Aquarius men can be so toxic! Sure, they have their positive attributes, but these men sure know how to drive women crazy with their bad behavior. Before you get too comfortable dating your Aquarius man, it might be a good idea for you to know what to expect with him when things aren’t going great.
It is important to prepare yourself and to know how to deal when your Aquarius man shows his negative personality traits. That way you won’t be surprised when he acts hot and cold, or when he disappears without a trace.
So, if you think this might be useful to you in your relationship with your Aquarius man, then please keep on reading to find out more and how you can handle the Aquarius red flags.
Aquarius Man Negative Personality Traits
1. Aquarius Seeks Excessive Personal Freedom
These Aquarius men really love to have time to themselves. They also like to have time that they can go and do whatever they want with whomever they want. They want to live each day as if it’s their last.
They will go above and beyond to make sure they have that freedom. Whether they are in a partnership or not, they will make sure they have time for themselves or with friends.
This could potentially cause problems with a partner who perhaps perceives them as taking a bit too much time away. This may not be a negative trait so much, but something that seems that way if they are with someone who doesn’t get it.
In other words, if you require more time from someone, then Aquarius may not be the right match for you. Otherwise, you end up in a long-term relationship and he will confuse or make you angry on a frequent basis.
If you are not used to having a partner that wants to go hiking, biking, or whatever it is he likes to do alone, you may want to reconsider whether or not you can handle him.
This freedom-seeking man will not bend to you. He figures that either you love him for who he is or he will move on. Likewise, he would never ask you to give up who you are, as long as it doesn’t encroach on his freedom.
This doesn’t give him a free pass to do what he wants when he wants. He realizes once he commits that he has to give up a good deal of his free time but he also knows it’s not logical for him to give it completely up.
2. Aquarius Men Are Very Hard Headed
Much like Taurus, Aquarius men can be very stubborn. They simply want what they want and will do what they feel they need to in order to get it. This could sometimes come off as callous or cold.
This can make them seem aloof as well as make them look like they just don’t care. In some ways it makes them look as though they’re possessive as well. This is actually not the case, however.
Aquarius is not possessive and they do care. They are one of the most humanitarian signs in the Zodiac, actually. This means that they do have a heart and though they come across as cold sometimes, they do care!
They don’t like to bend for anyone, as I’ve mentioned before. They will learn to compromise when they get themselves involved in a romantic relationship for the good of the situation.
It may not be something they particularly like but they realize that they have to have a flow of give and take in a lasting relationship. This is why it takes them forever to commit in the first place.
They know that once they do, they’ll have to give up some of their treasured time, which is quite scary for them. They want to have their cake and eat it too even though they know it’s not likely to happen.
3. Aquarius Are All About “My Way Or The Highway” Attitude
These people are “all in” with the way they think and as such. Aquarius men believe everyone else should subscribe to the same menu. They don’t understand that there IS an in-between.
Aquarius also tends to think in extremes. It’s either very much left or it’s very much right. In-between is too uncertain and not something they like. Again, they tend to learn more about it though when they get into long-term relationships.
This is karmically something they have to work on throughout their lives so that they can find that line that hovers in between the extremes. It will help them to know that it’s okay to not be left or right.
They will push it in relationships though if it’s something they really want or really don’t want. If they want commitment and are ready, then they will be the ones that push the other person to either “take it up a notch or we’re done.”
Remember that an Aquarius man doesn’t want to commit quickly anyway. So, when he finally decides he’s ready, his lady love had better be ready or he may not keep her around too much longer.
Some of them tend to be “you’re either with me or against me” as well. So, if you have an argument with one, you’ll notice he will try to drag his family and friends into it to agree with him in an effort to show you you’re wrong.
4. You Can Expect Unpredictable Detachment From Them
These men can sometimes do things out of nowhere that seems rather shocking. It’s random for most other people but for the Aquarius man, it’s just his way of doing things. He does what he feels is right at that time.
Sometimes this plot for doing something could make him deep in thought and as a result, come off as cold or detached. It’s not that he doesn’t care about you or your thoughts but he has other things on his mind.
Aquarius is a thinker and you can bet that he will space you off sometimes in order for him to ponder about whatever it is that’s going on. It could be about work, another relationship, family, or anything really.
If he seems like a space case or that he’s being cold due to a lack of response, remember that he’s probably just loaded with thoughts and will bounce back to who he was later on.
So, this is another one of those things that can be mistaken for a flaw or misgiving. The thing is, he doesn’t mean to come off this way. It’s just the way he handles things. Aquarius will be loyal to you if he commits so keep that in mind and try not to take his actions too personally.
But, to be honest, Aquarius men are not really that negative and they have plenty of positive traits. If you have a thing for a certain Aquarius man, you can read all about his best traits in my specialized series: Aquarius Man Secrets. It will show you who this guy really is and how you can make him completely YOURS!
Aquarius men are known for suddenly up and disappearing. They either are not secure in the relationship, they feel pressured or tied down, or they feel they need time to themselves.
Instead of explaining what their need is, they stop responding to calls, texts, etc. They may also physically take off somewhere to be alone. Aquarius men are big on having time to themselves, therefore, they’ll take it if they haven’t in a while.
It’s probably better to have some agreement with him so that he can have time to himself, thus not feeling the need to disappear randomly. If this happens to you, though, it could be one of a few things.
Either he’s thinking it’s not working for him anymore, he desires freedom, he needs to think everything over and figure out if the relationship is what he wants, or he’s dealing with personal issues he doesn’t want to discuss.
Any way you put it; this will not be a pleasant experience for an unsuspecting woman who had no idea that he would do something like this. Don’t panic! There is a reason he’s doing this, but you have every right to be upset.
5. Selfish, Stubborn, And Won’t Settle
This is one of the Aquarius man’s negative characteristics is that he is a bit confusing. He believes in helping people who are in need. However, when it comes to his personal life, he’s a bit different.
When he’s in love and committed, he will give the shirt off his back to his woman. However, when he wants it back, he’ll demand she finds another to replace it. He has some very selfish qualities that make him seem cold or callous.
He’s very set in his ways, and it’s hard to change his mind about anything. He wants it the way he wants it, and that’s that. You can intellectualize and get through to him on a diplomatic level, but it still may not change his mind.
You pretty much have to prove to him when he’s wrong or when something you propose is the right thing to do. His not seeing both sides of the coin makes him one-sided and blind to important issues sometimes.
It may sound like a good thing that an Aquarius man won’t settle for just anyone. The problem that happens is that he also will not pay for the potential partner’s inadequacies either.
What I mean by this is he’s particular in what he wants and what he doesn’t want. He will expect the prospective partner to change and be molded by what it is that he’s looking for.
One of the Aquarius man’s negative characteristics is that he will not change. He has this attitude of “it’s my way or no way.” This isn’t one that works well for a budding romance. He won’t come off that way in the beginning, but as time goes on, he will start changing.
When you start noticing that he gets picky about what you’re wearing, how you talk, or any of your other habits, you should pay attention. He may be tearing you down to see if you’re the right one.
6. Detaches His Feelings
Just like the Aquarius man can pull a disappearing act, he can also pull back his feelings and detach. This means he could still be sitting in the same room but isn’t really “there.”
This is his way of obtaining some form of freedom even if he’s physically still present. He’ll often try to do it this way before he’ll get up and take off. He’s trying to work it out in his head.
He won’t listen to you, he’ll tune you out, and he’ll probably blow you off by watching television, playing with his cell phone, or gaming. He’ll find some way that he can be himself and not have to interact with you.
Again, this could be for various reasons. It’s always a trick to figure out what exactly is bothering him and why he feels the need to tune out and be apart from the woman he supposedly likes or even loves.
Aquarius men are difficult, and if you see any of these red flags, it’s important that you decide whether you’re in this and you’ll be patient with him and his bad traits or he’s not someone you wish to continue with.
When An Aquarius Man Is Stressed – Here’s How He’ll Act
He Will Take Space
An Aquarius man is first and foremost an intellectual being. He isn’t someone who is too in touch with his emotions and that is why he finds it so easy to detach and become aloof when something is bothering him.
He needs time by himself to figure out what it is he is going through and he can’t do this when there are so many outside forces trying to influence him. He needs to get quiet and listen to what his inner voice is saying and try to put the puzzle pieces together.
This is why you will find that an Aquarius man will disappear when he is stressed out because this is the only way he knows how to handle whatever it is he is going through. He doesn’t want others to get involved, so he just follows his own lead on what needs to get done.
He Might Become Hypercritical Of You
When an Aquarius man is stressed and everything is going wrong in his life, he might find it easier to blame the people closest to him. He is quite a perfectionist and when things don’t go according to plan, he becomes miserable.
This is when he will lash out and let you know that you might be to blame for his misgivings. This is so unfair and totally uncalled for, of course. This is simply because he cannot accept that he too is capable of making mistakes.
Be warned, he can be quite mean because he has such a sharp tongue on him. He knows how to cut people where it hurts most. You seriously need a thick skin if you’re going to be spending your time in a relationship with an Aquarius man.
His Actions Become Unpredictable
One of the worst traits an Aquarius man has when he becomes stressed is that he tends to become quite unpredictable. You never know what he is thinking or what he is going to do next. This is incredibly frustrating.
It can be so confusing for you to see someone who is usually so reliable and dependable, totally go against everything they usually stand for. You won’t know if you are coming or going when your Aquarius man finds himself in one of these moods.
It is best for you not to take his actions personally and just let him do his own thing until he starts feeling better. You honestly need the patience of a saint if you are going to date an Aquarius man!
What To Do About His Toxic Traits – How To Understand Him Better
When an Aquarius man is in a mood, my best advice is to always just let him be and let him figure things out on his own. He isn’t open to anyone else’s opinion when he is in this state of mind anyway, but here are some things you can do to make him realize that you actually do understand him.
Give Him Something Positive To Think About
Usually, an Aquarius man is quite the positive guy, but when he is in one of his moods, he can become quite negative and destructive. To help him snap out of it, make him see that there is so much for him to be grateful for.
Plan something enjoyable for the two of you to do to help him get excited about something. This should definitely get him out of his rut and help him to be his friendly and optimistic self once again.
Give Him Space
If you notice that your Aquarius man is pushing you away because of something that is going on in his life, then don’t fight him on it. Give him his space and realize that he needs a breather from everything.
You don’t want to add to why he is feeling so negatively. He is a highly independent person and he needs to be with a woman who can respect his need for alone time, especially when he’s dealing with some stresses in his life.
Support Him By Removing Obstacles
As a loving partner to your Aquarius man, you have a lot more power than you might give yourself credit for. If you know something will upset or stress your Aquarius man, then help him by dealing with it yourself.
This guy loves to be with an independent woman who can take care of herself. So, stop depending on him to come to your rescue. Realize that you don’t always have to turn to your man to fix things.
It can be pretty heartbreaking when you’re in love with an Aquarius man and you can feel him slowly slipping through your fingers. You might feel like your back is up against the wall and there is nothing you can do but let go…
Falling for an Aquarius man is risky business. You need to be prepared for the fact that he WILL eventually ignore you and there isn’t much you can do about it because it is part of his nature. It isn’t his intention to hurt you, even though it might feel like that.
Why not see this as a learning opportunity and realize that your Aquarius man isn’t the key to unlocking your happiness; only you are so stop depending on him to make you feel better. That is way too much pressure for one person to handle.
Make yourself the priority and you can’t go wrong!
All you can do with an Aquarius man is to let him be, show him that you are fun and exciting, but that you are also a woman who is understanding and isn’t going to stifle him or take his freedom away from him.
The best thing you can do is to focus on your own goals and aspirations and create a life for yourself that makes you exciting and interesting. But most importantly, be yourself! An Aquarius man loves authenticity. So, give it to him!
What if I told you there is still hope for you and your Aquarius man?
That not everything is lost and there is still something you can do to save the relationship…
You would probably think I’m crazy, because to you, it certainly feels like your Aquarius man has given up on you and that the love you once shared is no longer there…
Trust me, if an Aquarius man ever liked you, then there is certainly hope to salvage the relationship.
There is still a lot you can do to fix the relationship with your Aquarius man…
You may feel like you are at your wit’s end; but where there was once love, there is certainly still hope!
It is just up to you and whether not you are serious enough about doing the work to get the results you are looking for…
And you can do this without running to him and begging him to love you again…
Remember you are an empowered woman, so treat the situation as such!
Wishing you so much love and happiness.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,