9 Aquarius Man Negative Personality Traits + Toxic Traits In Love

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Let's shed light on the negative traits of an Aquarius man. What are some of his common toxic traits and red flags you should watch out for?

There can be so much toxic energy in Aquarius men! These men may have some positive qualities, but Aquarius man negative personality traits and bad behaviour drives women crazy. You might want to know what you can expect from your Aquarius man when things don’t go smoothly before you get too comfortable dating him.

When your Aquarius man shows his negative personality traits, you should prepare yourself and know how to deal with it. As a result, you will not be surprised if he becomes erratic or disappears for no apparent reason. 

And trust me, Aquarius men love disappearing because they hate conflict. You might think that your Aquarius man is in it, and then the next thing you don’t hear from him for games, or even ever again.

So, if this might be useful to you in your relationship with your Aquarius man, please keep on reading to find out more and how you can handle the Aquarius red flags. You’re going to need them if you want to be with an Aquarius man!

Aquarius Man’s Negative Personality Traits

Aquarius men might be the most complicated lovers in the zodiac. They are very principled and set in their ways, so you need to be prepared for what you are getting yourself into. Take a look:

1. Aquarius Man Loves Personal Freedom And Independence

As an Aquarius man, there is nothing they love more than having some time to themselves. It is also important to them to have time when they can go wherever they want and do whatever they want with whomever they want. They want to live each day as if it’s their last.

In order to make sure they have this freedom, they will do whatever it takes. It is important for them to have time for themselves as well as to spend time with friends, whether they are in a partnership or not.

This could potentially lead to problems with a partner who perceives them as taking a lot of time away. There may not be an actual negative trait here, but it may seem that way if they’re with someone who doesn’t understand.

Aquarius may not be the right match for you if you need more time from someone. Otherwise, you’ll be in a long-term relationship with a person who often confuses you or makes you angry.

If you are not used to having a partner that wants to go hiking, biking, or whatever it is he likes to do alone, you may want to reconsider whether or not you can handle him.

He won’t bend to your demands. He figures that either you love him for who he is or he will move on. Likewise, he would never ask you to give up who you are, as long as it doesn’t encroach on his freedom.

This doesn’t give him a free pass to do what he wants when he wants. He realizes once he commits that he has to give up a good deal of his free time but he also knows it’s not logical for him to give it completely up.

Why do Aquarius disappear?  – check out here.

2. Aquarius Man Is Extremely Stubborn

Much like Taurus, Aquarius men can be very stubborn. They simply want what they want and will do what they feel they need to in order to get it. This could sometimes come off as callous or cold.

This can make them seem aloof as well as make them look like they just don’t care. In some ways it makes them look as though they’re possessive as well. This is actually not the case, however.

Aquarius is not possessive and they do care. They are one of the most humanitarian signs in the Zodiac, actually. This means that they do have a heart and though they come across as cold sometimes, they do care!

They don’t like to bend for anyone, as I’ve mentioned before. They will learn to compromise when they get themselves involved in a romantic relationship for the good of the situation.

It may not be something they particularly like but they realize that they have to have a flow of give and take in a lasting relationship. This is why it takes them forever to commit in the first place.

They know that once they do, they’ll have to give up some of their treasured time, which is quite scary for them. They want to have their cake and eat it too even though they know it’s not likely to happen.

3. Aquarius Man Thinks He Knows Best

These people are “all in” with the way they think and as such. Aquarius men believe everyone else should subscribe to the same menu. They don’t understand that there IS an in-between.

Aquarius also tends to think in extremes. It’s either very much left or it’s very much right. In-between is too uncertain and not something they like. Again, they tend to learn more about it though when they get into long-term relationships.

This is karmically something they have to work on throughout their lives so that they can find that line that hovers in between the extremes. It will help them to know that it’s okay to not be left or right.

They will push it in relationships though if it’s something they really want or really don’t want. If they want commitment and are ready, then they will be the ones that push the other person to either “take it up a notch or we’re done.”

Remember that an Aquarius man doesn’t want to commit quickly anyway. So, when he finally decides he’s ready, his lady love had better be ready or he may not keep her around too much longer.

Some of them tend to be “you’re either with me or against me” as well. So, if you have an argument with one, you’ll notice he will try to drag his family and friends into it to agree with him in an effort to show you you’re wrong.

Aquarius Man Toxic Traits When It Comes To Love

Knowing what to expect from an Aquarius man in a relationship can really make or break the potential the two of you have for something beautiful. You need to remember that these guys are unconventional and will do absolutely anything to be different, including how they act when it comes to love and romance. 

4. He Can Be Very Unpredictable

These men can sometimes do things out of nowhere that seems rather shocking. It’s random for most other people but for the Aquarius man, it’s just his way of doing things. He does what he feels is right at that time.

Sometimes this plot for doing something could make him deep in thought and as a result, come off as cold or detached. It’s not that he doesn’t care about you or your thoughts but he has other things on his mind.

Aquarius is a thinker and you can bet that he will space you off sometimes in order for him to ponder about whatever it is that’s going on. It could be about work, another relationship, family, or anything really.

If he seems like a space case or that he’s being cold due to a lack of response, remember that he’s probably just loaded with thoughts and will bounce back to who he was later on.

So, this is another one of those things that can be mistaken for a flaw or misgiving. The thing is, he doesn’t mean to come off this way. It’s just the way he handles things. Aquarius will be loyal to you if he commits so keep that in mind and try not to take his actions too personally.

Aquarius men are known for suddenly up and disappearing. They either are not secure in the relationship, they feel pressured or tied down, or they feel they need time to themselves.

Instead of explaining what their need is, they stop responding to calls, texts, etc. They may also physically take off somewhere to be alone. Aquarius men are big on having time to themselves, therefore, they’ll take it if they haven’t in a while.

It’s probably better to have some agreement with him so that he can have time to himself, thus not feeling the need to disappear randomly. If this happens to you, though, it could be one of a few things.

Either he’s thinking it’s not working for him anymore, he desires freedom, he needs to think everything over and figure out if the relationship is what he wants, or he’s dealing with personal issues he doesn’t want to discuss.

Any way you put it; this will not be a pleasant experience for an unsuspecting woman who had no idea that he would do something like this. Don’t panic! There is a reason he’s doing this, but you have every right to be upset.

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5. He Is Selfish And Uncompromising

This is one of the Aquarius man’s negative characteristics is that he is a bit confusing. He believes in helping people who are in need. However, when it comes to his personal life, he’s a bit different.

When he’s in love and committed, he will give the shirt off his back to his woman. However, when he wants it back, he’ll demand she finds another to replace it. He has some very selfish qualities that make him seem cold or callous.

He’s very set in his ways, and it’s hard to change his mind about anything. He wants it the way he wants it, and that’s that. You can intellectualize and get through to him on a diplomatic level, but it still may not change his mind.

You pretty much have to prove to him when he’s wrong or when something you propose is the right thing to do. His not seeing both sides of the coin makes him one-sided and blind to important issues sometimes.

It may sound like a good thing that an Aquarius man won’t settle for just anyone. The problem that happens is that he also will not pay for the potential partner’s inadequacies either.

What I mean by this is he’s particular in what he wants and what he doesn’t want. He will expect the prospective partner to change and be molded by what it is that he’s looking for.

One of the Aquarius man negative personality traits is that he will not change. He has this attitude of “it’s my way or no way.” This isn’t one that works well for a budding romance. He won’t come off that way in the beginning, but as time goes on, he will start changing.

When you start noticing that he gets picky about what you’re wearing, how you talk, or any of your other habits, you should pay attention. He may be tearing you down to see if you’re the right one.

Here’s how to tell if an Aquarius man is leading you on <<

6. His Feelings Are Extremely Detached

Just like the Aquarius man can pull a disappearing act, he can also pull back his feelings and detach. This means he could still be sitting in the same room but isn’t really “there.”

This is his way of obtaining some form of freedom even if he’s physically still present. He’ll often try to do it this way before he’ll get up and take off. He’s trying to work it out in his head.

He won’t listen to you, he’ll tune you out, and he’ll probably blow you off by watching television, playing with his cell phone, or gaming. He’ll find some way that he can be himself and not have to interact with you.

Again, this could be for various reasons. It’s always a trick to figure out what exactly is bothering him and why he feels the need to tune out and be apart from the woman he supposedly likes or even loves.

Aquarius men are difficult, and if you see any of these red flags, it’s important that you decide whether you’re in this and you’ll be patient with him and his bad traits or he’s not someone you wish to continue with.

If you struggle with how to handle an Aquarius man and find the right words to make him feel special, I strongly suggest getting my Aquarius Man Love Language guide. It will help you finally speak the same love language as him and make your bond so much stronger.

Aquarius Man Red Flags That Should Not Be Ignored

There are some things Aquarius men do that are just completely unacceptable. Please take note of these Aquarius man red flags to know what you need to run away from if you ever notice them. 

7. He Will Take Space And Become Secretive

An Aquarius man is first and foremost an intellectual being. He isn’t someone who is too in touch with his emotions and that is why he finds it so easy to detach and become aloof when something is bothering him.

Aquarius needs time by himself to figure out what it is he is going through and he can’t do this when there are so many outside forces trying to influence him. He needs to get quiet and listen to what his inner voice is saying and try to put the puzzle pieces together.

This is why you will find that an Aquarius man will disappear when he is stressed out because this is the only way he knows how to handle whatever it is he is going through. He doesn’t want others to get involved, so he just follows his own lead on what needs to get done.

Just beware if you have suspicions that he might be dishonest… He is so clever it is very likely that he is lying to you, so you need to be really careful about this. 

8. He Might Become Hypercritical Of You

When an Aquarius man is stressed and everything is going wrong in his life, he might find it easier to blame the people closest to him. He is quite a perfectionist and when things don’t go according to plan, he becomes miserable.

This is when he will lash out and let you know that you might be to blame for his misgivings. This is so unfair and totally uncalled for, of course. It is simply because he cannot accept that he too is capable of making mistakes.

Be warned, he can be quite mean because he has such a sharp tongue on him. He knows how to cut people where it hurts most. You seriously need a thick skin if you’re going to be spending your time in a relationship with an Aquarius man.

9. There Is a Drastic Change In His Personality

One of the worst traits an Aquarius man has when he becomes stressed is that he tends to become quite unpredictable. You never know what he is thinking or what he is going to do next. This is incredibly frustrating.

It can be so confusing for you to see someone who is usually so reliable and dependable, totally go against everything they usually stand for. You won’t know if you are coming or going when your Aquarius man finds himself in one of these moods.

It is best for you not to take his actions personally and just let him do his own thing until he starts feeling better. You honestly need the patience of a saint if you are going to date an Aquarius man!

Related: Is My Aquarius Man Gone For Good? << check here for some clear signs he is over you.

How To Deal With an Aquarius Man’s Bad Attitude

It might not be enough to know what to expect from an Aquarius man and his negative traits, you also need to know what to do about them. Here are some simple solutions to help you process his bad behaviour:

Give Him Something Positive To Think About

Usually, an Aquarius man is quite the positive guy, but when he is in one of his moods, he can become quite negative and destructive. To help him snap out of it, make him see that there is so much for him to be grateful for.

Plan something enjoyable for the two of you to do to help him get excited about something. This should definitely get him out of his rut and help him to be his friendly and optimistic self once again.

Give Him Space

If you notice that your Aquarius man is pushing you away because of something that is going on in his life, then don’t fight him on it. Give him his space and realize that he needs a breather from everything.

You don’t want to add to why he is feeling so negatively. He is a highly independent person and he needs to be with a woman who can respect his need for alone time, especially when he’s dealing with some stresses in his life.

Discover more on how to get an Aquarius man to open up and share his feelings.

Support Him By Removing Obstacles

As a loving partner to your Aquarius man, you have a lot more power than you might give yourself credit for. If you know something will upset or stress your Aquarius man, then help him by dealing with it yourself.

This guy loves to be with an independent woman who can take care of herself. So, stop depending on him to come to your rescue. Realize that you don’t always have to turn to your man to fix things.


All this information may have left you with more questions than answers. Are you still trying to decode your Aquarius man? Here are some FAQ’s you might be wondering about:

Are Aquarius Known To Be Manipulative?

Aquarius men aren’t known to be manipulative, but they definitely have the potential to be because they are so highly intelligent. Most of them would rather be honest, but there are a select few who use their intelligence to get away with murder. 

Are Aquarius Men Narcissistic?

I don’t like to group all men of a particular sign into one box or category. This is very unfair to them as a whole. But yes, of course, there are Aquarius men who are narcissistic. 

Let’s face it. Aquarius men are appealing for a reason and they yield a lot of power. This is why it is so easy for them to be narcissistic. Think about it, they are smart, fun, powerful, intelligent, and usually very sexy. 

Are Aquarius Men Good At Lying?

Aquarius men are brilliant liars. This is because they have such a good read on people and it is easy for them to know what makes others tick. They can zoom into your insecurities and know exactly what to say to get you going. 

An Aquarius man is as deceptive as they come. Just remember not all Aquarius men are like this and most of them are very honest and forthcoming. 

Are Aquarians Bossy?

An Aquarius man can definitely be bossy… These guys know exactly what they want in life and if someone isn’t living up to their standards, then they can get very prescriptive in what they do or say. 

An Aquarius man refuses to live below his standards and this is why he can be so bossy. 

Are Aquarius Men Moody?

Unfortunately, yes. Aquarius men can be very moody. These guys have a lot going on and when they get very stressed it is easy to see it thanks to their foul mood that comes up.

An Aquarius man doesn’t mean any harm, but if he isn’t in the right set of mind he can become quite negative. This is when he needs a lot of space to sort his mood out. 

How Do Aquarius Men Deal With Conflict?

Aquarius men aren’t very good at dealing with conflict. In fact, they would much rather run away and disappear with it head-on. This is why Aquarius men are known for being ghosters. 

They would much rather not deal with it and forget you ever existed than actually tell you what you have done wrong. This is terrible and I don’t wish this on any of you.

Stop Worrying About Your Aquarius Man…

It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with an Aquarius man who won’t commit. I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Aquarius  guys.

I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.

As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that.

But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him. Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.

How could she just give up on that?

But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work.

She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language!

And it worked!!

So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Aquarius  man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…

>> Go here now and learn to speak your Aquarius man’s love language.



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

One thought on “9 Aquarius Man Negative Personality Traits + Toxic Traits In Love

  1. I’m an Aquarius man and I had a pretty difficult and somewhat abusive relationship with a woman who often used her conceptualizations of zodiac ideology to put me down or make me feel small and I’d just like to say that I’m really grateful that you published this article because it made me feel just a little more understood and seen and loved for who I am instead of picked upon for where I fall short. Thank you. It makes a difference

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