Are you hot and heavy into an Aquarius man who for whatever reason, doesn’t seem to want to commit to you? Here are some things you may want to keep in mind if you want to learn how to get an Aquarius to commit.
Aquarius Man and his NEED for Freedom
If you want to get an Aquarius man to commit, you need to respect their freedom over everything and anything else. They don’t want to necessarily be alone forever but they don’t want to give their free time and space to anyone either.
These men want to do their thing their way and in their timing. The only woman they will settle down with is one that will allow them to maintain the time to themselves that they require.
He’d often rather be by himself than put up with someone not allowing him to do what he wants when he wants. This makes him reluctant to commit to anyone. Knowing this is half the battle for the woman that adores him.
What you need to understand is that it truly ISN’T you much of the time. It IS him. When or if he suspects that you want to hold him back or tie him up in some way, he’ll resent that and run in the other direction.
Should You Be Just Friends?
I’ve seen many clients upset that the Aquarius man they adore has decided he doesn’t want to be in a relationship yet wants to remain close friends. This is so that he can have the best of both worlds.
He can have you in his life and yet he’s still free to come and go as he pleases without consequence. He’s terrified of being controlled or being told he shouldn’t do something he wants to do.
These men are control freaks themselves as they want a woman they can bond with but they want to still be able to do as they wish. However, they can display jealousy if the woman they adore is being pursued by other men.
What that means is, he wishes to have the woman all to his self but he doesn’t want to give her what she wants most which are that level of commitment that assures her that he is HERS.
He doesn’t want to be labeled or limited. All of this makes it very difficult to land an Aquarius man for the long term. It’s not impossible but it IS not an easy task to take on. As long as you are aware it could take a while; you’ll be alright.
Other Reasons He May Use
If it’s not about his personal freedom then there are other reasons that an Aquarius man isn’t committing. One is that he’s just not ready to be tied down to one person at all.
He likes having variety and having fun. He can’t do that if he’s committed to one lady. This is often why he establishes the “friend with benefits” types of relationships.
This allows him to do what he wants without much consequence. Now, on the other hand, one of the other reasons he may not commit is that he’s possibly figured out that you’re not the right fit for him.
As hard as that may be to digest, Aquarius men typically know fairly quickly whether or not someone is the right match for them, and he won’t settle for less than what he really wants.
There is also the Aquarius man that comes on strong and you think for sure that he’s falling for you but then suddenly wants nothing to do with you. This is when he had feelings but figured out something he didn’t like or accept about you.
Of course, instead of telling you what that may be; he just takes the nearest exit or gives you the “I don’t really feel ready for a relationship” excuse. There is a variety of reasons an Aquarius man will back out.
What he needs to get him into a commitment is one really amazing reason he SHOULD be committed to someone. That’s harder to prove to him than anything else but it CAN be done.
So What Can You Do?
As difficult as it may be; you’re going to have to prove to him why you’re a good fit for him and why he should consider being your one and only. This isn’t going to be easy but you can do it.
Show him how independent you are and that you don’t actually NEED him in your life but rather; you choose for him to be in your life. That will be a far better turn on in his mind.
Be the woman that gives her all in life and isn’t afraid to stand up for herself if there is any injustice. Don’t show too much emotion though as he’ll see this as drama and he runs from the drama.
Take it nice and easy, be patient, and let him know that you will wait for however long he needs. Whatever you do though; don’t make him think you’re sitting around waiting for him.
It’s one thing to tell him that you’ll give him the time he needs but when you give him the impression that you’re sitting around pining for him, he’ll be turned off.
He Doesn’t Need You To Complete Him
He wants a woman who can hold her own and isn’t pining away over his presence. So get out there and do your own thing ladies. Have fun with your friends, chase your dreams, and go after your goals.
The less you focus on him and focus more on yourself; the more turned on he’ll be. Don’t hang on his ever text message or phone call. In fact, stop calling him and texting him so much. If you want to get an Aquarius man to commit, you need to be patient.
Take a breather to do what you need to do to make yourself happy. If he really wants you or is interested in you, he’ll step forward and make sure you know.
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Wishing you all the luck of the universe
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Its like pulling teeth. I’ve been seeing this aquarius man on and off for 3 years now. I took a year and a half break, because he didn’t want what I was looking for in a relationship. We recently reconnected and have been out on multiple occasions. We have the best fun together. Hes starting to introduce me to some of his family and buys me gifts. Is spending an awful lot of free time with me and planning future occasions together. This man will not communicate with me all day sometimes and I get really upset thinking hes playing with my emotions. We ar friends but we have a sort of romantic connection that’s undeniable to the both of us. Hes said hes dreamed about me and loves me dearly but hes not ready to commit. I’m so done being patient because my feelings are very strong for him and I dont want to waste my time if I’m not the one for him. Hell tell me I’m the one he should be with but never makes the move. Swear hell marry me one day I think hes bluffing. I do appreciate that hes a really good friend to me and always have been. Just wish he’d commit.
ive known mine for ages over 20 yrs approx. im 42 n hes 44.
he was like a brother n in 2009 we started a romance but he got me pregnant purposely etc i ceased the romance. 2015 i decided lets rekindle, n it kinda ended i guess in sept.2019 bcuz i contacted the mother of his newfound son just because i felt left out and asked her if the boy liked his bday gift. Shes married and the boy is 7yrs old, born after we got back 2 being just friends. He tells me in May, after i booked our Vegas trip, all paid by me. He flipped, etc n was mean, called me selfish because I closed my Facebook, which I did so I wouldnt be tempted nor obsessed over him nor the pics of events etc with fam×friends with the new joy of his son. His fam×friends adore me n my cousin is his like his. So its very hard. Im focusin on myself, he is stubborn and though he texted me on V-day, im just still hurt. We had last discussed in January, where callin me selfish etc is the worst when ive neva asked him anythin, n i always brought gifts, food, etc for him and friends/fam. Like he said hurtful things that are false really. I give left& right, im selfless. Anyhoo…I mean he had condoms around, ripped packets etc in my face like its as if he threw me like garbage because an enemy of his was catching up with me but I didnt know they had issues, and in 2016 he was still mad because his friend got handsy with me and I had invited him over just for info but learnt he was creepy. We have lots of history. It would hurt that we cant overcome…after all our history but I want a true reconciliation, I cannot melt in his arms so not sure when ill respond and goin nuts, guess hes messin around…dont knw, I just pray we do have true biblical love, where it states it’s not lost, it can be damaged but it’s there. I feel you!!
Hi Nadine Sanon!
Ouch it sounds like things were quite toxic between you and your Aquarius man sweetheart. I think that before you two could ever reconcile, you’d need to heal individually then discuss the problems you had so you can squash them and let it go. Perhaps after that you can try to heal together otherwise you might have a repeat of before. If you’d like to know more about Aquarius man, you may want to read my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.
I think you need to tell him exactly what you’re feeling and what you want. Ask him directly what his intention is and what he wants. You deserve to know so why not find out. Aquarius doesn’t like to ante up information unless he’s asked so go for it. If you’d like to know more about Aquarius man, you may want to read my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.