How To Talk To An Aquarius Man — Dos And Don’ts

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
If you’re interested in an Aqua guy and unsure how to talk to him, here are great tips on how to communicate with an Aquarius man...

Once you befriend an Aquarius man, you won’t have many reasons to turn away from him. All you need to learn is how to talk to an Aquarius man, and you will be on the right track. An Aquarius man communication style is intuitive, open, and original.

Aquarius men do have their ups and downs, but the downsides to them are very limited. They are amazing, and if you have a chance to be close to one, don’t take it for granted; it might be one of the best relationships you’ll ever have.

If you are struggling to understand how Aquarius men communicate, then you have come to the right place. Keep reading to find out more about how to communicate with an Aquarius man.

What Do Aquarius Like To Talk About?

If you are wondering about Aquarius man communication style, let me tell you that it is unique and analytical on the one hand and intellectual and detached on the other. He values logic and objectivity and prefers to deal with conflicts in a rational manner, relying on logical reasoning rather than emotional responses.

An Aquarius man is an independent thinker. He is open-minded and loves to explore new concepts and ideas. He likes to talk about social issues, innovative technologies, personal growth, and travel experiences.

What an Aquarius man really enjoys talking about are intellectual debates that stimulate his mind. He may seem emotionally detached with strong defense mechanisms, but he has an amazing personality.

Learn more about how to get an Aquarius man to open up and share his true feelings with you <<

5 Tips On How To Talk To An Aquarius Man

1. He Likes Intellectual Stimulation

It’s important that you understand that the Aquarius man is a brainy guy. Even if he may not seem like it at times; he’s as sharp as a tack. He’s also terribly funny and loves a sense of adventure.

Getting the Aquarius man’s attention requires beauty. I don’t just mean your outer appearance. However; I would suggest looking your best at all times around him. He appreciates this in a woman.

He will also want to see your inner beauty. To do that, you’ll need to talk to him and make it apparent. How do you do that? Well, it’s simple really, be yourself! Aquarius men do not like plastic women.

Besides, it would be a huge disappointment for him to think you’re intelligent and well-informed to find out that you’re just faking it. He’d drop you in a heartbeat if that were the case.

Talk to him about interesting things you really love and are passionate about or things that he also likes. He will like talking to you as it will captivate him.

If you can secure his intellect; you can work at securing other facets that are the Aquarius man. Doing this will take time so I warn you, have patience because he is in absolutely no hurry.

2. Going With The Flow Is Important

Because this man is in no natural hurry,  you’ll want to be more relaxed when you talk to him. When he calls you up; though you may be excited; try to act as though you’re sitting on a beach sipping margaritas.

Answering the phone as if you’re having a good ole time, will make him feel that you’re a “live in the moment” type of gal. He will love this! The last thing he wants to feel is pressure.

If your Aquarius man asks you to go out and do something, be open to what he wants to do. I’m not saying it has to all be his way. I am saying though, if you are open to what he wants to do, he’ll be more open to you later on.

Also if you’re out and about somewhere with him and he spontaneously wants to do something different; give it a try! This man is adventurous and sometimes comes up with some really fun things to do.

The more you are receptive to his ideas, the more he’ll want to show you a good time. This is fantastic if you want him to get closer to you or get to know you on a deeper level.

Aquarius men have a very specific love languages. Actually, I have covered his entire Astrology love profile in my Aquarius Love Language guide. I suggest you get your copy if you really want to master his love language and finally connect with him in the right way.

So, when you’re talking to your Aquarius, go with the flow of the conversation. Be yourself but be relaxed. Share your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. That you can be excited about, he’ll want to see this.

The more he knows you’re independent and that you go with the flow, he’ll be stuck on you.

3. Don’t Be Focused On Him

I know this is an odd thing to say but Aquarius men are very independent and like to have free time more than most. That being said, if he calls you and you act as though your world has fallen apart because you missed him so much, it will be a turn-off.

Even if you did miss him a lot; you want him to think you’re doing fine all by yourself and don’t need him for your mere survival. He wants to feel that you are not in need of being attached at the hip.

An Aquarius man seeks a partner who isn’t needy and can hold her own by his side. That means he will want a partner who will do her own thing, have her own interests, goals, and dreams that she’s striving to live.

Be yourself always because he appreciates the truth, but do your best not to seem overeager. He’d rather hear that you had a great time doing fun things while he was gone. It’ll make him feel better.

When getting to know each other, you definitely do not want to give him the impression that you’d like to speed things up. This will make your Aquarius man cut and run. I cannot stress this enough; he is NOT in a hurry. Take this tip so you understand how to talk to an Aquarius man.

4. Share Ideas And Concepts With Him

If you are thinking of starting a business, starting a new project, or have some ideas; bounce them off your Aquarius guy. He’s really good at helping with creative and critical thinking.

He will be flattered that you’ve asked him for advice. It shows him that you take him seriously and that you’re interested in his brain as well as everything else he has to offer.

This is a turn on for the Aquarius man. He’ll give you some really sound advice and ideas to work with. You’ll benefit from his natural wisdom as well as possibly gain yourself a wonderful man.

This man is always thinking about something, so knowing how to talk to an Aquarius man is imperative. He can be overly analytical at times so that’s something to watch out for as it can make him a tad bit critical now and then. However, most of the time he’s pretty sharp.

Discover Aquarius men negative personality traits right here <<

5. Be Honest With Him

If you’re not the kind of woman that wants to have a “friends with benefits” type of relationship with an Aquarius man; you may want to let him know. He IS a man that will have these types of friendships.

If he is interested in you at all; he’ll respect this and not ask you to do this. If you do not tell him though; he will assume that you’re ok with doing that thus jumping in the sack with you.

Aquarius will only commit to someone when he is truly 100% ready which could take some time. Patience is highly required. This means that if you don’t want to be casual with him; it’s something you have to speak up and be honest with him about upfront.

Things Not To Talk About With An Aquarius Man

There are many topics to talk about with an Aquarius man. An Aquarius man likes intellectual conversations, so with this in mind, a superficial discussion or repetitive small talk will not be in his focus.

When talking to an Aquarius man, use intellectually stimulating topics and don’t make him feel pressured in any way.

He also dislikes aggressive and confrontational approaches. Aquarius men like diplomatic solutions to conflicts. He will shut down as soon as he hears your dominant tone of voice; therefore, try to avoid arguments and choose a calm and rational demeanor instead.

One of the things Aquarius men don’t like to talk about is tradition. Aquarius is ruled by Uranus, indicating that he will experience periods of compulsion for freedom and independence, with a strong taste for whatever is original. Passions can prompt him to rebel against routine and traditional ways of thinking.

How To Start A Conversation With An Aquarius Man

Select an interesting and unique topic. Avoid small talk and gossip. Instead, focus on unique, thought-provoking conversations. He enjoys talking about technological advancements, philosophical ideas, issues in society, etc.

Don’t use a generic conversation style. Be intriguing; dazzle him with your way of thinking. Impress him!

If you are wondering what questions to ask an Aquarius man in order to make him interested in engaging in conversation with you, you will not make a mistake if you ask him about his passion or what changes he would make in the world we’re living in.

You can also ask him about movies and books that inspired him. Asking the right questions can deepen the connection between you two. Be open-minded, don’t be judgmental, and be willing to explore new ideas with your Aquarius man.

Read next: Questions To Ask An Aquarius Man To Spark His Interest

If You Listen To Dating Coaches, You Can Lose Your Aquarius Man Forever…

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches. They wanted to know if it would work with their Aquarius man.

And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.


Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with an Aquarius.

You see, Aquarius men are VERY different from men of other signs. And if you use standard dating advice with an Aquarius, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.

I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.

You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him <<

So he’ll NEVER want to lose you. He’ll be wrapped around your finger… And it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.

These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.

So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches! They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.

Because your wonderful Aquarius is NOT like other men… at ALL.

Click here to find out the specific things your Aquarius man needs to hear to melt his heart <<



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

11 thoughts on “How To Talk To An Aquarius Man — Dos And Don’ts

  1. Wow! This describes my ex so perfectly! I wish I had known all of this when we met 5.5 years ago. Maybe we would have not had such a turbulent relationship and still be together today.

    1. Hi Dorise!

      Hindsight is always 20/20 my dear. However, if you ever intend to date another Aquarius there is much more you should know. It would really help you to read my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”. Perhaps another is in your stars!

    1. I’m an Aquarian I’m 20 years old probably way younger than you, but you sound shitty and your attitude is aggressive. Even if you went through bs for 30 years with one person..1 that’s your fault, 2 you don’t have to call the entire population of Aquarian’s shitty. How about you fix yourself. We are gonna do nothing but be honest (like this post, and ignore you like I would when/if you comment (and even if you didn’t comment that would be okay because an Aquarian is truthful and blunt with their emotions and feelings).

      P.s this page had a lot of insight and I loved reading it.

      1. Hi Smh-you know better.,

        Thank you for chiming in. I think maybe she had a hard time with her guy and no matter what his sign is, she’s fed up. I feel for her and I hope she finds the peace she needs in her soul. I’m glad that you enjoyed the article yourself and that it was insightful for you. You might want to check out my book sometime. It’s called “Aquarius Man Secrets” of course.

    2. Hi None of ya business!

      I’m sorry that things went so badly with your Aquarius guys. That doesn’t mean they are all like this. Your situation is likely unique and because of that, you should try to keep your mind open about the sign and just know that your guy is maybe not the right one for you. There are plenty of good Aquarius men still out there that wouldn’t be jerks to you honey. I hope you find healing in your heart.

    3. He is an Aquarius and I am a Cancer I have known him for a year now we dated for a couple of months in the beginning and he was doing that hot and cold
      an didn’t want to be in a relationship with one person so I let him go then 6 months later we started dating again he’s real good to me and we are boyfriend and girlfriend he told me he realized that I was a good for him and what a big mistake he let me go in the beginning so in about 2 months we plan to move in together I think we’re doing pretty good we’re starting to see when we need time apart we both been single for a long time but we truly love each other he puts up with me and I put up with him we have ups and downs but we work through them not like in the beginning we just didn’t say anything to each other in the beginning we just walked away from each other but not now he realized he really loves me because I’ve always loved him and admired him for who he was we are both the same age we are 54 he’s the Aquarius and I am the cancer we like a lot of the same things we like going camping and kayaking and drinking occasionally and lots of sex because we both like it especially with each other I do as a cancer get moody at times but he understands me and knows when I am not in a good mood he will try to fix it I read a lot about Aquarius men wanting all this freedom but it doesn’t seem that way with my Aquarius Man maybe just on Mondays I call it his Moody Monday so I give him his space alone then by Tuesday he’s just fine he truly is a great person and I love him for all that he is and he tells me the same.

      1. Hi Angie!

        It sounds like you’ve found the right formula that works for the two of you. That’s amazing and I wish you nothing but happiness. If you need to know anything else about your Aquarius man, check out my books on Aquarius Man Secrets. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  2. Have an aquarius man friend. Capricorn girl here btw. He’s so predictable. Like go and stop but as a cappy, I don’t get to be clingy towards him so I give him all the time not until he unfriended me on one of the social media’s we were connected, so I had to block all the communication we have. But then, he emailed me, I forgot he got my email. He wanted me to talk to him again and now we’re again talking. He wants me to be more open to him and he always talks somehow to me but times when he goes silent, I do let him as I understand his sign. I hope capricorn girl and aquarius man could have way much compatibility. I’m starting to like him but I don’t show it. I don’t wanna light my hopes up to anyone. Especially he’s an aqua.

    1. Hi Abby!

      Any relationship is possible with time, effort, patience, and communication. You are both intellectual and that is a beautiful connection in itself. As long you two keep the communication open and honest, you two can make it! I’m glad you understand his sign. That is fabulous. If you need any more tips though, check out my books sometime!

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