you have had enough dealing with his going hot and cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Aquarius Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Aquarius guy.

An Aquarius Man Disappears And Comes Back — Now What?

You might wonder “Will an Aquarius man come back after disappearing?” And the answer really depends on your unique situation. If you let him go and just let him be then chances are really good that he will come back. 

However, if you hound him down and try to constantly get his attention then he is going to be quite unhappy and run away because you aren’t giving him the space he needs to figure out how he is feeling. 

But, if he does come back then it is really important that you speak your mind and tell him that you are not okay with someone who acts so inconsistently in your life. Give him an ultimatum by letting him know that your door isn’t always going to be open for him.

Remember to speak with confidence and definitely don’t pretend as if nothing happened. You need to put your boundaries in place so that he knows that you are no pushover.

Aquarius Man Acts Interested Then Disappears — What Should I Do?

It is so frustrating dealing with a hot and cold Aquarius man. I can understand why you might feel extremely confused and frustrated by the situation. My biggest advice for you is to take a step back. 

Don’t put too much energy into him and don’t go chasing him around as this is one way to scare him off for sure. Lean into your feminine energy and stop chasing him. Ask yourself, what and why are you chasing him? Is it a feeling he gives you?

Come back to yourself and do some nice things for yourself. The most important thing you can do is to choose you by showing up in a way that you can respect yourself.

It can be easy to abandon yourself when you have feelings for someone, but take him off the pedestal and put yourself up there. It is important that you build your own confidence so that situations like this no longer shake you to your core.

If he reappears then you can calmly ask him for clarity because while he disappears I guess there is a lot of assumptions you are making that might be hurting you more than you know. 


Here are some more burning questions you might have regarding your Aquarius man and why he might be disappearing:

What Happens If You Disappear On An Aquarius Man?

If you have had enough of your Aquarius man’s hot and cold nature then you might have considered disappearing on him yourself, and frankly, this may not be a very bad idea. 

When you focus on yourself and give your Aquarius man some space he will start to wonder where you are and what you are doing. He might reach out and try to see you. Just be prepared that this may take longer than you anticipate – they have a different clock than us women. 

Allow him to come to you, and if he doesn’t then you also know that this is probably not the guy for you!

Why Do Aquarius Men Disappear Instead Of Breaking Up?

Some Aquarius men can actually be pretty immature and childish. This is because they don’t always understand emotions and it can be difficult for them to relate to what you are feeling. 

Also, emotions and feelings scare them so much and they know that often with a breakup a lot of emotions are involved. They would much rather avoid this and this is often why they disappear unfortunately!

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XOXO, Anna

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6 thoughts on “Aquarius Man Disappears And Comes Back — Now What?

  1. I’ve been dating an Aquarius man for about 7 months. He is currently on a disappearing act we only spoke once about him not being able to make it to an event. He said he was gonna call to talk about it but it was just a text instead. Before he disappeared he said don’t get mad if he takes a while to respond due to work. I don’t understand what’s going on

  2. Dear Lana , I am an Aquarius , send him a text asking him if there’s anything you might have said or done that has gotten on his wrong side just for the sake of clarity . At first he might say nothing at all but give him some time you will be shocked at what he might say when he points it out . He might not want to hurt you which is why he isn’t saying anything . But if you ask he will on his own

    1. Hi Tay!

      It’s true he doesn’t want to hurt someone but he also withholds the truth because he feels that most people aren’t ready to hear it. He will just hold it in until someone actually asks then he’ll tell them. This is absolutely a normal Aquarius thing which I’m sure you understand if you are also Aquarius. Thank you for your input as an Aquarius though. I really do value and appreciate you chiming in. Blessings to you!

  3. Good luck. These men tend to disappear when their feelings are hurt over the most innocuous comments or constructive criticism. In other words they are famous for their passive aggressive tantrums. I wouldn’t count on growing old with any man who falls under this sign. It’s better to deal with a man who isn’t so easily hurt and can man up and work things out without running away.

    1. Hi Sheri!

      Well, yes they can disappear if they are upset but that doesn’t mean they’ll stay in hiding particularly if they are in love. I know Aquarius men who have met their “life partner” and are doing quite well. You cannot write them all off because of a few bad eggs. All Aquarius men are not exactly the same. It really works better to know their chart work up to know how stable or unstable they are. Check out my series “Aquarius Man Secrets”.

  4. Ugh, I was supposed to be going to see my Aquarius man, booked the train tickets (long distance relationship) we were great talking about how much we were looking forward to seeing each other, then 5 days before I was due to travel, BAM! He went quiet on me. I asked him if he still wanted me to come, he said he thought “I” was having second thoughts(!) I played it cool, left it up to him to decide and he told me not to come. Grrrrr! He drives me CRAZY! 🤬🤬💔💔

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