I am 21 and I met my aquarius (23 y.o.) boyfriend online a few months ago … After some months we spent getting to know each other online( video calls etc) , we finally had the chance to meet and spend time together for some days where we realised how much we enjoy being together… Because he lives in a different country, i had to go back to my country so we decided to keep this relationship even though it’s difficult to pull off. He has told me many times , before we even meet from upclose, that he gets sad when we spend time together through the distance ( like video calling) and that it makes him want me even more to be around him. The problem is that after i got back he has become really distant, even though he is not cold or something like that when we text or talk, he has stopped calling me on the phone and avoids to spend time with me.It’s been 2 months that we are apart again and even though he hasn’t changed the way he talks to me, he is really avoiding to talk to me, he just never calls , he only texts and takes hours to reply..Of course i asked him why he does that and he just says that there is nothing wrong, its just that he doesnt enjoy spending time with me over the distance and that if i would be around he would be with me all the time… even though i can see his point of view i really feel that he doesnt care about how i feel and how much i need more communication even though he knows and he admits that he knows that i need it…

Been with my aqua for 5 months. I’m Scorpio woman. We have known each other over 20 years and friends. I got a call from some woman that I didn’t know saying he was meeting her for hookup. We had never had cross words before this. I lost my temper and called and texted him about it and broke up before giving him the benefit of the doubt because I had no concrete facts of the situation . We were planning to marry this year. It’s been almost 2 weeks of silence and rejecting my phone calls. Is there any hope to save this relationship?

Me and my aquarius man.Had a argument due to him not communicating.Which I talk to him about over and over.He uses wifi to contact me.However if he’s not near wifi he cannot call.But his brother has a phone.Im like u could’ve called me from your brother phone.I treated him well was there when his family wasn’t.Now hes saying I never want him to do nothing.I always want him around me all the time.I had a problem with him going outta town with his sister.And tht was because neither one of them had a liscense.And he was the driver.Also hes only off work on fridays.When we both wake up.We chill for 3 hours then hes bck at work.Then it’s days tht I always had to remind him to call me or he’ll take hours responding to my text messages.Hes been very mean lately.And since our argument he’s been gone for a week.Hasnt called me or anything.I also recently found out he’s been in another relationship for two years.Im like how he was over here day & night.She says they haven’t been sexually active or anything.But it’s just the point he lied about not having another woman.So we were into about tht to.But I was wondering if they been together 2 years.Why haven’t they been intimate.Found text messages with him calling her wife.Jus like he call me.He got rid of the phone to make me secure about the situation.But yet she says he was still calling her.Should I jus say fuck him completely.Cause Im considering it.People are telling me to give him time away.Eventually he’ll come around and explain himself.What should I do???

Okay hello! So I’m a Libra woman my crush is an Aquarius of course. It all started with him asking my friend about me always and he wanted to talk to me so when I finally agreed everything went amazing! He was nice to talk to and always informed me and apologized when he was busy he even would FaceTime me because he wanted to see me but then slowly it started getting confusing we would see each other throughout the week and weekend maybe twice a week if not once he would even ask if I was going to my friends outings so he could be there too and I took it as ok he wants to see me and sometimes I would sense that I maybe make him nervous? Because of how he would act like he wouldn’t talk directly toward me but some of the things he would talk about would be at me but he would say it loud enough for me to hear? Maybe It was just me thinking that I have no idea but anyway he comes from a marriage and before some things happened with the marriage where the wife cheated. On this particular day he made a status saying how can I trust you if my own blood brother turned against me? And after that he wouldn’t answer my calls or texts. I seen him the last night I tried calling and at first he only said hey and went on with his business and then when he was leaving he gave me a hug and that was it. I haven’t done anything wrong I only talked to him but he’s been on social media ever since then. What did I do? It was going great we even planned several dates and I don’t get asked out often so this would be my first real relationship encounter if we had even made it that far. Please tell me it’s not over!

So he has been my school crush in 2004 and it was 2years back that I started talking to him .. he is in a relationship since 8yrs. He does know how I feel for him , I took my chances n confessed everything, 6 months back he did tell me that he loves me as well , this week he says he feels guilty on the whole thing but he wants me n his gf both the same time he doesnt want to give up on me, he gives me every detail of his day like what he cooked for lunch, dinner etc etc … but he keeps giving me silent treatment and I respect totally and after some gaps when I get back to him it is like I am his everything. . So I don’t understand what’s really up his end . And what does he want from he just sounds confused ..

I am a Libra and I was talking to my Aquarius man for 6 months straight. I am the texter and he is the phone caller. He would call me on the way to work, on the way to lunch, on the way back from lunch, on the way home and then we would talk on the phone for hours once he made it home. He would even call me when he left the house to get something to eat if he wasn’t cooking at home. We would be on the phone cooking with one another and swapping recipe ideas. He eventually shared his dreams with me in regards to his business ventures. He is a very private person and “Only a Select Few Know” what he has going on. He has shared his dreams, hobbies and a lot of personal things about himself. In return I have been 100% an open book with him.

We have been friends for over 20 years. And we did have an entanglement at one time. I moved out of town and just came back after being gone for the last 15 years. I am married and came back to my hometown to get closer to my family to get a divorce. He knows I am married. It’s no secret.

We started talking when he jumped in my DM one day flirting with me. Then he started calling me all the time, everyday. It went from him just flirting with me to us really getting closer than we were back in the day. I’m not going to lie we were initially talking about hooking up. Yes, I am married, but in a very volatile marriage. I haven’t been sexually active with my husband in over a year. So when he started flirting, I liked the attention. However, somewhere along the line it changed for him and eventually it changed for me. I thought WE caught feelings. He no longer wanted to just hook-up. Although we talked on the phone ALL the time, we did not spend physical time together after the first couple of months when he would come see me at my Dad’s house and for a few hours.

DISCLAIMER: He knows my WHOLE family because he is my brother-in-law’s 1st cousin. He has only met my husband one time. And I knew him before I knew my husband.

Any way after he caught feelings, he no longer wanted to come around me physically because he said he wouldn’t want anyone to do that to him if he was married. He never really said the words, “I want to be with you after you get a divorce.” However, when he would talk about the future he talked about it with me in it. When I asked him, “What are we doing?” He would say, “Nothing right now until your situation changes.” However, he would still call me EVERY SINGLE DAY whenever he was free. I would text him and instead of him texting me back he would pick up the phone and call. We have even spoken about marriage.

PROBLEM: He called me one morning on the way to work, I told him I would call him at lunch, since he is the one always calling. I called him and he didn’t answer. No big deal. I called him about an hour later because I know he doesn’t have to be back at work for 3 hours. Still no answer. I texted him because he asked me to do something for him that pertains to one of his businesses. He texted me right back that he got some bad news earlier that day and he wouldn’t be able to take care of what he asked me to do. The first thing I told him is, “Don’t shut me out.” And that’s exactly what he did. He texted me that he would tell me everything later, but he totally went SILENT on me. I was SHOCKED at the fact that he didn’t think he owed me any type of explanation after talking to me everyday on the phone. I told him not to shut down on me because he had gotten mad at me before and stopped talking to me for a week. I told him that lack of communication is a Deal Breaker for me. I dealt with that in my marriage I wouldn’t deal with it in my next relationship. And BAM here he does it again.
A week later, I find out the bad news is that his sister was given 3 months to live from cancer. She is like a 2nd Mom to him. He already lost his mother to cancer and here he is about to go through it again with his sister. I understand that everyone grieves differently and this is a very sensitive situation. But it was unfair how he completely shut me out.
I don’t call him, but I called him a couple of times. NO ANSWER. I texted him to let him know I was concerned and thinking about him. NO ANSWER.
I eventually got him to call me and when I tried to ask him what was going on with us what am I supposed to do because he went silent on me he kinda got upset and basically told me, “I’m going to say this and I am going to jump off the phone. This is how I deal with this stuff. I did the same thing when my Mom passed. There is nothing that anyone can do about it. I know it’s not fair, but this is how I deal.” The only thing I could say was, “OK.” but I was HURT!!!
It’s been almost 1.5 mlonths now. I’ve went from concerned, to confused, to hurt, to angry. So much so that I’ve sent some crazy texts.
When I finally got fed up, I sent one to purposely poke the bear because I just wanted some type of reaction. I got it….LOL….He was upset and told me that he feels the best thing to do is for us to “Leave everything alone.” because I don’t seem to understand that he is dealing with his sister dying at any moment and all he is getting from me is, “What about me?”
I reached out to him a couple of weeks after that text to ask him if he was referring to our friendship also. He said, “No. We’re good. That situation just HAS me upset.” The situation being my last text. He misinterpreted something that I texted. I apologized via text and a voice message. But I still can’t get him to talk to me besides a very informal text here and there.

I’m at my wits end. I was 100% invested in this relationship. Again, yes I am married. However, we are more like roommates at this point. We live in the same house, but we live in separate rooms. I am still here because I am finishing up school and we have 2 small kids. I can’t just pack up and leave because he has taken all the money away from me because I have been a stay-at-home mom while I finish school.

I wish I had read your blogs and newsletter prior to me blowing him up. I feel rejected. I didn’t realize that someone could just ignore you like this when they are in some type of relationship with you just because they can. I think it’s rude, immature and irresponsible.
I guess I’m writing because I don’t know whether to move on or stay the course and wait for him to come around. I know he’s going to come back around. I feel that in my soul. I just don’t know how to react when he does. If the situation wasn’t what it was, I would have told him to kick rocks by now. However, too many people told me this is the way that he deals. However, those people aren’t in the same type of relationship that we are in.

Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, I know. “Janey, you are married. Why are you even worried about another man? Work on your damn marriage.” I worked on it for over 13 years. I’m over it. I worked hard. But, I can’t fix someone that doesn’t think they are broke. Hurt people, hurt people and I got tired being hurt mentally, financially, emotionally, sexually and some times physically by my husband.
I deserve better and better came in the form of this Aquarius man that I’ve always had a connection with.

Advice?

At this point, I’m about over it. In the beginning I told him I would be here for him, but hell I didn’t think I wouldn’t hear from him at all. I am wondering if he is waiting on his sister to die before he reaches back out to me. I see him on social media so I know he is still running his businesses. He still reaches out to me concerning the business when he needs to. All I asked him to do is to call me one time just so I can hear his voice because I miss him. NOTHING.