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The Best Ways to Respond When an Aquarius Man Ignores You

Are you trying to resist the urge to contact him (again) because he left that last text on “read”?

If you find yourself pondering why your Aquarius man has turned cold when the connection was so intense in the beginning, you’re not alone

The Aquarius Man: Your Mission, If You Choose To Accept It…

Welcome to the struggle of dating an Aquarius man. You felt an intense connection, he introduced you to an exciting new world full of possibilities, and everything felt like it was going great. Then, without warning, he started to pull back—or worse, he’s totally disappeared.

I hear from women in your shoes all the time. Confused, betrayed, angry—until they realize their angst was the result of not understanding the deeper secrets of an Aquarius man’s energy. 

Before you chase him or blame yourself, take a moment to put all the pieces of the puzzle together, starting with an understanding of how Sun in Aquarius affects the personality of the man you care about.

No matter you’re expecting, Aquarius will surprise you. The rules simply don’t apply to him. While his entire birth chart can give clues about different aspects of life, the Sun sign is associated with ego, identity and personality, which can tell us a ton. An Aquarius man is born under the sign of the freethinking, unpredictable rebel. He stands out from the crowd but is also drawn to groups.

Keep reading to unlock the secrets of life with an Aquarius man.

Best Ways to Respond When an Aquarius Man Ignores You

A Blessing… and a Curse

You’re drawn magnetically to his intensity and his unusual habits, style, and way of thinking—and these traits were cultivated through independence above all else.

Does that mean he’s heartless? Of course not! He’s socially conscious and can be a humanitarian. But he needs to maintain his position on the outskirts of the crowd in order to remain free of group influence. He needs to retreat to the periphery to avoid losing himself in the relationship.

Feeling Left Out?

He may not actually be ignoring you. Take a deep breath and consider whether he’s just busy. He’s drawn to the interesting, so it may be that someone or something has caught his attention.

Ask yourself why you are feeling ignored. Did he shoot back a brief text within a few minutes? Or did he take a week to leave a one-word reply?

Some of this may have nothing to do with you, but there’s a chance something did turn him off. If things have become too routine, he will back away. Dinner and a movie every Friday night? Not for an Aquarius man. He gets bored with predictability and associate it with a lack of depth.

Speaking of depth, you may want to take note of whether your deeper feelings have been seeping through. The paradox of the Aquarius man is that although he is highly sensitive, he has disdain for emotional issues. He wants to know that you are sensitive, but he isn’t equipped to be the shoulder you cry on.

Things That Drive An Aquarius Man Away

Things That Drive An Aquarius Man Away

If you criticized his friends or became too eager to spend time with him, that may have been a turn-off. 

If you insisted he give up several of his weekly club meetings in order to spend more time with you watching Netflix, he is likely bored.

If you haven’t come up with any exciting or interesting ideas to keep him intrigued, he may retreat. 

If you’ve become jealous or clingy, or if you tried to get him to close his social media accounts or unfriend his exes, these could also be reasons for him to pull away.

Any of this sound familiar? Consider it a learning experience. 

Aquarius men are unpredictable. They can become so hypersensitive that they avoid conflict and won’t always directly express what’s bothering them. Then as time goes by, they may blow up or just disappear. For a while.

The best thing to do if you recognize the pattern of over-emotionality, insecurity, or routines that may have driven him away is to break the pattern. 

Find other outlets for validating your emotions, and work through jealousies and insecurities. Get in touch with your unique interests. Having your own thing going on will keep the relationship spicy. 

Don’t chase him, no matter how tempting—and trust me, I know this is hard to do. But I’ve helped so many women improve their relationships with Aquarius men, and one thing is true for all of them—the key to successful relationships with Aquarius men is not to pursue them. 

Become the most unique and independent version of yourself. Let him see this, but don’t flaunt your attempt to get his attention. Be subtle but authentic.

Once you’ve addressed your side of the relationship, it’s important to understand what may be happening in his world. Aquarius men build independence into their identity. They thrive on the energy of the group but then need to seek solitude to process things on a deeper level and sort out their unique perspective.

Read next: How To Deal with Aquarius Man in a Relationship – Know What He Wants!

Why Relationships Baffle Aquarius Men

They are most comfortable going from group gatherings to isolation, but partnerships are a puzzle for them. In a group, the energy is shared. Emotional distance can be maintained. 

But in a partnership, the heat is on.

Aquarius men feel like they’re in a state of tension. As if they’re under the spotlight with no place to hide and no sanctuary for introspection. 

As a result, they are notorious for disappearing acts. Think of this as an Aquarius man coming up for air after feeling stifled or stepping away to remain connected to his personal interests, private life or other friends. Even if his tinkering with new inventions or excessive computer use seem frivolous to you, these are essential parts of his lifestyle. 

Intellectual and social pursuits are like air to him. He needs to understand that you will be able to deal with his occasional disconnection. This may be a conscious way to test your reaction. If you try to track him down, he will interpret this as you invading his precious alone time.

I know, you’re thinking, ‘But this makes no sense! If he cares about me, why doesn’t he want to spend time with me?’

Remember, you’re dealing with the humanitarian and egalitarian. Your relationship may be special to him, but it doesn’t emotionally outweigh his other relationships. It also can’t eclipse his downtime. 

He may be intentionally testing the waters by seeing how you respond and whether you can maintain your own independent, fun and exciting life without him. Prove you can—and in turn, you may just find him more interested in what you’ve been up to. 

Read next: How To Deal with Aquarius Man in a Relationship – Know What He Wants!

Aquarius Man Catching Feelings

He May Be Catching Feelings

Your Aquarius love interest may also be retreating in order to sort out his feelings. He’s a sensitive guy. But for all his intellectual genius, he fumbles when it comes to emotions.

When he starts to develop more serious feelings for you, he may need even more time apart to figure it all out. 

Yes, this seems strange, but Aquarius men don’t follow the rules. Rather than riding the tides of emotion, they run. 

The Aquarius man values sanctuary, and his safest space is his mind. He may try to analyze what he’s feeling. Your instinct might be to track him down and figure him out, but trust me, this will feel like a complete and total invasion. 

Wish You Knew What He Was Thinking?

That’s understandable—he’s an enigma. So many giving, loving women just like you drive themselves crazy trying to figure out what the silence is about. Is it me? Did he find someone else? 

Getting serious about a relationship is a complicated process for an Aquarius man. The simple formula of ‘I love her, she loves me, let’s be a couple…’ is not straightforward to him. It’s more like advanced calculus.

He will ruminate over what this relationship means for him. Will he lose his independence? Will you try to change him? Will the demands of the relationship interfere with his time experimenting, learning and exploring life? Will you be jealous of his friends? Will you expect him to show emotions or understand your feelings? All these things and more will circle through his mind.

All this time trying to figure out love conveniently distracts him from his vulnerability and emotions—and he’s okay with that. 

Read next: 5 Questions To Ask an Aquarius Man to Get Him Interested In You

What You Absolutely MUST Do Next to Keep Him Interested

Give him time and space. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. At the same time, he doesn’t want to get trapped in an emotional web—of his emotions or yours.

He will show up again. When he does, keep it light. By backing up, you give him space to become curious about you. 

Resist the temptation to hammer him with heavy emotions, and whatever you do, don’t act clingy, angry, or demanding. Instead, act as if nothing out of the ordinary has happened, and show him that you have unique, fun, and exciting things in your life that were keeping you so busy that you hardly noticed his absence. 

Don’t play with his feelings or try to provoke jealousy. Don’t flirt with someone else or let on that you may have replaced him. Even if this is your own test of his interest, it will only backfire. 

Also, don’t use the next point of contact as an opportunity to do heavy emotional dumping. Instead, keep him interested by bringing up unusual things to talk about or suggestions for unique dates or adventures. 

What to Do Next…  

This is a good time unlock the secrets of the mysterious Aquarius man’s personality. Try my compatibility quiz for a head start on whether this relationship has potential for you.

I’d love to hear your success stories or questions about keeping the interest of an Aquarius man. Leave your comment below, and I’ll respond to you personally as soon as possible!



8 thoughts on “The Best Ways to Respond When an Aquarius Man Ignores You

  1. I am Aquarius, he is Aquarius, been friends for several years. I was married, but not now. He has told me he loves me, even recently BUT probably not IN love because I am 80, he is 60. He stayed overnight on two separate occasions lately, no sleeping together tho. I mentioned the next time he wants to come over I would make corned beef, but need to know ahead of time so I could put it into a slow cooker. He has not answered my recent phone call, so I think he got the wrong idea of me trapping him into coming more often or something. Been 2 days now & I have NOT called him again, but did e-mail one time saying I miss him. I don’t expect this relationship to end up in marriage or anything but I would like to spend as much time with him as I can because I was given ten years to live & I am past that now. He does not know that & I don’t know if I should toss that out there. Dancing with him to the 5th Dimension Aquarius song is on my bucket list & it is on my computer to play anytime. I cry when I think about this happening. I want so much to be with him while I still can. I am still attractive & have a nice figure, not no granny. Do I tell him any of this?

    1. Hi Gail Jackson!

      Ok I think you should reach out to him and tell him you’re not trying to rush him and that you just really enjoy his company, that’s all. If he wants to try this, he will get back to you and let you know. If he doesn’t then you may need to just let go for awhile with no contact. Otherwise, tell him what I suggested and see what happens. I wish you all the love you deserve sweetheart!

  2. My husband is aquarious …he completly ignore me ….marriage just happen 6months ago …after 1month marriage he drop at my mother home and said i will pick you after 8days but he dont remain in touch even though he didt pic up my call …after 1and half month ..when realitive talk to him what re yo doing ..he said i will divorce him …i dont wamt him in my life back….its was hard time for me…he said such things which he never ever tell or discuss with me…after that i reqiest to him plz instead discussing problm with other plz discuss with me….but now after 2month he drop me at my mother home by saying that i ll come after 15 days and again he repeate previous procedure….i m very very tense….he dont tell me about himself .what he like …what he unlike….he is mystery for me…he want to divorce me but i dont want….plz guide me what i have to do now in this sotuation….

    1. Hi Rose!

      Oh my gosh. I am so sorry you’ve been dealing with this mess. He sounds very irresponsible and mean. He’s not going to change if he’s done this more than once sweetheart. I hate to say that but it’s true. Unless you can get him to go to counseling then it’s not going to work. If there is any hope it’s going to rely on you two going to counseling. That’s about the only way to save it. He needs to learn how to communicate with you better and learn to stay by your side. I wish you all the very best sweetheart!

  3. He is NOT a humanitarian. A humanitarian shouldn’t have the highest divorce rate out of any sign.
    If other Aquarius, Gemini, and LIBRA women say they’re hard to deal with, then that ought to tell everyone something. We’re the signs that actually TRINE them.
    Good relationships with them are truly rare. Even with water in their chart, you still gotta be careful, cuz it can actually just make em even more ridiculously sensitive and passive aggressive depending how its placed. :/
    Also just look at “successful” couples you see where someone is with an Aquarius man. He still flirts with other women and is one of the signs most likely to cheat. They’ll lie about it in a heartbeat, too. I’m surprised no one talks about how they freak out and get disrespectful. Once he starts having melt downs and throwing temper tantrums, he’ll try to create distance and make you second guess yourself.
    There’s no need to show him you’re a fun girl and never bring it up. CHECK HIM and walk away. Its a problem when girls start letting them do what they want. They like subtle control and get off on getting ppl to do whatever they want them to do. They try and maintain a mystery about them and tell you all about yourself but don’t want you to ever figure them out because that means they can’t control you!
    Uranus or not, they’re still a fixed sign. And Saturn loves to blame everyone else cuz they’re secretly scared of that karma.
    You just know a lot of Aquas have really bad luck and karma at times.

    So yeah, don’t chase these men ever. But not because it freaks HIM out, but because you demand to be treated with some respect.

    They know what they’re doing, trust me. They LOVE it knowing that ppl play into their manipulative little games.
    if he starts to treat you like crap, CUT HIM OFF. They’ll come running back cuz you’re not playing their games. Plus theyre the loneliest ppl in the world and very secretly need attention. No one will tell you that tho especially not them because Aquarius often lie about their own sign so that you don’t figure them out and because they often don’t understand themselves.

    For the Aquarians that are out there actually trying to better themselves against their own stubborn fixed sign nature, I’m proud of them. But unfortunately, most of the Aquarian men you’re ever likely to come across are selfish, misogynistic, with extremely low emotional intelligence.

    1. HI AirSignGoddess!

      Thank you for chiming in with your experience. There is so much more to this due to the fact that no one person’s chart is exactly the same as someone else. You are correct on so many points though as far as how the Aquarius men act and how stubborn they truly are. Saturn is something that we all have to work with in order to face who we really are deep inside. Air signs definitely don’t like doing that so yes, they can tend to lay blame elsewhere. They don’t take criticism very well or people calling them out with the truth. They take offense instead of listening. I totally get all of this and I thank you for sharing what you know. I appreciate it! I also wish you nothing but the very best in love and in life!

  4. My Aquarius man ..oh I have been emotionally stressed for past weeks now..after three months of meeting him.he changed..no communication,no care.so unpredictable..sometimes acts serious..sometimes not..I really need a help..because I love him so much and don’t want to loose him

    1. Hi Rose!

      You need to ask him how he feels and what he wants. To get him to talk to you, you may need to go silent. If he does care for you, he’ll come back around with apologies and an explanation. If you keep trying to reach out to him, he will probably ignore you or get annoyed. You deserve a lot better than this. Try the silence and see how that plays out. If he doesn’t make an effort then you may have to consider moving on. I do wish you all the very best!

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