“Do Aquarius men like to be chased?” This is probably the most common question I get about these men. Followed by “How to get an Aquarius man to chase you?” These guys clearly know what to do to drive women crazy.
Aquarius men are very complex and full of nonsense! They are the kings of hot and cold. No wonder I get so many emails from women asking about them! They are always leaving my girls wanting more and that is why their effect is so powerful!
I am here to teach you their ways and what you can do to understand the mind of an Aquarius man and how he operates.
Are you currently miserable and confused about your Aquarius man? Do you want him to chase you? Then you have come to the right place. Keep on reading to find out more about chasing an Aquarius man.
In my years as a relationship astrologer helping thousands of women with Aquarius men, this is one of the questions I hear most, and the answer is more nuanced than a simple yes or no. An Aquarius man does enjoy the spark of being wanted, but what he truly responds to is very different from what most women assume chasing means. Get the distinction right and you become magnetic to him. Get it wrong and you push him straight into his shell.
Keep in mind just how confusing this sign can be to read: in a survey of over 2,600 women involved with Aquarius men, only 29% felt sure he was interested, while 23% described the whole situation as “it’s complicated.” If you want the words that reach him without ever looking like you are chasing, my Aquarius Man Magic Phrases guide is built for exactly that.
Does An Aquarius Man Like To Be Chased?
The Aquarius man wants to be the pursuer, and he wants to be the one to figure out if the relationship will go anywhere. He wants to be the one to initiate getting to know each other, dating, and otherwise.
If you try to go after him; he won’t respond well to this. He wants to take it slow and naturally. He also likes being the man even if he does want an independent woman. In this way, he does seem complicated, but it’s all a matter of how much freedom he’s willing to give up for someone. You can text him but try not to overdo it.
Sending him a random text saying hello or wishing him a good day isn’t a bad thing. However, if he doesn’t respond in a quick amount of time and you panic, he’ll see this as a problem. Remember that Aquarius men are typically very busy, which makes them sometimes forgetful. He may forget to text you back or call you when he said he was going to.
In some cases, this may mean he isn’t that into you. However; it usually means he honestly forgot. It’s nothing to get in a snit about. Keeping this in mind could save you a lot of heartache and stress.
Relax, go with the flow, and let him lead the pace of the relationship. You’ll be happy if you do. He’ll make sure you’re appreciated if you’re the one!
Signs An Aquarius Man Wants You To Chase Him (Is He Playing Games With Me?)
The Aquarius man is a dominant force. That means that he does not, in fact, like to be chased. There are reasons why he doesn’t like it, and they go beyond just being a man.
Chasing an Aquarius man will make you fall on your face. They will see you as clingy, annoying, needy, and possibly quite undesirable. This is one of those things that an Aquarius man really dislikes in a woman.
When it comes to dating and getting to know someone, he would like to take the lead. He also wants to call the shots, but he will need to learn to compromise if he wants it to be real.
An Aquarius man is the one who wants to call you up and ask you out on a date. He’s the one who wants to initiate conversation or get to know you. He will let you know if he’s interested in you by coming around you more, texting you, or trying to find ways to talk to you.
If you find an Aquarius man laying on the charm, there is no need to chase him. If he shows a lack of interest or isn’t moving fast enough for you, you better be careful not to try to track him.
Texting him too much, calling him often, or trying to push things forward will cause him to dismiss you and never look back. The point is that an Aquarius man doesn’t actually want you to chase him.
If you do, he is never going to take you or the potential relationship seriously. Chasing him is the best way to turn an Aquarius man off and get him looking in the other direction.
So, Should You Chase An Aquarius Man?
By chasing an Aquarius male, you’re showing him that you’re either desperate, too needy emotionally, or too immature to handle him. This will turn him off, and he’ll back away reasonably quickly.
If you are genuinely into him; he’s going to want you to prove it over time. Not in quick heavy doses. This man likes to go slowly when building something special. It will even take him a while to figure out if it IS special.
Trying to make him hurry in any form will only backfire in your face. He will move on and find someone else who is independent and doesn’t need his constant attention.
The real answer to the question at hand is “NO!” Aquarius men do not like to be pursued or chased. They see these women as the type of woman that doesn’t bode well for their taste.
Aquarius men love women who like to have fun with them but can also have fun on their own with friends or alone. They do not want to be needed as this feels like too much pressure.
It will make him feel as though you want to close him in and take away all his space and time. He isn’t willing to relinquish that until he’s fully committed and in love.
You may also want to read: Questions To Ask An Aquarius Man To Spark His Interest
How To Get An Aquarius Man To Chase You
To properly land an Aquarius male; you’ll need to have a great deal of patience and give him time. If you can do these two things; you could win his love throughout growth.
While he doesn’t like to be chased, he does like to be appreciated. So giving him thanks for spending time with you is a wise idea. He wants to know that you like having him around but don’t precisely NEED him.
The less you act as you NEED him; the better off you’ll be. It’s not that he wouldn’t take care of you once he’s committed; he’s just going to be slow at getting to that process.
He also would prefer a lady who can take care of herself and isn’t trying to make him the primary source of her income. In other words, gold diggers will not likely win over an Aquarius heart.
He would prefer a woman who has her career, her dreams, and aspirations in mind. If you’re looking for a man to make you his wife and be the breadwinner, the Aquarius man isn’t the right one.
The Aquarius man is a beautiful EQUAL partner in love and business. So if you can hold your own and want to share a life with someone who sees you as his equal, this man is perfect for you.
Here, you can learn all the ways to get an Aquarius man to chase you.
The Real Reason an Aquarius Man Wants to Be the One Who Pursues
Underneath the question of whether an Aquarius man likes to be chased is a deeper truth about how this sign relates to desire. Ruled by Uranus, he prizes his freedom above almost everything, and that includes the freedom to choose. When he is the one moving toward you, he feels in control of his own heart, and that sense of control is what allows him to let his guard down. Take that away by pursuing too hard, and he starts to feel managed rather than wanted.
This is why so many women feel like they are getting mixed messages. He seems to enjoy the attention, then he cools off the moment it intensifies. He is not playing games. He is protecting his autonomy. The women who win an Aquarius man over are the ones who make themselves worth pursuing and then let him do the pursuing. A little warmth, a little mystery, and the confidence to step back and let him come to you is far more powerful than any amount of chasing. If you want the practical version of this, I lay it out in my guide on how to make an Aquarius man chase you.
How to Tell the Difference Between Him Testing You and Losing Interest
This is the fear underneath the question. If I stop chasing, will he simply drift away? With an Aquarius man there is a real difference between a man who has pulled back to see if you will hold your own, and a man who has genuinely checked out, and the signs are readable once you know what to look for.
A man who is testing you still leaves doors open. He goes quiet but resurfaces, he watches how you respond to space, and he stays curious about your life even when he is not chasing hard. A man who is losing interest closes the doors. He stops asking questions, he lets conversations die without reviving them, and the warmth does not return when you give him room. In our survey, 28% of women said their Aquarius man was sending mixed signals, which is almost always the testing phase rather than the exit. If you cannot tell which one you are in, my guide on when an Aquarius man sends mixed signals walks through each signal in detail.
Your Questions About Chasing an Aquarius Man, Answered
Is it ever okay to chase an Aquarius man?
Yes, in small, confident doses. A single bold move, an invitation, a flirty opener, actually appeals to his unconventional nature and shows him you are self-assured. What backfires is sustained chasing, the constant texting and planning and pursuing that leaves him no room to move toward you. Think of it as lighting a spark and then stepping back to let him fan it, rather than trying to build the whole fire yourself.
What happens if I stop chasing him completely?
If he was genuinely interested, stopping the chase usually wakes him up. The absence of your pursuit creates a small vacuum, and an Aquarius man who values you will move to fill it. If he was never truly invested, your stepping back will reveal that too, which is painful but clarifying. Either way, you get the truth, and the truth is always better than exhausting yourself chasing a man who was letting you do all the work.
Does ignoring an Aquarius man make him chase you?
Cold, punishing silence rarely works with this sign, because he respects independence and often reads your withdrawal as you simply exercising yours. What works better is warm unavailability, being kind and friendly when you do connect, while clearly having a full life he is not the center of. That combination intrigues him. Manufactured ignoring tends to make him shrug and move on, while genuine self-possession makes him lean in.
How do I make him worry about losing me without playing games?
You do not manufacture the worry, you let it arise naturally by being a woman who is genuinely fine with or without him. When an Aquarius man senses that you are not anxiously attached to the outcome, that you would be happy either way, a quiet fear of missing out begins to work on him. It is the difference between a threat and a truth. Games he sees through instantly. Real independence he cannot resist.
I would love to hear from you. Have you tried chasing an Aquarius man, or pulling back to let him chase you? What happened? Share your story in the comments below and I will do my best to help you read his next move. I read every single one.
And if you are ready to become the woman he actively pursues instead of the one doing all the pursuing, my 30 Day Love Challenge for the Aquarius man gives you the full path, one day at a time.
End Anxiety About Your Aquarius Man…
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with an Aquarius man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Aquarius guys.
I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that.
But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him. Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy.
It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language.
And it worked!!
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xoxo,
Anna
Well I’d say my aquarius guy is done with me, am not really quite sure…. We were suppose to hangout because we haven’t hangout for months and he said ok bbe no problem but he didn’t show up and he didn’t tell me why he didn’t show, he didn’t say anything… Whenever we text each other its great, he’s interested and glad to hear from me and says he loves me but I don’t know, he does things sometimes that makes me wonder if he’s really interested or just pretending…
I would say that if he doesn’t respond in a way that you intend hes busy or something is bothering him at the moment.. always be there for him first as a friend and relationship second. Then, you should take the initiative by visiting him, hanging out with him, invite him to do things with a group so you dont worry if he shows up and send him photos of a great time and how you wish he could have made it, and not to wait for him to do these things and always ask for his feedback. He needs someone who doesn’t overthink. He needs someone confident that doesnt whine whenever he doesnt give them attention. If he likes you then ask him for advice and if he cares enough he’ll dedicate himself towards you take that as a hugee hug and appreciate his input. I would just ask for what it is you would like politely and ask if its okay? Like “hey buddy, what are you doing this Friday… is it alright if we meet up at Silver Diner theres something I cant wait to share with you!?” You will have to just be your real self around him a lot and you will see his mood transform from being indifferent to being very curious about you when he likes you. He will ask you why… and how… and give a soft grin as you confidently steer the conversations for the night. But dont force it lol he wants to be in charge so you must ask his permission to level up in the relationship “I wonder how it would be to be exclusive” and how he feels about that with be an honest straightforward answer.
Hi Anonymous!
You sound like you have some vast experience. Thank you for sharing what you know. You have some great ideas. You’re right though. A woman has to have great patience, understanding, and empathy for the Aquarius man. Thank you for chiming in. If you ever need any help yourself, I’m here! In fact, if there is anything you don’t know about Aquarius man, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.