4 Ways To Get An Aquarius Man To Stop Ignoring You

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Is your Aquarius man pulling the world famous silent act on you? How to get an Aquarius man to stop ignoring you. Here are some tips for you.

Is your Aquarius man pulling the world-famous silent act on you? Since you may not be sure why he’s doing it, here is some information that may help you to bring him out of his stone-cold silence.

1. Ignore Him

Often when someone gives you the silent treatment and either you act as though you don’t notice or you provide them with a slice of their quiet pie, they suddenly get curious.

This could make him ask you what is going on or will open him up to tell you what you did that made him mad enough or upset enough to cut you off. Some Aquarius men even disappear for a while.

These men love their freedom and covet the use for it when they feel they need to. If they feel overwhelmed, overburdened, angry, or upset; they will retreat from you and anyone else.

So if this was something petty and you’re left wondering what you could have done to make him zip his lips up; give it back to him. It will make him wonder what is going on with you.

It will make him come forward and ask why you’re silent with him. If you act as though you don’t know anything is wrong, he’ll be confused there too. This will counteract the silence.

This could sound easier to do than it is. However, if you’re going to be with an Aquarius long term, you need to know how to deal with his silent treatments that he’s so eager to use.

2. Take a Break

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What I mean by taking a break isn’t that you should break up. What I mean by this is that you should pull back yourself and allow him time and space. He may need to think about things.

If that’s the case, pushing him or prodding him will only get him to shut down further. He has to feel that he still has some bit of freedom he can utilize when he needs to.

Some people, in general, need time to cool off, mull over everything that is going on or whatever happened. It makes it easier for him to wrap his mind around things and figure out what to do next.

Indeed, if he’s upset, it would make sense to let him think about it. It may also give you time to cool off as well so that when you’re able to talk, you can easily do it and solve any issue that could be lingering.

Give him some space and let him use his free time to figure out what is the right thing to do. This usually works, and he’ll come back around ready to talk to you once he’s able to.

Though it may seem as though he should talk to you right then and let you know that you’ve done something he doesn’t like but with these men, they tend to harbor it and need time.

If he takes too much time though or disappears for some time, you may have to take the more blunt approach and ask him straight out what is going on.

3. Give Him a Choice

Honestly, if he’s ignoring you or not giving you the time and attention you deserve, it may be time to tell him to straighten up or get lost. It’s not the most appealing option, but sometimes it has to be laid out.

You cannot make an Aquarius man do anything. So if he’s giving you the silent treatment for no reason, is spending less and less time with you, is cutting you off from sex, or is spending far more time away from you; he may be done anyway.

Consider your options and decide whether or not you are willing to wait him out and see if he comes back and will mend fences or if he’ll continue trying to manipulate you by staying away.

Are you spending too much time pining over him? If you are, he may see this as a dependency, and this turns him off. However; if you’re being rational and going about your own business and he’s still acting like this; time to choose.

If it gets to this point, you’re going to have to tell him that you need to know what is going on and whether or not he wants to be in the relationship anymore. If he does; he’ll do whatever he has to to make it right.

Though if he’s already pulling back, he may already be ready to go and hasn’t had the gumption to tell you as much.

4. Watch His Actions vs. Words

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While he is ignoring you; what is he doing? Is he spending more time with friends or out alone? Is he ignoring you while he’s with you by chatting with other people on social media?

These could be signs that he’s ready to break up and just hasn’t taken the initiative. However, if he’s still acting relatively normal but just quiet; leave him be as he’s mulling something over.

To know what the correct action to take; you have to observe him for a while to see what exactly it is he’s doing. Either he’s heading toward breaking it off, or he’s merely thinking things over.

He could have things going on in his mind that also have nothing to do with you so if you push him because he’s quiet, he may resent you and feel you’re trying to take away his freedom or that you’re too aggressive — neither of which he likes.

So before you go off all gung ho to cut him off, give him silence, or give him options, watch him. Seriously observe him for a day and see what he does, how he talks, and how he copes with everyday life.

Once you have that information in the bag, you’ll understand what it is he’s trying to convey, and you can act accordingly.


How did you get an Aquarius man to stop ignoring you? Let me know!

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Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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31 thoughts on “4 Ways To Get An Aquarius Man To Stop Ignoring You

  1. To whom it may concern.
    I started talking to an Aquarius man that i met over social media. Now we have beein talking on and off for 9 months now and the last 2months it started getting more serious now we haven’t met yet but he started giving me the silent treatment and some times his just ignoring me flat. Now i have talked to him about it and even asked him if he wants me to move on with my life and he just ends up asking, if i want to give up on us is that what i want? Well hello noo it’s not what i want heheh but the last two weeks it just got wors and again i asked him to tell me what’s going on and said to him if he wants me to move on with my life he must just tell me I answerd his question also before hand lol and said noo i don’t and that I love him, he then replied by saying I love you soo fucking much and sorry things are just hectic at work. Now its just getting even wors soo what would you advise me to do if possible please help me I’m also divorced and he is lot younger than me but i did tell him I do understand that he needs his own time and still has a lot of girl friends and i do trust him after he asked me if i do soo please please help me….

    Kind regards

  2. Tell him you want to be friends if you want to stop the mind games. They want to see what makes you tick. I loathe tests so I’m out. I gave mine the silent treatment. Waiting for him to call for me to end it. And ours was still new but his attitude is disgusting.

  3. Hey, I’m 16…I know I’m a little young but my aqarius boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months now and he’s doing the exact same thing! He ignores me from time to time and when I comment on his posts on Instagram he just likes the comments!! Even a regular person who isn’t dating me would respond with “thanks” or anything like that! Sometimes I feel like he’s ashamed to let the world know we date. And most of the time when I call him he doesn’t answer and texts me “talk later babe” or sends me a paragraph about how stressful his week has been and how he’s overwhelmed with school. And yes I do understand that, but everyday ?. I swear if I got one more text like that I’ll go crazy! I love him with all of my heart but I’m not getting the attention I need, and when I finally do talk to him our time is limited because he’s always falling asleep… am I that boring? And I wouldn’t know since the only thing he does is call me cute.. and when I’m talking he doesn’t pay attention because he too busy “getting lost in my eyes”? and EVERYTHING I DO IS CUTE APPARENTLY. But when I talk to him I feel comfortable like getting something I’ve alwasy wanted, or even talking to a celebrity or walking around light as air. But lately I’ve been feeling so empty and bored Idk I just feel like he isn’t interested anymore, and that this relationship is one sided. I used to get “Goodmorning” texts and even “goodnight” texts now I rarely hear from him.. but he has all the time in the world to be on Snapchat and watch his story just to see what he’s up to because I miss him like crazy. And stalk his Instagram just to see pictures of the man I love. And it’s already hard because he lives two hours away!Also I saw this one picture on instgram where he was groping another girls butt, but not actually touching it… idk if that makes sense. But it really pissed me off but I thought I shouldn’t say anything because I don’t want him to feel trapped and like he can’t have friends and be free to be himself. I just want him to stop being so “busy”… because my Mother said “if he really loves you he’ll make time for you”. So if u go based off how much attention I’m getting he doesn’t love me at all. And I really don’t want that to be true.

    1. Hi we are in the same boat.My Aqua is just alike your aqua.I tell u , IGNORE HIM.DO NOT TEXT BACK and do your silent treatment like how he did to U. I swear , he crazy on me everyday now. Reply him just in border line do not show too much interest.

      1. So I’ve been talking to this Aquarius dude for sometime now and we’re not dating or anything but it was so odd how we’ve been talking basically non stop and randomly out of nowhere he stops texting me or even Bothering to open any of messages but yet he still views my story’s on social media?????? I’m left confused and not knowing what I did wrong. I need help please

        1. Hey!

          I’ve been online friends with an Aqua guy for a long time on and off, after not speaking for years we got really close over a couple months, and finally we decided to meet. Had a great couple days and once returned we became even closer friends. We flirt but we’re super open and almost best friends, talk on the phone for hours, everyday we talk at least once on the phone and text throughout. He’s done the disappearing thing where he says he cuts off from everyone, usually a couple days. It’s been a week now. I’ve sent countless texts expressing my worries and wondering where he is. He’s still viewing my social media but that’s it. It’s given me the worst anxiety and everyone is saying to move on and leave it. I don’t know what to do 🙁

  4. Hey!I m 18 years old & my boyfriend is 23 we met on Instagram and in a relationship from
    8 months he says he love me but he gives me silent treatment from time to time he didn’t talk to me 4 months then texted me why u texting me? I answered I want to know he said if u be my friend nothing else I will be a single text away .I said block me but he said no we can talk from time to time.after few days I tell him I love u and sorry I will never ask u for commitment and asked him do u love me ? He said offcourse that’s y I m in contact with you otherwise I don’t like to talk with everyone .after this everything will become fine he started talking to me like lovers talk but with a gap of 3 to 4 days whenever I texted him missing u he answered me I s busy and talk to me
    Now from almost 1 month he is again not talking to me I can’t understand why he is doing this?he loves me or not ?y he didn’t make commitment?

    1. Hi Anna! Thanks for sharing your Aquarius guy situation. Your guy sounds like he’s a bit of a mess honey. He sounds confused and like he needs to figure his own life out before he tries to romance someone. If he didn’t make a clear commitment to you then you may not get what you want from him because as he sees it, he doesn’t have any strings attached to you. There are many things that you may want to learn about the Aquarius guy before you make any decisions. Check out my book here as it may help you.

  5. I am 21 and I met my aquarius (23 y.o.) boyfriend online a few months ago … After some months we spent getting to know each other online( video calls etc) , we finally had the chance to meet and spend time together for some days where we realised how much we enjoy being together… Because he lives in a different country, i had to go back to my country so we decided to keep this relationship even though it’s difficult to pull off. He has told me many times , before we even meet from upclose, that he gets sad when we spend time together through the distance ( like video calling) and that it makes him want me even more to be around him. The problem is that after i got back he has become really distant, even though he is not cold or something like that when we text or talk, he has stopped calling me on the phone and avoids to spend time with me.It’s been 2 months that we are apart again and even though he hasn’t changed the way he talks to me, he is really avoiding to talk to me, he just never calls , he only texts and takes hours to reply..Of course i asked him why he does that and he just says that there is nothing wrong, its just that he doesnt enjoy spending time with me over the distance and that if i would be around he would be with me all the time… even though i can see his point of view i really feel that he doesnt care about how i feel and how much i need more communication even though he knows and he admits that he knows that i need it…

    1. Hi there! It sounds like your Aquarius guy isn’t really sure if a long distance relatoinship is the right thing for him. Many of them are good with it but after a period of time passes, they decide they really do need the physical connection also. This may make him think things over and try to figure out what he truly wants and this makes him pull back thus becoming cold and not responsive. If you’d like to know more about the Aquarius man and what to do, please check out my book here.

  6. hi anna

    i have aquarius boyfriend i am an aries girl i know it sounds a bit harsh but i used to tell him i dont want to see and be with him anymore sometimes i feel guilty though because were 4 years.he really gets upset and always chased me…if i started acting this way he gets crazy …which i am just honest and true to myself i find him selfish and attention seeker..i want to get him out of my life what i must do..he never stops and get me chase all the time..

    1. Hi Margarita!

      You need to put your foot down and not let him come back. Change your number, block him on social media, and eliminate him from your life entirely. If he cannot get in contact with you then he will finally give up. You can cut the cord you two share. You have to be vigilant though. No backsliding or he’ll come right back in.

  7. Been with my aqua for 5 months. I’m Scorpio woman. We have known each other over 20 years and friends. I got a call from some woman that I didn’t know saying he was meeting her for hookup. We had never had cross words before this. I lost my temper and called and texted him about it and broke up before giving him the benefit of the doubt because I had no concrete facts of the situation . We were planning to marry this year. It’s been almost 2 weeks of silence and rejecting my phone calls. Is there any hope to save this relationship?

    1. Hi Mysti! Thank you for writing in about your complicated situation. Aquarius men harden their hearts when they are angry or hurt. He’s probably trying to process why this happened and why you’d fly off the handle at him without talking to him. All you can really do is give it some more time, keep periodically sending him an apologetic text asking him to talk to you face to face. If he does respond and agrees to meet up, give him a heartfelt apology. Not for what you accused him of because you still don’t know what that was about but more for accusing him without talking to him first. Tell him you should have talked to him or asked him before getting upset. As a Scorpio woman, you reacted to your emotions and what you felt. Sadly, this wounded or angered your Aquarius. So again, time, patience, and apologies. If you’d like to know more about the Aquarius man as it may help you, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.

  8. Hello,

    I have been seeing my Aqua man for 6 months now. Just recently the beginning of July he stopped talking to me out of no where. Before hand we would talk almost every day and we would see each other every weekend. The last time I was with him he invited me over to his home for the first time. We enjoyed each others company and everything went well. A couple days after that we spoke and he explained to me that he was stressed out do to work. Since then I have not heard from him. Ive called and text but yet I have not received anything. I read online that Aqua people do enjoy their space and need time to think & I think for a month now I should have at least communicated with him but still nothing.

    What do you think I should do?

    1. Hi Tori!

      It’s true that Aquarius men love their space but how much space are we talking about? Days? Weeks? Months? There is such a thing as too much space which leads to a relationship end. Why don’t you check on him and see how he’s doing. Send him a simple text saying you’re thinking of him and wondering how he’s doing. He should answer you but if he doesn’t then you may need to prepare for him to be trying to end things. Keep your head up!

  9. Me and my aquarius man.Had a argument due to him not communicating.Which I talk to him about over and over.He uses wifi to contact me.However if he’s not near wifi he cannot call.But his brother has a phone.Im like u could’ve called me from your brother phone.I treated him well was there when his family wasn’t.Now hes saying I never want him to do nothing.I always want him around me all the time.I had a problem with him going outta town with his sister.And tht was because neither one of them had a liscense.And he was the driver.Also hes only off work on fridays.When we both wake up.We chill for 3 hours then hes bck at work.Then it’s days tht I always had to remind him to call me or he’ll take hours responding to my text messages.Hes been very mean lately.And since our argument he’s been gone for a week.Hasnt called me or anything.I also recently found out he’s been in another relationship for two years.Im like how he was over here day & night.She says they haven’t been sexually active or anything.But it’s just the point he lied about not having another woman.So we were into about tht to.But I was wondering if they been together 2 years.Why haven’t they been intimate.Found text messages with him calling her wife.Jus like he call me.He got rid of the phone to make me secure about the situation.But yet she says he was still calling her.Should I jus say fuck him completely.Cause Im considering it.People are telling me to give him time away.Eventually he’ll come around and explain himself.What should I do???

    1. Hi Queeny!

      Wait so he’s giving you distance and tells you that he had another girl? They didn’t have sex? That doesn’t sound right to me. I think you need to trust your intuition. These are red flags that cannot be ignored sweetheart. He doesn’t sound as into you as you are to him. Blow him off and if he tries to reach out tell him that you have needs and if he cannot meet them then it’s not going to work. He’ll either step up or he’ll move on. Do what is best for YOU.

  10. Hi i’m a libra, i have been seeing my aqua man since 7 months now, a month ago his behaviour suddenly changed he stopped initiating conversations like he usually did and I did tell him numerous times that it’s bothering me and upon insisting he told me that he’s stress and probably has depression and needs to see a therapist and that I’m the only person he has told about his depression i got worried and I offered to book his appointment with the shrink but he said he’ll manage, i thanked him for trusting me and telling me about his depression I wanted to meet him but whenever I asked him he said we’ll meet soon, after sometime he literally stopped talking to me and i don’t know what got into I blocked him on WhatsApp where we usually chat in hopes that he would contact me on some other platform but he didn’t, i wanted to text him on his birthday which I did but at 11:30pm when his birthday almost got over, he didn’t respond, next day I apologized for disappearing on him and gave my reasons but he still isn’t replying I don’t want to lose him, would really appreciate your advice

    1. Hi Nita!

      If your Aquarius guy is depressed and in need of therapy then there is much you can do. He has to want to get the help and then actually do it otherwise he’s not going to get better and not able to maintain any sort of relationship with anyone. He has to be good with himself in order to be good with anyone else. He isn’t right now and is showing you that he cannot do it. Give him time and space to figure himself out. You can send a text once a week just to say hi and wish him well but I wouldn’t try to do much more than that or he’ll think you’re pressuring him which will lead to him never speaking to you again. Be careful and always do what is right for you sweetheart! You deserve the best.

  11. Okay hello! So I’m a Libra woman my crush is an Aquarius of course. It all started with him asking my friend about me always and he wanted to talk to me so when I finally agreed everything went amazing! He was nice to talk to and always informed me and apologized when he was busy he even would FaceTime me because he wanted to see me but then slowly it started getting confusing we would see each other throughout the week and weekend maybe twice a week if not once he would even ask if I was going to my friends outings so he could be there too and I took it as ok he wants to see me and sometimes I would sense that I maybe make him nervous? Because of how he would act like he wouldn’t talk directly toward me but some of the things he would talk about would be at me but he would say it loud enough for me to hear? Maybe It was just me thinking that I have no idea but anyway he comes from a marriage and before some things happened with the marriage where the wife cheated. On this particular day he made a status saying how can I trust you if my own blood brother turned against me? And after that he wouldn’t answer my calls or texts. I seen him the last night I tried calling and at first he only said hey and went on with his business and then when he was leaving he gave me a hug and that was it. I haven’t done anything wrong I only talked to him but he’s been on social media ever since then. What did I do? It was going great we even planned several dates and I don’t get asked out often so this would be my first real relationship encounter if we had even made it that far. Please tell me it’s not over!

    1. Hi Asia!

      Alright so, Aquarius men tend to tell you the truth if you ask them a question. That being said, you need to ask him what you did wrong. Tell him you have no idea what you did wrong and you cannot fix or change things if you have no idea. He should tell you what is up and what he needs or wants. Don’t be afraid to be honest and ask for honesty from him. Knowing is half the battle but at least you’d have an answer from him.

  12. Hello Anna,
    I have developed a unique relationship and a special bond with an Aquarius over the past couple of years. Me being a Scorpio. We used to be colleagues before he changed his job in September 2019. We have kept in contact on a regular basis. And meet on occasion. Sometimes with the whole old team. Sometimes just the two of us. With time I have developed romantic feelings for him. The only problem is that he’s already in a relationship. With whom he has two younger kids. So I send him a text saying I have feelings that are not suitable, and therefore I should leave him alone. Which also breaks my heart, because I considered him a close and dear friend. It has now been three weeks, and I haven’t heard anything from him since I told him. And I feel like I’m in a mental prison not being able to have closure. And this being our/my last words. Because my heart and logic are not really agreeing on what I really want in this situation. What should I do?

    1. Hi Sad Scorpio,

      You did the right thing by telling him that it’s not suitable for you two to be starting anything while he’s already in a relationship. That will only cause problems for everyone involved and you don’t deserve to be anyone’s second choice. What closure do you need honey? You told him it’s not suitable therefore it’s an “end”. You’re going to have to resolve this feeling inside yourself in order to free yourself. You know it’s not right to continue being with someone who has someone else. He has to end it with her and be free in order to be with you totally. Unless that happens, you need to do what is best for you. Trust your intuition sweetheart and do what your inner soul tells you is the right thing. I wish you all the best!

  13. So he has been my school crush in 2004 and it was 2years back that I started talking to him .. he is in a relationship since 8yrs. He does know how I feel for him , I took my chances n confessed everything, 6 months back he did tell me that he loves me as well , this week he says he feels guilty on the whole thing but he wants me n his gf both the same time he doesnt want to give up on me, he gives me every detail of his day like what he cooked for lunch, dinner etc etc … but he keeps giving me silent treatment and I respect totally and after some gaps when I get back to him it is like I am his everything. . So I don’t understand what’s really up his end . And what does he want from he just sounds confused ..

    1. Hi XyZ!

      It sounds like he’s not going to give up his girlfriend. He wants to have you both. He said that part already on his own. Are you alright being his side chic? That’s all you’ll ever be unless he actually decides that you’re more important than she is. Until that happens, he’s going to bounce back and forth because he can. Don’t let him do that to you. Stand up and tell him either “her or me, not both”. You might want to check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more information.

  14. Hi Anna
    I am a Taurus woman with a Aquarius man we have been together for one year now, he ignores me over silly arguments every other month. Last month I caught him looking at a woman and confronted him because it hurt my feelings, he blamed me straight away, he then blocked me two days later even though I didn’t make contact at all.
    Highly confused because I don’t understand the silence. He feels very deeply for me but he is not consistent which worries me.

    How do I deal with the situation once he does decide to message me?
    And how do I tell him that it concerns me that he is not consistent in terms of putting in effort towards the relationship? I feel I am the only that cares about our relationship.

    Thank you

    1. Hi Nish!

      Aquarius men are flirts. If you are worried because he’s looking at another woman, you’re probably feeling insecure about his desire for you. Many people “look” at other people because it’s a fun variety but it doesn’t mean he wants her more than you or that he’s going to leave you for someone else, etc. If you’ve ever given him other jealousy tendencies then this is turning him off big time. Aquarius men don’t like jealous women. He’s probably trying to think about whether this is working for him or not. Reach out to him tell him you’d like have a real sit down talk. Don’t be emotional when you do. Be logical. You might want to check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more information.

  15. I am a Libra and I was talking to my Aquarius man for 6 months straight. I am the texter and he is the phone caller. He would call me on the way to work, on the way to lunch, on the way back from lunch, on the way home and then we would talk on the phone for hours once he made it home. He would even call me when he left the house to get something to eat if he wasn’t cooking at home. We would be on the phone cooking with one another and swapping recipe ideas. He eventually shared his dreams with me in regards to his business ventures. He is a very private person and “Only a Select Few Know” what he has going on. He has shared his dreams, hobbies and a lot of personal things about himself. In return I have been 100% an open book with him.

    We have been friends for over 20 years. And we did have an entanglement at one time. I moved out of town and just came back after being gone for the last 15 years. I am married and came back to my hometown to get closer to my family to get a divorce. He knows I am married. It’s no secret.

    We started talking when he jumped in my DM one day flirting with me. Then he started calling me all the time, everyday. It went from him just flirting with me to us really getting closer than we were back in the day. I’m not going to lie we were initially talking about hooking up. Yes, I am married, but in a very volatile marriage. I haven’t been sexually active with my husband in over a year. So when he started flirting, I liked the attention. However, somewhere along the line it changed for him and eventually it changed for me. I thought WE caught feelings. He no longer wanted to just hook-up. Although we talked on the phone ALL the time, we did not spend physical time together after the first couple of months when he would come see me at my Dad’s house and for a few hours.

    DISCLAIMER: He knows my WHOLE family because he is my brother-in-law’s 1st cousin. He has only met my husband one time. And I knew him before I knew my husband.

    Any way after he caught feelings, he no longer wanted to come around me physically because he said he wouldn’t want anyone to do that to him if he was married. He never really said the words, “I want to be with you after you get a divorce.” However, when he would talk about the future he talked about it with me in it. When I asked him, “What are we doing?” He would say, “Nothing right now until your situation changes.” However, he would still call me EVERY SINGLE DAY whenever he was free. I would text him and instead of him texting me back he would pick up the phone and call. We have even spoken about marriage.

    PROBLEM: He called me one morning on the way to work, I told him I would call him at lunch, since he is the one always calling. I called him and he didn’t answer. No big deal. I called him about an hour later because I know he doesn’t have to be back at work for 3 hours. Still no answer. I texted him because he asked me to do something for him that pertains to one of his businesses. He texted me right back that he got some bad news earlier that day and he wouldn’t be able to take care of what he asked me to do. The first thing I told him is, “Don’t shut me out.” And that’s exactly what he did. He texted me that he would tell me everything later, but he totally went SILENT on me. I was SHOCKED at the fact that he didn’t think he owed me any type of explanation after talking to me everyday on the phone. I told him not to shut down on me because he had gotten mad at me before and stopped talking to me for a week. I told him that lack of communication is a Deal Breaker for me. I dealt with that in my marriage I wouldn’t deal with it in my next relationship. And BAM here he does it again.
    A week later, I find out the bad news is that his sister was given 3 months to live from cancer. She is like a 2nd Mom to him. He already lost his mother to cancer and here he is about to go through it again with his sister. I understand that everyone grieves differently and this is a very sensitive situation. But it was unfair how he completely shut me out.
    I don’t call him, but I called him a couple of times. NO ANSWER. I texted him to let him know I was concerned and thinking about him. NO ANSWER.
    I eventually got him to call me and when I tried to ask him what was going on with us what am I supposed to do because he went silent on me he kinda got upset and basically told me, “I’m going to say this and I am going to jump off the phone. This is how I deal with this stuff. I did the same thing when my Mom passed. There is nothing that anyone can do about it. I know it’s not fair, but this is how I deal.” The only thing I could say was, “OK.” but I was HURT!!!
    It’s been almost 1.5 mlonths now. I’ve went from concerned, to confused, to hurt, to angry. So much so that I’ve sent some crazy texts.
    When I finally got fed up, I sent one to purposely poke the bear because I just wanted some type of reaction. I got it….LOL….He was upset and told me that he feels the best thing to do is for us to “Leave everything alone.” because I don’t seem to understand that he is dealing with his sister dying at any moment and all he is getting from me is, “What about me?”
    I reached out to him a couple of weeks after that text to ask him if he was referring to our friendship also. He said, “No. We’re good. That situation just HAS me upset.” The situation being my last text. He misinterpreted something that I texted. I apologized via text and a voice message. But I still can’t get him to talk to me besides a very informal text here and there.

    I’m at my wits end. I was 100% invested in this relationship. Again, yes I am married. However, we are more like roommates at this point. We live in the same house, but we live in separate rooms. I am still here because I am finishing up school and we have 2 small kids. I can’t just pack up and leave because he has taken all the money away from me because I have been a stay-at-home mom while I finish school.

    I wish I had read your blogs and newsletter prior to me blowing him up. I feel rejected. I didn’t realize that someone could just ignore you like this when they are in some type of relationship with you just because they can. I think it’s rude, immature and irresponsible.
    I guess I’m writing because I don’t know whether to move on or stay the course and wait for him to come around. I know he’s going to come back around. I feel that in my soul. I just don’t know how to react when he does. If the situation wasn’t what it was, I would have told him to kick rocks by now. However, too many people told me this is the way that he deals. However, those people aren’t in the same type of relationship that we are in.

    Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, I know. “Janey, you are married. Why are you even worried about another man? Work on your damn marriage.” I worked on it for over 13 years. I’m over it. I worked hard. But, I can’t fix someone that doesn’t think they are broke. Hurt people, hurt people and I got tired being hurt mentally, financially, emotionally, sexually and some times physically by my husband.
    I deserve better and better came in the form of this Aquarius man that I’ve always had a connection with.


    At this point, I’m about over it. In the beginning I told him I would be here for him, but hell I didn’t think I wouldn’t hear from him at all. I am wondering if he is waiting on his sister to die before he reaches back out to me. I see him on social media so I know he is still running his businesses. He still reaches out to me concerning the business when he needs to. All I asked him to do is to call me one time just so I can hear his voice because I miss him. NOTHING.

    1. Hi Janey!

      You are right. It takes two to make it or break it. If he cannot even give you a simple phone call then that speaks volumes after everything you’ve been through already honey. You need to work on taking care of YOU for a change and not worry about anyone else. When you get yourself where you want to be, the right love will emerge and be there for you. I hope you don’t write Aquarius men off due to this one guy. I wish you all the best.

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