If you’re really into an Aquarius guy and would like to capture his heart; here are some things that may help you to understand him a bit better. It may also help you to do what you need to in order for him to take notice. Keep reading to learn how to keep an Aquarius man hooked.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have helped thousands of women win the heart of an Aquarius man, and I will be honest with you. He is one of the hardest signs to pin down, but also one of the most loyal once he is truly yours. He does not give his heart to beauty or flattery. He gives it to a woman who engages his mind and respects his freedom. In our survey of more than 2,600 women dating Aquarius men, his intelligence was the trait mentioned by almost every single one, which is your first clue about where his heart actually lives.
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If you want the full blueprint for understanding and keeping this Uranus ruled man, my Aquarius Man Secrets guide decodes exactly how he thinks, loves, and commits. With that in mind, here is how to win an Aquarius man’s heart.
Turn On the Charm: Lead With Beauty and Brains
Aquarius men are attracted initially by beauty and brains combined. Look your best and be armed with lots of interesting topics of conversation. If you can do that, you’ll win his attention.
If you are already dating an Aquarius man then to get him to the next level, show him you’re devoted to him and to whatever time he needs to feel comfortable with. That means not forcing him to hurry.
Charm him in the meantime with lots of affection but not too much. If you become pushy or clingy; he’ll retreat or leave. Be sweet, cook for him, and show him that you care.
He’ll appreciate knowing you support him and his endeavors when you tell him what a great job he’s doing. Be that ear that he needs to bend when he’s dealing with situations in his work life.
Be the strong independent woman he seeks. Being there for him when he needs you will help him to feel more stable and secure about longevity. It will get you in his good graces.
I am not telling you to be someone other than yourself so if you aren’t independent or strong; you may need to work on yourself rather than worrying about what someone else wants.
The Aquarius man wants authenticity with his lady of choice. He doesn’t like fake women or women that pretend to be something they’re not. So be very careful about this.
Flex Your Independence: The Trait That Wins His Heart
For an Aquarius man to commit fully; he has to feel that he’s with the right person. One of the things he looks for is a woman who is just as independent as he is.
He wants to see that you have your own things going on, your own friends, your own projects, and can basically function without his presence. He wants you to want him around versus need him around.
Showing him that you’ve got a life of your own and you do not need him will help him feel confident that he never has to worry about you becoming clingy with him. He relates clingy to having no freedom.
He loves having his own personal freedom and when you’re busy doing your own thing; he’s able to have time to himself or with his friends. He’ll greatly appreciate this and will make him feel warm fuzzies for you.
You can show him examples by either not texting him while you’re out or you can send him a text showing you having a good time with your friends but drawing the line there.
If you’re out and keep texting him the whole time; he will think that you’re only out to prove you don’t need him but are in fact; showing him the opposite. Let’s face it if you’re having a great time; you shouldn’t feel the need to constantly be in contact with him.
Write Him Poetry: The Unexpected Move That Melts Him
If you’re poetically inclined, the Aquarius man would absolutely LOVE for you to write him some poems. This isn’t one of the things that most articles will mention but think about it for a moment; he’s intellectual!
That means that he is into anything brainy. If you’re witty with poetry, give it a try. He’ll appreciate the effort and creativity you put into it and will show him how much you love his intellectual side.
If you haven’t got great poetry talent; no need to worry. You can perhaps figure out what types of books or poetry authors he might like and buy one to read to him aloud.
He loves brainy women and would LOVE to be read to about his favorite topics or poems. He’ll eat it right up! It’s not something that is common for women he dates to do and so it would be refreshing.
Show him you’ve got an amazing brain my darlings! He will absolutely love to interact and grow with someone that will keep him interested, intrigued and eager to learn more.
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Be a Little Mysterious: Let Him Unwrap You in Layers
An Aquarius man likes to unwrap his woman one layer at a time. If he truly is into you and could be falling for you; you’ll notice that he keeps asking more personal questions to get to know you.
While he does this, just give him bits and pieces. If you give it all away upfront; he’ll lose interest and decide to find someone else more mysterious. It may not be easy to hold back but if you do; it’ll work better for you.
Give him clippers of who you are and let him learn over time what your inner core is and what drives you. He’ll absolutely love that he doesn’t know everything about you.
Let him unwrap you in layers. It will make him feel happier and more interested all at the same time. The excitement of thinking there is more to you than he knows is very much a turn on for him.
Be Physical at the Right Pace to Build His Desire
Aquarius men love to be physical. I don’t mean you should hop in the sack with him if you’re not ready. If you are ready, there are some words of caution I have for you.
If you want to be intimate with an Aquarius man before you’ve discussed exclusivity; you may want to watch out. Many Aquarius men will take this as being Ok to have a “friends with benefits” relationship.
He will just assume that you’re ok with it even if he hasn’t asked. To avoid this confusion; you need to let him upfront that you’re not into that sort of thing. That will make him understand that being physical means more to you.
Keep in mind that this man takes a long time to commit. So again, you don’t want to give too much away upfront. What I mean by be physical is flirty movements, hand-holding, caressing, and making out.
This will get him excited and wonder what the possibility of further physical action could bring. It will also show him your integrity is very high. You’re not willing to settle. He’ll love it! This is how to win an Aquarius man’s heart.
What an Aquarius Man Really Looks For in a Woman
Underneath all the individual tips, an Aquarius man is searching for a few specific things in the woman who wins his heart. He wants a partner who is also a best friend, someone he can talk to for hours and be completely himself around. He wants a mind that surprises him and a spirit that is independent enough to never make him feel trapped. Above all, he wants authenticity, because nothing closes his heart faster than the sense that you are performing.
He is also quietly looking for emotional safety. As detached as an Aquarius man can seem, he only opens up when he trusts that you will not crowd him, judge him, or try to remake him. Give him a relationship that feels like freedom rather than a cage, and you will have offered him the one thing he values most, which is exactly why his heart starts to lean toward you.
Mistakes That Will Lose an Aquarius Man’s Heart
Winning his heart is only half the work. Avoiding the moves that lose it matters just as much. The fastest way to push an Aquarius man away is clinginess, because the moment he feels you cannot be okay without him, his freedom alarm goes off. Close behind are jealousy and possessiveness, which he experiences as a cage rather than proof of love.
He is also turned off by pressure and by drama. Pushing him to define the relationship before he is ready, or flooding him with emotional intensity, makes him retreat into his head. And never try to be someone you are not to impress him, because an Aquarius man can sense performance instantly and it quietly kills his trust. Lead with security, honesty, and patience, and you avoid every one of these traps.
How to Keep an Aquarius Man’s Heart Once You Have Won It
Winning an Aquarius man’s heart is a wonderful moment, but keeping it asks for the same qualities that drew him in. Keep feeding his mind with fresh ideas and conversation, because a bored Aquarius man is a restless one. Keep your own life full and interesting, so he never stops seeing you as your own fascinating person rather than an extension of him.
Most of all, keep giving him room to breathe. The relationship that lasts with an Aquarius man is one that grows without ever feeling confining. If you want to understand the deeper process of how his feelings develop, my guides on how an Aquarius man falls in love and how to make an Aquarius man fall in love with you show you exactly what is happening in his heart at each stage.
If you want a day-by-day plan to deepen his devotion once you have his attention, my 30 Day Love Challenge for the Aquarius man gives you one small, powerful move each day to make his heart yours for good.
Frequently Asked Questions About Winning an Aquarius Man’s Heart
How do you make an Aquarius man obsessed with you?
You make an Aquarius man obsessed by being the most interesting, independent woman he knows. Keep his mind engaged with surprising conversation, keep a little mystery so he never feels he has you fully figured out, and live a full life of your own that he wants to be part of. Scarcity of the right kind, where he has to earn your time, is far more magnetic to him than constant availability.
The paradox of an Aquarius man is that the less you cling, the more he leans in. Give him freedom and fascination together, and his curious mind will keep circling back to you.
What is an Aquarius man attracted to?
An Aquarius man is attracted first to intelligence and originality. A woman who thinks for herself, holds interesting opinions, and brings something unconventional to the table captivates him far more than someone who simply looks the part. Beauty gets his initial attention, but her mind is what truly hooks him.
He is also drawn to independence and authenticity. An Aquarius man falls for a woman who is genuinely herself and clearly capable of standing on her own, because that combination promises both an equal partner and a relationship that respects his freedom.
How do you know you have won an Aquarius man’s heart?
You know you have won an Aquarius man’s heart when he starts choosing to spend his guarded free time with you and opens up about things he keeps from almost everyone. He becomes more consistent, more involved in your life, and more openly affectionate in his own understated way.
The surest sign is trust. When an Aquarius man lets you see his real thoughts, fears, and dreams without pulling back, he has handed you his heart, even if he is not loud about saying so.
What should you avoid to keep an Aquarius man’s heart?
To keep an Aquarius man’s heart, avoid anything that makes him feel boxed in. Clinginess, constant demands for reassurance, jealousy, and pressure to move faster than he is comfortable with will all erode the bond you built. He needs to feel that staying with you is a free choice, not an obligation.
Also avoid letting the relationship grow stale. An Aquarius man craves mental stimulation, so keep growing, keep bringing new ideas, and keep your own life vibrant. A connection that keeps evolving is one he never wants to leave.
How long does it take to win an Aquarius man’s heart?
It usually takes longer than with most signs, and that is by design. An Aquarius man is a fixed sign who guards his independence, so he moves slowly and observes carefully before he commits his heart. In our survey, the large majority of women said the relationship progressed slowly, which is simply how he loves.
The good news is that the patience pays off. Once an Aquarius man finally gives you his heart, he tends to give it for the long haul, so the slow build is usually the foundation of something lasting.
Conclusion
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