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Hot And Cold Aquarius Man All The Time – What To Do?

You’ve been seeing or dating an Aquarius man who seems to have all the qualities you love. You’re falling for him and think he’s the guy that you will someday marry. Suddenly he becomes super withdrawn and barely speaking to you. Why? Keep reading to find out why is your hot and cold Aquarius man the way he is:

Not Taking The Time

Aquarius men are very adamant about having their freedom. I’ve mentioned this in several articles. They are very attached to having time to themselves or away from their partner.

The other thing is that they typically do not move quickly as far as getting into a relationship. Yet he sometimes meets someone who knocks his socks off from the jump and so he may give in to his excitement.

In this case, he’ll go in all hot and heavy thinking that this is the real deal. However, when he goes to be alone again; he starts to analyze and think how quickly everything moved and if the woman is someone he’d want in the future.

Of course, he doesn’t know that answer, and so he’ll want to back up and try to start from another point. However, this always seems as though he’s going back to the “friend zone” or that he’s back peddling.

He doesn’t want to hurt anyone as he IS a humanitarian. However; he’s also human, and so he does make mistakes. Just like with any relationship; when someone dives in too fast; it can backfire.

Aquarius men want to get to know the woman they are spending time with or even are considering for the long term. They won’t share their lives or give up their time to just anyone.

If he doesn’t take his time, he realizes that he screwed up and so he’ll try to correct it by trying to put on the brakes a little bit so that he can take his time and get to know the woman he was so excited about.

Changes His Mind and Changes Gears

aquarius man being hot and cold

Aquarius men know what they’re looking for and believe me; it doesn’t take very long for him to just “know” if someone isn’t right for them. They will feel it very quickly, and so this will make him call it quits.

This means he could be talking to a woman and telling her how much he’d like to marry her or have a future with her online but then when he meets her in person, the chemistry isn’t what he wanted, and so he’s done.

Aquarius is one of the ones you want to be careful with when it comes to online dating. He goes by the chemistry he feels or doesn’t feel. He’s a sexual person and physical. If he doesn’t “feel” what he wants with a woman; he’s done.

He knows that for a long-lasting partner, he’s going to want very specific qualities and he’s going to want that person to “click” with him. If he doesn’t, he knows he’s done, and sadly this is when he’ll ghost a woman.

Whether it’s how she reacts to something or how she talks to him about what she wants in the future, he assesses everything and if things don’t line up for him, he’ll be ready to walk away.

Because…He’s Hot and Cold Aquarius Man

Again, he doesn’t want to hurt anyone, and so typically he’ll let a woman know very early on that it’s not working for him. He’ll have various reasons and will pick one to tell her.

It’s not comforting to know, but at least it’s early on. Sometimes he isn’t sure and will drag it out longer. He’ll even talk to someone for several years on and off until he’s sure that she’s the one he wants.

He’ll go play the field and see what is out there but if he realizes that he’s already had “the one”, it’s not farfetched that he’ll go back to that one woman or at least, try to.

If you feel that he’s starting to give you the cold shoulder or he’s ghosting you, you will need to ask him directly what is going on. Tell him how you feel, what you want, and what you would like to happen.

Ask him what he feels and what he sees happening. He’ll tell you the truth. He’s not forthcoming with his feelings, but he will tell you the truth if you ask him. You just need to find the courage to ask.

A Matter Of Comfort

If your Aquarius guy seems as though he still cares for you in terms of really having a good time when he’s with you but when he’s away, he seems spacey, it could just be that he doesn’t think it’s a big deal.

Here’s the thing; when he becomes comfortable with someone and thinking things are solid; he may seem as though he’s cold when he’s just absent-minded.

This means that he thinks everything is perfect with you. Therefore, he doesn’t think you’ll mind if he doesn’t text you for a day or two. In his mind, there is nothing to worry about so what’s the fuss.

This is when you’ll need to let him know that it bothers you when he doesn’t get a hold of you or seems to space out. He really won’t know that you’re worried about your relationship with him.

If this is the case, open up to him. He will appreciate the truth, and you were speaking up. Aquarius is fabulous like this. Tell him exactly how you feel and what you want from him.

If he thinks it’s unreasonable, he’ll tell you, and he’ll explain why. At least you’ll then understand his side of it and can maybe find some middle ground so that you can work it out.


Aquarius man is a really good guy and gets a bad rep sometimes. I hope my advice helps you put things in better perspective.

How do you deal with a hot and cold Aquarius man? Let me know!

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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