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How To Become A Priority For Your Aquarius Man

Aquarius men are notoriously mystifying when it comes to emotions, so getting into his head is essential if you want to be a priority in his life. Find out how to win his heart—hint: it starts with his brain!
If you’ve caught the attention of an Aquarius man who stops short of making a commitment, you’re not alone.

It’s no surprise you’re feeling confused and lost—one of the most baffling things about dating an Aquarius is learning to keep his interest without scaring him away.

You’ve got to dig deeper and understand the secrets to capturing an Aquarius man’s heart. It’s a challenge, but he’s worth it because he truly is unlike anyone you will ever meet.

Unlocking Your Person of Interest With Astrology

Astrology is the study of personality in relation to the planets and stars at the exact time of someone’s birth. This ancient practice has helped countless people worldwide to find success in love. 

Even world leaders—past and present—have relied on this science to plan their important decisions. In some cultures, romantic matches are made solely based on comparing the birth charts of two individuals. While a birth chart goes into deeper details, the Sun sign can tell you a lot. 

This is especially true with an Aquarius man, who is going to break all the relationship rules. 

Aquarius is the innovator and rebel of the Zodiac. He’s quirky and knows it. His eccentricity is a source of insecurity and pride. 

Based on my extensive research, I have seen time and again that the more you understand Aquarius energy, the more your man’s strange behavior will make sense. 

What’s Really In An Aquarius Man’s Heart?

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An Aquarius man is naturally curious. He’s highly intellectual and loves to be on the cutting edge. When things start to feel routine, he’ll become bored and seek excitement elsewhere.

He values the unusual. If you want to be valued as a partner, you need to create an air of mystique. Emphasize your individuality. Remind him that there are layers he hasn’t seen. Keep him intrigued.

Whether you’ve been dating for a month or serious for a year, you’ve got to keep his interest. This is a process that will be ongoing for as long as the Aquarius man is in your life. Even if he’s head over heels in love with you, if the relationship becomes predictable, he’ll shut down. 

Just like a garden needs to be consistently watered, your relationship with an Aquarius man needs to be kept new and exciting.

I know, it sounds counterproductive. Trust me, though, the more you advance yourself and contribute to the world around you, the more you will keep his interest.

Aquarius Motto: Don’t Tread On Me

The Aquarius man is fiercely independent, intellectual, and idealistic. If he sees that you’re independent and freethinking, he’ll stay tuned to see what comes next. Every day will feel like a new adventure, and he’ll stick around to see what you surprise him with next. 

He’s concerned with community and society and has a huge humanitarian heart. He wants to see that you aren’t selfish. When your calendar is filled with social engagements and other interesting events, he will become more engaged.

In contrast, if you’re waiting around to Netflix-and-chill, he’ll panic. Not only will he see you as uninteresting, but he’ll feel like you are too focused on him. This is a mistake.

He never wants to be the sole focus of someone’s energy. Save lavishing attention on someone for a Pisces or Cancer. An Aquarius man wants to know that he has room to roam and space to engage in his many interests without intrusion.

His sign is like the mad scientist of the Zodiac. He is drawn to mysteries that spark his curiosity and problems to be solved. If you’re too forthcoming, he’ll feel stifled. Give him a problem to solve, a puzzle to put together, or a challenge to let him exercise his brilliant mind. 

Don’t Expect To Cry On His Shoulder

But isn’t my boyfriend supposed to give me emotional support?

Sure—unless he’s an Aquarius.

One huge issue I see so many women struggle with in their relationships with Aquarius men is expecting him to make space for their emotions. An Aquarius man is not going to be this outlet no matter how much he loves you. He may deeply empathize with you, but he’s most likely to try to analyze your feelings—just like he does with his own. 

It’s best to accept that your friends are your emotional support and your Aquarius man is not. Connect with him intellectually. This is his specialty, not feelings.

The Biggest Key To Commitment With An Aquarius Man: Don’t Pressure Him

Become A Priority For Your Aquarius Man

If you want him to commit, don’t pressure him in any way. 

An Aquarius man is an idealist. Rather than bringing out a spreadsheet where you’ve carefully mapped what you expect from the relationship (I’m talking to you, Virgo), tell him about your dreams and vision. 

Ideals excite him. Concrete plans scare him. 

Be subtle about painting the picture of what you desire. Then step back and let him figure out when and how he’ll get there.

The progression will likely not be a straight line from flirting to commitment. Expect stops and starts as he gets comfortable figuring out how to balance commitment and independence.  

He frequently needs space, even when he values you and the relationship.

 If you give him ultimatums or become clingy or controlling, he will be turned off and may distance himself or disappear. Even if you do everything perfectly, he will still vanish at some point for some time. That’s what Aquarian men do. 

Make the best of the silent time to indulge in your hobbies, interests, and sense of independent adventure. Don’t chase him.

 Let him conclude that you are a rare treasure. When he does, he will step up to the plate.

Being in a relationship with an Aquarius man is like applying for a job. Once you are accepted, it is up to you to continually show your skills and talents. Don’t take his love and interest for granted because he will follow his intellect and desire for change and excitement rather than sticking around for sentimental reasons. 

The Key To His Heart Is His Intellect

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An Aquarius man’s heart is as mysterious as a Facebook algorithm.

Rather than making decisions based on emotion, he’ll prioritize what is new and exciting. Unlike an algorithm, however, he resists being trapped into any predictable pattern and will get bored if you try to use traditional dating formulas to win him over. 

He’s intellectually sharp and intuitive. If you are not genuine or if you try manipulative mind games, he will see it coming and will automatically shut down. You may lose him forever if you are dishonest. 

Did I mention that Aquarius men are honest to the point of appearing rude? He expects that level of directness from those around him, as well.

He will have more respect for and trust in you if you are authentic, intellectual, and clear without being demanding or needy

He wants to know that you can stand on your own two feet—but he also loves a good puzzle. Asking for his help and showing interest in his unusual style of thinking will go a long way.

Whatever you do, don’t try to get him to conform to any traditional standards. Engage him by delving into his eccentric and progressive world and learning about his interests. Validating his gifts, creativity, and interests will help him connect with you. 

At the same time, don’t make the mistake of becoming totally immersed in his hobbies without adding something to the conversation that enhances, expands, or changes the dynamic. 

Become An Irresistible Teacher

Ever notice how Aquarius loves to argue? Doing so stretches out his perspective and opens his mind. 

Aquarius men don’t want confrontation, but they don’t want someone who will agree with all their ideas. They want a woman who can help them learn new things about themselves and the world. 

Your man isn’t seeking a sappy romantic relationship full of roses and poetry—unless the poetry is written in Klingon or an ancient esoteric language. Instead, he wants every day to be an adventure with you as his co-explorer. 

If he knows you are open-minded and ready to address life’s larger mysteries, he’s going to see you as an ideal partner. He will notice if you make a face when he discusses conspiracy theories, so show him that you are open to hearing his unique ideas. 

The golden rule of getting an Aquarius man to see you as a priority is to act like you don’t care if he sees you as a priority. 

I know what you’re thinking. “Why can’t he just be straightforward?” The Aquarius man is unique. That’s why you love him, right?

 You must show him that you are on the cutting edge of exciting breakthroughs. By getting involved in classes, groups, and clubs and having interesting, odd, and unusual things to talk about, you will keep him engaged. 

He May Already Have Deeper Feelings For You

One thing I hear over and over from women feeling frustrated with their Aquarius men is that they don’t know how he really feels. 

Even when he is developing feelings, you may not know. Like everything else, he doesn’t take a traditional route to expressing himself in love. You may be more of a priority than you realize. 

Don’t focus on trying to get him to ‘open up’ emotionally. That isn’t his language. Showing his vulnerability may instead look like sharing stories he’s written or letting you in on his secret knowledge about the mysteries of life.

Read next: How to Get an Aquarius Man to Open Up and Share His Feelings

What To Do Next

Getting to the bottom of the Aquarius man’s motivation and unlocking his heart is no easy task, but the rewards are worth it.

How can I support you? If you have your own success stories to share or questions about the Aquarius man in your life, leave a comment below, and I promise I’ll respond just as soon as possible!

And if you’d like to know just how compatible the two of you are, take my free quiz here!



19 thoughts on “How To Become A Priority For Your Aquarius Man

  1. My aquarius man can go to hell. I’m Aries and had enough of his bull dust.
    Good luck girls but I wouldn’t waste my time if you’re a fire sign. Cold hearted and boring

    1. Hi Nicki!

      I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a hard experience with an Aquarius man. Aries can find it very hard to be patient and wait him out which I completely understand. Not all Aquarius men are as bad as the one you’re dealing with, however. Some have aspects in their charts that make them a bit more soft and able to compromise with. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” as it may help you with any future encounters with Aquarius men.

    2. I agree, they are cold hearted and they do not care…and they hunt all the time, they want to charm all women, what hurts terribly…. I already broke up three times this year, but being a Pisces, I’ve always forgiven him, and swim back to him.. it happened countless times in the last 4,5 years.. am I stupid? I have read your…”Aquarius men’s secrets” and I keep trying to understand him.. but I am not sure at all whether it is good for me

      1. Hi Zsuzsanna!

        They can come across as cold hearted yes but that doesn’t mean that they always will and certainly not every single one of them is the same. I am sorry you got hurt by one truly. Just please don’t write off the sign due to what you’re dealing with. There is more to it. Maybe you should consider getting a VIP consultation with me about your situation. I hope to hear from you but if not, I wish you all the best.

    1. Hi Rachel!

      I get your frustration, I really do. Not all Aquarius men are the same. They all have different moon signs, rising signs, Venus signs, etc. That being said, they are all somewhat unique. Some are easier and some are more difficult. If you’d like to learn more, you should check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” to uncover any mystery you might want to unravel.

  2. I am an aquarius woman but I think we can balance our independency and love. I’ve seen some of his bad traits and i guess we overcome. I did some mistake before but I’ve learned anyway.

    1. Hi Ni!

      It’s great to hear from an Aquarius woman for a change! Yes, I do believe that you all are very different and of course the woman is going to be a bit softer than the male for hormonal reasons. Women are meant to be softer for being mothers and wives. Yes, the men can overcome if they are with someone who is more understanding and patient. Balance is something you can strive for between Aquarius/Aquarius relationships. If you would like more help, I’d love to! Check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.

  3. I feel like I don’t exist to him, but he’s the only one I want. I finally stopped saying, “I love you”, because he only says, “I know”. After two miscarriages he said, “when he’s ready to have kids he will”. I took that as him saying he doesn’t want kids with me. I finally had to just walk away, and block him. The emotional distance, and coldness is too much.

    1. Hi Rose!

      If you feel you don’t exist to him then it may be good for you to let go of him. You should be feeling valued and cared for by any man. Saying “I know” in response to “I love you”, means he doesn’t feel the same way. It’s as bad as saying “thank you”. He isn’t into it and so it’s good for you to definitely walk away. I think you did the right thing by blocking him. You’re absolutely correct the treatment he was giving you was wrong and you deserve a whole lot better. Good for you! Now you can be open for someone who truly loves you.

  4. Im a leo girl.in the first two week i was a priority to him but later he keep saying i should not pressure him and hurry while i just wanted some attention he also started study and his duty became first place, i was priority but he always told me his feelings didnt change just circumstances .i broke up it was hard for me that i felt he didnt care or value me . I still really miss him and not sure i did well

    1. Hi Klaudia!

      Aquarius men like to take it easy to make sure they’re choosing the right mate. They also really like to have lots of personal freedom so sometimes it can be difficult for them to balance priorities. They are fallible like everyone. I’m sorry to hear that you gave up. Aquarius probably isn’t the best when it comes to provide Leo woman with lots of attention for the long haul. He’s too freedom thinking. If you miss him, you could always try to give it another go. It could turn out differently if you start out slow. Also getting to know the personality of an Aquarius man helps. In fact, you should check out my books on Aquarius Man Secrets. It may give you very useful insight. May all the stars forever be aligned for you!

  5. We are in friends with benefits for 4 years ago
    Sometimes I feel he loves me and wants more and sometimes i feel he doesn’t even like me
    I love him and he know and he didn’t answer he just said I won’t tell you if I love you or not because it’s complicated
    I just wanna to know if he loves me!!

    1. Hi Ra!

      I think what he’s saying here is that he loves you as a person and friend. I don’t think he’s in love with you romantically though. Something you need to know is when an Aquarius does a friends with benefits situation, he makes a firm decision that it’s all it will be. He will continue to talk to other women and try to find his “one” but he won’t put any of that effort in with the “friend”. So the answer to your question is yes & no. He doesn’t in the way you want him to but as a friend… yes.

  6. Hi Anna, I reunited with my Aquarius friend from high school, he was my first. We kept in touch on and off for A little while. And then we lost touch of each other for 27 years. We reunited and have been frequent for the past 3 years, he told me he love A few times. And then out of nowhere he said he wants time and he wants me to leave him alone.

  7. Hi Anna, I reunited with my Aquarius friend from high school, he was my first. We kept in touch on and off for A little while. And then we lost touch of each other for 27 years. We reunited and have been frequent for the past 3 years, he told me he loved me A few times. And then out of nowhere he said he wants time and he wants me to leave him alone.

    1. Hi lani!

      It sounds like he’s in a state of emotional crises. He doesn’t know what he wants and what is best for him so he is going back and forth. I would just keep doing your own thing. Leave him alone and see what happens. If he really wants to be with you he will come back when his head clears. If not then you won’t have lost anything of great value. Take good care of yourself!

  8. This article was just what I was looking for today. I am an Aquarian woman and reconnected with my old Aquarian boyfriend from almost 30 years ago. Slow and steady def. wins the race here. I haven’t always been the most patient but I can see where it will pay off. We have become good friends first and foremost and I think that makes the difference along with the patience!

    1. Hi SK!

      Wonderful! I’m so happy you’ve found a great formula that works for the two of you. It’s really important to do this to keep flow and growth between two people in a relationship. I’m happy that you’re able to use some of my information to help you. I wish you all the very best! By the way you should keep up with the weekly Love Horoscopes and Tarotscopes in my blog.

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