When An Aquarius Man Sends Mixed Signals

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Does your Aquarius man keep sending mixed signals over and over? You start to ask yourself, ‘Was I reading him wrong?’ What’s really going on? Simple. He’s an Aquarius.

Hello, my lovely ladies! An Aquarius man mixed signals is something you have to come to terms with. By nature, an Aquarius man is very detached and independent, which can often lead to him sending mixed signals in relationships.

While he may show interest and affection one moment, an Aquarius man can suddenly become distant or aloof the next, leaving you confused about his true intentions. His detachment may be a result of his need for personal space and freedom, as Aquarius men value their independence above all else.

So, why are Aquarius men so confusing? There are several reasons why an Aquarius man may send mixed signals. And in this article, we will explore some of the common reasons behind an Aquarius man’s mixed signals.

This should help you to recognize that his behaviour isn’t necessarily about you, but instead a reflection of his personality quirks. The better you understand an Aquarius man’s tendencies, the better equipped you’ll be to navigate the challenges that come with his mixed signals.

If you are currently struggling with an Aquarius man mixed signals, then you have come to the right place. Keep on reading to gain insight into the reasons behind an Aquarius man’s mixed signals and find tips on how to navigate your relationship with him.

Why Are Aquarius Men So Confusing?

Aquarius men can be confusing due to their natural tendency towards independence and detachment. An Aquarius man is ruled by the element of Air, which makes him logical and rational, often prioritizing his own thoughts and ideas over emotions.

On top of that, his modern-day ruler is Uranus, the planet of unpredictability and rebellion, and his traditional ruler is Saturn, the planet of responsibility and boundaries.

It starts to become quite clear that an Aquarius man mixed signals are a result of his complex and unique personality combination. His mixed signals usually stem from his need for personal freedom and exploration.

He is a rebel at heart and it is so difficult for him to conform to societal norms or expectations. He needs to stand out and march to the beat of his own drum. It isn’t always easy for others to understand this about him, which can lead to confusion and misinterpretation of his actions.

He cares about people, but more in a humanitarian kind of way, rather than on a romantic level. He is a lot more comfortable with being in his friendships than in romantic relationships.

This is why he can be so confusing as it might never seem completely clear what his true intentions or feelings are. He may give off mixed signals because he struggles with expressing his emotions and maintaining a balance between his need for independence and his desire for connection.

4 Obvious Signs An Aquarius Man Is Giving Out Mixed Signals

There are certain signs that should be fairly obvious an Aquarius man is giving out mixed signals, here are some of them:

Inconsistent Communication

One of the signs that an Aquarius man is giving out mixed signals is inconsistent communication. One minute he is always texting you and initiating conversations, and the next minute he becomes distant and unresponsive.

This inconsistency in communication can leave you feeling confused and unsure of where you stand with him. Is he interested or just being friendly? When he sends mixed signals through inconsistent communication, it can be frustrating and make it difficult to gauge his true intentions.

You might feel like he is really interested in you, but then he suddenly goes silent for days or weeks at a time. This leaves you questioning if he’s just busy or if he’s lost interest altogether.

It’s important to remember that an Aquarius man values his personal freedom and may need space at times, causing him to give mixed signals. If you feel like you need a man who is more of a consistent communicator and can provide clear signals, an Aquarius man may not be the best match for you.

Unclear Plans & Commitments

Another sign that an Aquarius man is giving out mixed signals is when it comes to making plans and commitments. He may express interest in spending time with you and making plans, but when it comes to following through or committing to specific dates or activities, he becomes indecisive and vague.

This can leave you feeling uncertain and wondering if he is truly interested in spending time with you or if he is just stringing you along. When he acts so non-commital and avoids making concrete plans, it can be a sign that he’s not fully invested or unsure about what he wants.

Being so unclear about plans and commitments can make it difficult for you to navigate your relationship with him and may leave you feeling frustrated and uncertain about where you stand.

You may start questioning whether he is truly interested or just playing games. It is unfair that he is treating you in this ambiguous manner, but it is important to remember that Aquarius men tend to value their independence and can struggle with commitment.

He Switches Between Hot And Cold Behavior

Yet another indication that an Aquarius man is sending mixed signals is when he frequently switches between hot and cold behavior. One moment, he may be affectionate, loving, and attentive, showering you with attention and affection. But then, without warning, he withdraws and becomes distant or aloof.

This sudden shift in his behavior can leave you feeling confused and uncertain about where you stand with him. You may wonder if something you did or said could have triggered this change, but it is important to remember that this inconsistency is often a characteristic of Aquarius men.

They can go from being deeply involved and connected to needing space and distancing themselves emotionally. This behavior can be frustrating and make it hard to understand his true feelings for you.

His hot and cold behavior can create a rollercoaster of emotions and leave you questioning the stability and authenticity of his feelings. You may need to put your foot down and communicate your needs for consistency and stability in the relationship.

RelatedAquarius Man Hot And Cold — Why They Do This And How To Handle It

He Is Unreliable

When an Aquarius man sends mixed signals, another possible indication is that he is often unreliable. He will say that he will do something or be somewhere but then constantly cancels or changes plans last minute.

This inconsistency in his actions can leave you feeling frustrated and unsure of his level of interest or commitment. You may start questioning whether he values your time and effort.

You might be putting so much time and effort into this relationship, only to be let down repeatedly by his unreliability. It isn’t right that you continuously show up and do what you say you will do, while he constantly falls short.

Unreliability is very disappointing and can be a clear sign that an Aquarius man is not fully invested or serious about the relationship. You might need to re-evaluate whether his mixed signals and lack of reliability align with what you want and deserve in a partner.

You may also want to readIs An Aquarius Man Fighting His Feelings For You? 7 Signs To Look At

How To Deal With An Aquarius Man Sending Mixed Signals

When an Aquarius man sends mixed signals, it can be challenging to navigate the uncertainty and confusion. Dealing with an Aquarius man sending mixed signals can be challenging, but there are a few strategies you can use to navigate this situation such as speaking up when you feel confused and uncertain, it is important that he knows how you feel and that his mixed signals are causing you distress.

Try your best not to be too emotional when discussing your concerns with him, as Aquarius men tend to respond better to rational and logical conversations. You might also just want to give him some space and time to process his own emotions and thoughts.

He is after all very independent and needs a lot of space to process his thoughts and emotions. Ultimately, it’s important to trust your instincts and prioritize your own emotional well-being. Try to put yourself first, that is what is most important in this situation when he gives you so many mixed signals.

Remember that you deserve clarity and consistency in a relationship, and if an Aquarius man is unable to provide that, it may be worth considering whether this relationship is truly fulfilling your needs and bringing you happiness.

5 Questions To Ask An Aquarius Man When He Sends Mixed Signals

You might need some more clarity in this situation with your Aquarius man, here are 5 questions to ask him when he sends mixed signals:

“How Often Do You Need Space?”

You already know an Aquarius man is very independent, but when you ask him this question, it can help you understand his need for space and how it may impact the mixed signals he sends. You may find that he needs more space than you anticipated, and this can help you navigate your expectations and help you not overcrowd his personal boundaries.

“What Are Your Expectations for the Relationship?”

Asking this question can help you gain insight into what an Aquarius man wants and expects from the relationship. Understanding his expectations can provide clarity on whether his mixed signals are a result of uncertainty or if there are deeper issues at play.

“Do You Feel Like I Understand You?”

An Aquarius man often feels very misunderstood in life and this can make it difficult for him to feel vulnerable and open in a relationship. Asking him if he feels understood can help you gauge whether his mixed signals are stemming from a sense of being misunderstood or disconnected.

“What Is Going On In Your Mind Right Now?”

Asking this question directly can help you gain insight into what an Aquarius man is currently going through and what may be causing the mixed signals. Just simply understanding his thoughts and emotions at the moment can provide valuable context and allow for a more open and honest conversation.

“What Does Consistency Look Like To You?”

Asking this question can help you understand the Aquarius man’s perspective on consistency in a relationship. The two of you may have vastly different definitions of what consistency means, and this can shed light on why he may be sending mixed signals. When you understand him better, it can help to move the relationship forward.

FAQs About Aquarius Man Mixed Signals:

Are you still feeling confused about Aquarius man mixed signals? Here are some FAQ’s that can bring you more clarity about this situation:

Does Reverse Psychology Work On Aquarius Man?

Reverse psychology may not be the most effective approach with an Aquarius man. These guys are very smart and will quickly catch on to attempts at manipulation. And manipulation is something they do not tolerate well. 

Instead, it is best to have open and honest communication with him to address any mixed signals or uncertainties in the relationship. Just be direct because you seriously have nothing to lose by being transparent and genuine. He will respect this about you, but if his bad behaviour still continues, you might need to move on to protect your own emotional well-being.

Do Aquarius Men Give Mixed Signals If They Like You?

When don’t Aquarius men give mixed signals? Aquarius men have a tendency to give mixed signals regardless of whether they like someone or not. They are a walking contradiction most of the time, so it can be challenging to interpret their true intentions. 

Emotions are very confusing to these guys, and they may struggle with expressing their feelings directly. They are way more comfortable with logical and analytical thinking, which can lead to them sending mixed signals in romantic relationships.

If You Listen To Dating Coaches, You Can Lose Your Aquarius Man Forever…

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches.

They wanted to know if it would work with their Aquarius man. And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.


Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with an Aquarius.

You see, Aquarius men are VERY different than men of other signs. And if you use standard dating advice with a Aquarius, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.

I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.

You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him…

So he’ll NEVER want to lose you. He’ll be wrapped around your fingerAnd it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.

These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.

So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches! They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.

Because your wonderful Aquarius is NOT like other men… at ALL.

Click here to find out the specific things your Aquarius man needs to hear to melt his heart.



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

13 thoughts on “When An Aquarius Man Sends Mixed Signals

  1. Hi, my Aquarius man has left me 2 months ago becouse he think I was so possessive and not letting him free. So he left me. But m tryinh to get back to him but he says he doesnt want too. After my break up I found Anna nd now i know wats he like but its too late to learn. Still m feeling that i want him back. Now I dont know wat should I do to get him back. He doesnt like to talk to me or look at my face. He said he hate me but every after couple of day he will txt me. And talk to me dirty way or get anger out on me. And shaw me that he doesnt need me anymore.

    I just need help to get back to him couse I love him so much that he ask me to leave some of my friend and I did. I’ve done watever he wants but still he left me. Need help so desperately

    1. Hi Tejal!

      He doesn’t hate you otherwise he wouldn’t reach out to you but he does think that due to your possessive nature that you’re toxic for him. Aquarius doesn’t like to be controlled or told what to do or not to do. He also doesn’t like accusations or clingy women. If you were to ever get him back, you’d have to change those things about yourself so he can feel free with you and not have that stress. Learn more by reading my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.

  2. I’ve been dealing with an Aquarius man sending me mixed signals. First he says he’s willing to wait for me, and next he unfriends me on all social media platforms. I’m a Gemini so I like communication. Idk if I should reach out to him and ask what’s wrong because everything I’m reading says that I should keep it light and casual. I’m seriously at my wit’s end though.

    1. Hi Sam!

      Yes you should absolutely reach out and ask him what is going on. You deserve to know whether he’s still doing right by you or if he wants to move on. Often times Aquarius won’t offer up anything unless you ask. So go ahead and find out what is going on with him. If you need more insight on Aquarius man then please check out my book.

  3. Hi Anna,

    My Aquarius guy is definitely sending me mixed signals. We’re currently on different continents and I’ve been trying to keep in touch. He recently came back from one of his off periods but during that time, he unfriended me on Facebook and told me the reason he had to stop talking to me was that he got into a relationship. Now they’re broken up and he hasn’t accepted my friend request again. I told him that I was upset at him several times and I’m not sure if it was because of that he disappeared again. He never says anything when he does and this time he also unfollowed me on Instagram, removed me as a follower, and set his page to private. This is after a few days of him apologizing and saying he’s willing to wait for me.

  4. Hi my Aquarius friend or fwb what ever we called , i been reading alot about his sign mix signals yes i get alot He lives down my street and he takes me out to dinner’s to nice places he takes me to the beach we always have drinks I spend the night at his house I’ve met his family. Sometimes he invites me over and we just watch movies sleeping together. He’s taking me to movies numerous times. We’ve been seeing each other for a year and four months and he’s not an affectionate person. I get that . I think one time I freaked out we went to the movies and he took me to see a movie that I wanted to see, And out of nowhere while we were in line he asked to give him a kiss I was so surprised. But mixing knows he went from texting me FaceTiming me sending funny jokes to now hardly hearing from him and what if I’m lucky I hear from him twice a day on text messages sometimes I wonder will he ever commit or am I just wasting my time or do I just keep being patient and just wait because I know they base on friendship first. I am seeing him exclusively and not seeing anyone else or dating anyone else but we are not in a committed relationship and I know for a fact he’s not seeing anyone it’s just a mixed signals is a real headache. But I am giving them his space it’s been a week we haven’t seen each other and I don’t text him unless he Texas me and I respond back so yeah I’m giving him his space an i being wromg ?

    1. Hi Elva!

      Are you 100% certain that he’s exclusive with you or are you assuming he isn’t? I think I’d be asking him about that. Typically FWB relationships do not end up as an actual love and lasting relationship. They are getting what they want without the commitment which is totally alright with an Aquarius man. I think he needs to know that at some point you want more. If you don’t tell him he will never change it. The space thing… I think he doesn’t have a feeling of obligation with you since you two are only FWB. Talk to him sweetheart and find out if there is any hope for more. He should tell you flat out if there is or there isn’t so you can figure out what you can do next. I wish you all the very best!

  5. Hey Anna! I’m an Scorpio and my ascendant is Libra. I’ve been seeing this Aquarius since 8 months ago. He sends me mixed signals and talks about we as a couple, plans as a couple and even let other people tell him that i’m his girlfriend, even his best friend. But recently I’ve confronted him and he said that he didn’t want the responsibility of a couple so I left without any complaint. When we started he was obsessed with me until we had a fight and everything changed, he still gave us the chance of getting to know each other deeply and we’ve on a rollercoaster since then. I changed so much, no jealousy, no controlling, gave us space from each other. He did stripper the other day and invited me as his company and we had a great time, he saw that I honestly am secure enough of myself. In general we have such an amazing connection, the passion and chemistry in bed is incredible, honestly I’ve never experienced something like that, we talk about everything and even share the love for the gym, that’s where we meet.

    1. Hi Ana!

      Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you’ve gone through quite a bit with him. Be careful though because if he won’t commit, it may hurt you deeply. Aquarius is hard headed. Just watch his actions along with his words and see if he’s going to be right for you. It may feel amazing now but if he ultimately doesn’t want the same thing then you may end up in this weird sexual friend zone. Watch yourself! I wish you all the very best.

  6. Hi I’m a Gemini and I’m so confused. I’m in love with an Aquarius (he was my teacher) when I got my diploma we started going out , when asked him what are we he says that he is not ready to be in serious relationship he want to be my friends but he is giving me mixed signals some times he flirts with me and sometimes he just disappear I don’t know what going on I don’t know anything about his live but he is always checking up on me Ana trying to help how can I react with this ? What should I do?

    1. Dear Sanata,
      Aquarius man and a Gemini woman can make a really great couple, but you have to work on it. Aquarius is the Visionary and Gemini is the Communicator, which means there will be an out of this world mental connection here. This relationship will have no shortage of long conversations of depth and magnitude.
      His aloofness might not even have anything to do with you, so don’t give him any reason to start avoiding you! Give him space to sort through his thoughts and most importantly his feelings. Do not chase him! This is the key to having him come back.
      Best of luck to you!

  7. Hi I’m cancer actually l have crush on Aquarius man since two years but l confessed him before 1 months l don’t know that if he hate me or love me but he is so sweet with me and told me lf l want to wait for him l can buy if l don’t then l can leave he is single from 27 years and is very loyal lve met all his friends he was in our school and l’ve met all his relatives also but they don’t know about our bond what should l do should l wait for him for 2 more years

    1. Dear Emma,

      I am not clear on why he wants you to wait for 2 more years.
      Still, Aquarius is in no hurry to jump into a committed relationship. He’d rather wait and possibly lose out on someone than jump the gun and be stuck with someone he knows isn’t right for him.
      If you genuinely want the Aquarius guy that you are into; give him some time and be very patient with him. Remember he may not call every single day or reply to every single text you send but as long as you don’t overreact, things will go well. Sending Love to you!

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