How to Go From Coworkers to Lovers With an Aquarius Man

Having a crush-worthy co-worker can be so exhilarating! But how can you get him to notice you while remaining professional? Let me help!

So you find yourself with a huge crush on a co-worker who turns out to be an Aquarius man. What can you do to get him to see you as more than just a friendly colleague?

Great news! I can totally help you with this. Aquarius men are kind of cool and aloof much of the time, and they don’t pick up on your micro-flirts, but they do pay attention. You’ve simply got to make the right moves. Keep reading to learn how to go from coworkers to lovers with an Aquarius man.

In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women who fell for an Aquarius man across a desk, a shared project, or a break-room coffee run, and I can tell you this situation comes up far more than you would think. The office is one of the most common places a woman meets her Aquarius man, because he is drawn to people he can think alongside before he ever thinks about romance. The good news is that his pattern is predictable once you understand how his Saturn-and-Uranus-ruled mind works, and in our survey of women dating Aquarius men, 44 percent said the relationship moved slowly at the start. That slowness is not rejection. It is simply how he warms up. Let me walk you through exactly how to move from colleague to something far more meaningful.

If you want the complete roadmap to his heart, my Aquarius Man Secrets guide breaks down every stage of attracting and keeping this fascinating, fixed-air sign.

Flirt With Him… a Lot!

The Aquarius guy is a big flirt typically, and he loves it when a woman comes on to him. Wink at him, smile at him, or put your hand on his shoulder or hand when you talk to him.

You’ve got to make your presence known to him. You have to let him know that you’re into him, he’s not going to guess!

Without the flirting, he’ll assume that you’re co-workers and that’s all there is until you clue him in. So kick things up a notch!

Make jokes, laugh at his jokes, and touch him whenever possible. Not in an inappropriate way, of course, but grabbing his arm when you laugh is pretty simple and non-invasive as long as he is not averse to touching.

Be sure to look into his eyes when you’re talking to him so he can see the desire in your eyes. That will help him when it comes to feeling your intentions. Once he does, he’ll consider it.

The Secret to Making an Aquarius Man Obsessed With Figuring You Out

You can get the Aquarius man’s attention by being interesting. And in order to be interesting to this sign, you’ve got to be a mystery. He will feel drawn to you and want to unravel who you are.

He sees this as a challenge, and that turns his mind on. He wants to figure you out and learn more about you. When you are talking to him, offer very little detail. Make him want to pull it out of you. Give him a little at a time.

Keep him on his toes with enough juicy info to dangle in front of him but not enough that he loses interest. An example would be when he asks you what you like to do, say, “I love to travel,” but don’t elaborate on past trips.

It will make him want to dig deeper to find out more about you. This is when you start throwing around hints about getting coffee together sometime to talk more.

Just remember, keep most information about you to yourself until you’re actually dating. Make him dig.

How to Tell If Your Aquarius Coworker Already Likes You Back

Before you pour your energy into winning him over, it helps to read whether the interest is already mutual, because an Aquarius man shows his feelings in quiet, easy-to-miss ways. He will not flood you with compliments or obvious pursuit. Instead, he singles you out for the conversations that matter to him. If he seeks out your opinion on an idea, lingers at your desk to debate something he read, or remembers an offhand detail you mentioned weeks ago, his curious mind has already filed you under interesting.

Watch how he treats your differences, too. An Aquarius man who likes you will lean toward the parts of you that are unusual rather than away from them. He asks follow-up questions. He teases you in a way that is warm rather than dismissive. And because he is ruled by friendship first, he starts folding you into his world slowly, inviting you to a group lunch or a after-work gathering instead of a one-on-one date.

This is also where many women misread him. In our survey, only 29 percent of women felt truly confident their Aquarius man was interested, which means roughly seven in ten were left guessing. The truth is that his guarded, intellectual style hides more warmth than he lets on. If you want to decode the early signals with confidence, my readers love this free tool. Over 254,331 women have already taken this free attraction quiz to discover exactly how to spark and read an Aquarius man’s interest. Take it here and see what the stars reveal about your connection with him.

Be His Friend First

With an Aquarius man, you’re not getting in there romantically until you befriend him. Remember Jim and Pam? You become more than co-workers by becoming friends. To do this, you do share just enough to find interests in common.

Ask him what foods he likes, what drinks he likes, etc. Then you can invite him as a friend to hang out and get a drink. You can also invite him to group gatherings.

Have your friends meet you at a fun place and then invite him there too. That way it’s not a date and no one feels pressured. You can get to know him a bit better and suggest hanging out again.

This may take a while because an Aquarius man isn’t a fast mover when it comes to love relationships. You want to take it slow, though, because it’s healthier for you both.

Friendship is an excellent place to start. While you’re out having fun together, flirt away.

It takes time to rake an Aquarius man in. But you can be sure he wants a woman he can be best friends with as well as lovers.

Why an Aquarius Man Takes His Time Falling for a Coworker

If you feel like progress is glacial, you are not imagining it, and you are not doing anything wrong. The Aquarius man is a fixed sign, which means once he commits his heart he tends to stay, but getting there is a deliberate, careful process. He needs to trust your mind before he trusts his feelings, and a workplace adds an extra layer of caution because he does not want to create awkwardness in a place he has to return to every day.

His ruling planets tell the story. Traditional Saturn makes him measured and slow to attach, while modern Uranus makes him crave freedom and resist anything that feels like pressure. So he watches, he tests the friendship, and he waits to see whether you respect his independence. In our survey, 44 percent of women said the relationship with their Aquarius man progressed slowly, and many of those same women said it eventually became the most stable bond they had ever had. The slow build is the foundation.

Your job is to keep things light, consistent, and unhurried. Let the friendship breathe. Resist the urge to define what you are or push for a label before he is ready, because nothing cools an Aquarius man faster than feeling cornered. For a deeper look at this stage, read my guide on the early stages of dating an Aquarius man.

Why a Small, Well-Timed Surprise Opens an Aquarius Man’s Heart

Aquarius men love it when a woman goes out of her way to surprise him. He loves someone who can appreciate spontaneity as much as he does.

Now, I’m not saying you should show up on his doorstep. He’s likely a bit private and may not like it if you come unannounced. What I mean by surprising him is by giving him a gift or doing something nice without him expecting it. Pick up an extra cookie for him at lunch, or buy the mug that made you think of him from Starbucks.

He gets bored easily, so it’s fun to keep him on his toes. Plan a get-together, leave him a note saying you appreciate him, or bring him a tasty snack to work.

You can bake something yourself or pick up a treat from the local bakery and drop it at his desk with a sweet and friendly note.

What an Aquarius Man Notices First That Other Men Completely Miss

I’ve got to tell you, Aquarius men love women who are unique. Show him your elegant but personal style of dress.

Let him see that you don’t think like the general population. Let him know what your likes are even if you think they are weird. Let him see your weirdness. He prefers quirky over ordinary any day.

Don’t try to be like anyone else. Be yourself and let him see that. He will appreciate that you’ve been open and honest with him about who you are. It’s refreshing to him. And he likely has an eccentric type of personality, so you will be someone he will naturally be magnetized to.

The caveat here is that you shouldn’t force it. Being different just means being exactly who you are and not who anyone else is. So if you’re going out of your way to be quirky, he’ll see through it.

The Biggest Mistakes Women Make With an Aquarius Coworker

Even when the chemistry is real, a few common missteps can stall everything, so let me save you the heartache. The first mistake is moving too fast. When a woman senses a spark and immediately pushes for clarity, texts constantly, or floods his inbox, the Aquarius man feels his freedom shrinking and he retreats. Give him room and he comes toward you. Crowd him and he steps back.

The second mistake is being too available and too predictable. This sign is wired for novelty, and a coworker who is always free, always agreeable, and always waiting loses her mystery quickly. Keep your own full life, your own plans, and your own opinions. He is far more drawn to a woman he cannot fully predict.

The third mistake is getting emotional at work or making the office feel heavy. An Aquarius man processes feelings in his head before his heart, and intense displays in a professional setting overwhelm him. Stay breezy in the building and save the deeper conversations for outside of it. When you want to know precisely what to say to keep him leaning in, my Aquarius Man Secrets program gives you the exact words and timing that work on his independent heart.

Going from coworkers to something more is absolutely possible with this sign, and the women who succeed are the ones who understand how his mind works before they make their move. If you want the complete, step-by-step playbook for attracting, understanding, and keeping your Aquarius man, my Aquarius Man Secrets guide is the same roadmap thousands of my readers have used to turn a quiet office crush into a committed relationship. You can also read my guide on how to make an Aquarius man chase you for more on sparking his pursuit.

Read next: 5 Shocking Things Every Aquarius Man Wants

How to Turn Your Aquarius Coworker Into Something More

Just remember, strive for a friendship first and foremost. Once you do that, you can start working on winning him over for more. Be mysterious and original. He wants someone who stands out because she has embraced her own soul.

He is intellectual, so talk about things that are smart and witty. Try talking about things in the news and see what you can get him chatting.

Ask him for his opinions and thoughts on things. He’ll appreciate that you are interested and care what he thinks. Be supportive of his goals and ideas.

Let him know that you’re going to be there for him any time he needs to talk. Give it time and be patient.

Frequently Asked Questions About Aquarius Men and Workplace Romance

How do I know if my Aquarius coworker likes me or is just being friendly?

This is the question I hear most, because an Aquarius man is friendly with nearly everyone, which makes his interest hard to read. The difference is in the depth and the consistency. A friendly Aquarius coworker chats with you in passing. An interested one returns to you again and again for the conversations that matter to him, remembers the small things you say, and starts pulling you into his social world.

He may also get a little awkward or playful around you in a way he is not with others, since this cerebral sign is not naturally smooth about attraction. Look for the pattern over a few weeks rather than one moment. If he keeps choosing your company and keeps remembering your details, his curious mind has marked you as special.

Should I make the first move on an Aquarius man at work?

Yes, gently. The Aquarius man often does not pick up on subtle flirting, and because of the workplace setting he may hold back to avoid making things awkward. A light, low-pressure first move, like suggesting you grab a coffee to keep a fun conversation going, gives him the opening he needs without cornering him.

Keep it casual and friendly rather than romantic and heavy. You are not confessing your love, you are creating a relaxed chance to connect outside the office. That approach respects his need for freedom while still letting him know the door is open, and it lets him step through it on his own terms.

How long does it take an Aquarius man to fall for a coworker?

Longer than most signs, and that is by design. Because he leads with friendship and needs to trust your mind first, an Aquarius man can take weeks or months to move from colleague to romantic partner. In our survey, 44 percent of women described the early relationship as slow, so if your connection is unfolding gradually, you are right on schedule for this sign.

Try not to measure his feelings by speed. A fast yes from an Aquarius man is often shallow, while a slow yes is usually deep and lasting. Keep showing up as a warm, independent friend and let the bond mature at his pace.

Is it a bad idea to date an Aquarius coworker?

It can absolutely work, but it calls for discretion and a light touch. Aquarius men value their reputation and their mental space, so keeping the budding romance low key protects both of you and actually appeals to his love of a private, slightly unconventional connection. Avoid public displays at work and keep the office breezy.

The bigger risk is moving too fast or letting things get emotionally heavy in a place you both have to return to daily. Handle it with maturity and let the relationship grow mostly outside the building, and an Aquarius coworker can become one of the most loyal, mentally stimulating partners you will ever have.

Did you know that yummy actor Aston Kutcher is an Aquarius? Look at his gorgeous wife, Mila Kunis. She’s definitely different and mysterious. No wonder she snagged an Aquarius man.

Have you made a co-worker into your partner? How did it go? I’d love to hear from you in the anonymous comments section!

Wishing you all the luck of the universe.

Your friend and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach