Is Your Aquarius Man Just Using You? 5 Things to Watch Out For

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Is Your Aquarius Man Using You? 5 Things to Watch Out For

So you’ve met a wonderfully intelligent and sexy Aquarius man that seems to have captivated you. However, sometimes he’s darned cold or unresponsive. Is your Aquarius man just using you? It’s possible! Keep reading for things to look out for that may help you figure out what he wants.

1. Gives Minimal Information

The Aquarius man isn’t going to open up to any woman until he’s certain she’s someone he’s going to spend significant time with or wants to give his heart to. Aquarius man has no problems having sex without emotion involved.

This means that if he’s keeping your conversations at “surface” level and not giving you any information about who he is as a whole, he’s keeping you at arm’s length so that you don’t “stick around.”

He figures the less information he gives you, the less you will want to attach yourself to him. This is a bad sign, ladies. This means he has no intention of growing a relationship with you.

He’s more interested in sex and hanging out as a friend. When you want more from him, he wants to run or become very callous toward you. Aquarius can be downright mean when he wants to brush you off.

2. Never Go Where He Knows People

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Aquarius man is good at keeping you a secret if he’s not into having a real relationship with you. Why bother introducing you to any of his friends, family, or co-workers even?

You see how he’s keeping details about himself from you; he’s going to do the same in regards to you. He won’t tell anyone about you unless it’s in a joking manner with his guy friends.

In the event you accidentally run into someone he knows, he’ll quickly make sure they know you’re his “friend” by introducing you as such. He’ll also sort of let you be in the background while he talks to this person.

He may even walk away to talk to them while leaving you behind awkwardly. He doesn’t give a hoot about you other than what you’ve been doing with you.

Aquarius tends to build “friends with benefits” relationships so that he can get laid when he wants and without strings. This enables him also to see other people, thus having a variety of exciting things up his sleeve and keeping things fresh.

3. Impersonal Via Sex

Aquarius man will go out of his way to please a woman he’s in love with. However, when he’s with a woman he only wants to have sex with, play with, or use, he will do himself and not care about her needs.

He’ll be the typical guy that acts as he needs you, gets there, has sex with you, and then poof! He’s on his way out the door faster than you can go use the restroom and come back into the room.

He’s the classic leave after sex guy. He isn’t one to stick around, cuddle, or spend the night. They are not saying that they don’t spend the night when it’s convenient but they typically won’t.

They come, hit it, and leave. If he has you come to his place, he’ll be looking for excuses to get you out of there so he can be alone again. Aquarius men love their freedom and alone time.

Sleepovers are rare for an Aquarius man who isn’t interested in a relationship. He sees no value in stringing things along if there isn’t anything but sex there. However, he will keep the sex as long as you permit.

4. He’s Into Variety

is your aquarius man just using you

The Aquarius man thinks outside the box typically. This means his sex life is bound to be rather colorful. If you haven’t been seeing him long and he’s already suggesting group sex or three-ways with people you don’t know, this may be a red flag.

He loves to have as much variety as he can get. This may include whipping out porn when you come over to see you squirm and see if you’re going to get into it with him or not.

It sounds brash of him. Yes! Aquarius man will be very brash because he wants to make it clear to you that you are a sexual conquest for him and he’s not interested in a loving bond.

Once you know this, don’t ever think that he has a redeemable heart or that things will change with time. No. If he treats you like this, you’re a fling, and he has no intent on changing it.

5. Lack of Respect

Aquarius men want to be respected, but they cannot sometimes give it. I’ve heard from many lady clients who are confused by their Aquarius guy’s behavior.

They talk about how rude he was or how he talked down to them. If he’s using you, yes, he doesn’t care about how you feel emotionally. He figures you knew that he only wanted sex from time to time.

Aquarius men are not forthright with their intent, feelings, or what he wants. However, they will tell you the truth if you ask them flat out. So go ahead. If you have any question about his intentions, ask him what they are. He will tell you.

He’ll be very blunt with what he feels or thinks, but it’s better to know the truth than it is to believe he’s going to change or that he’ll warm up to you with time. Aquarius men know pretty quickly if he’s going to hit it and quit it or if he’s going to swoon and keep a woman.


He knows almost instantly where there is chemistry there or if it’s just a sexual tension that needs some relieving. He won’t tell her up front that he only wants sex, but if she were to ask, he’d be honest about it.

All in all, you should be able to tell fairly easily by an Aquarius man’s behavior that he’s only in it for sex or not.

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

8 thoughts on “Is Your Aquarius Man Using You? 5 Things to Watch Out For

  1. Well i hate my aqurimas man i blocked him from calling or texting me. He told me he was going to give me some money but he did lie. He do not help me and all. I am also an Aquarius

    1. HI Tiny!

      Well only you know what is right for you but I will tell you that there is a bit of a difference between the female side of this sign and the male side of this sign. It sounds like you got a bad seed from the male side. Terrible to hear this. You may want to see more about the male side of your sign though. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.

  2. After 9 months of my guy being a bum and making excuses I knew he was hiding something.. He switched up on me a couple of months ago so of course I started questioning things and he said all I do is complain n nag him so I put his ass out. We started off so cool as friends I never should have let him talk me into a relationship because all I got was a broken heart and a ungrateful childish user. Relationship ended two weeks ago and I still cry because we were special until he ruined it. I’m a libra women and col then a fan until someone tryis playing head games with me. He was trying to control everything about me out of nowhere too, I sure wasn’t having it at all I’m a grown women.. God I hope I shake him off real soon because it’s killinging my heart daily.

    1. Hi Kim!

      Whoa! I am sorry to hear you got a more destructive Aquarius man. Most of them are not like this. They don’t like playing head games. They like the truth and they like for someone to be forthcoming. He shouldn’t be that way toward you. It’s not right. He must have some past wounds that make him act dirty. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.

  3. I have been very hurt by both of the Aquarius men that I dated. Heartbroken. It was so great at first, but then I found out I was definitely being used. I am an Aquarius woman. This article is 100 percent accurate. Unless they want you to be the woman they are going to commit to, they will use and hurt you. They will be mean and they will disappear, too.

    1. Hi Taylor!

      I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been burned twice by Aquarius men. Perhaps they are not the best fit for you. Astrologically, there may be another sign that would far better fit you. Even though same signs can often find middle ground and work out well, there are some that butt heads too often and can be destructive. You need to know the male side of Aquarius is a bit different than the female side. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.

  4. See that’s confusing because it was only supposed to be a hookup and he was very into pleasing me. He opened up and talked to me and told me he was completely over his ex, kissing me, holding me and staring in my eyes. Next time I heard from him he was asking me to have a threesome. I suffered some cognitive dissonance from that. He said he was busy for a couple of weeks and I didn’t hear from him for 3 months. He said he was talking to someone else. He likes playing games apparently and I told him I lost all respect for him. I was so heartbroken over him. So this is not accurate at all

    1. Hi Danyelle!

      He isn’t ready to settle down otherwise he wouldn’t ask you for a threesome or be so casual. If he said he’s talking to someone else then that is your queue that he’s not ready to commit. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information. Don’t lose faith in all Aquarius men, they are not all like this one you had.

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