Nonstop romantic texts to prove your undying devotion might work on some men. But not on Aquarius.
Bear with me here—but in this case, your best bet is to do the opposite of what you think you are supposed to do.
Over the years I’ve been contacted by so many women, just like you, who thought their love, affection, and loyalty were creating the foundation for a solid relationship.
And then one day, it all fell apart. They tried everything that worked before. Like you, they expected a relationship with an Aquarius man to be like other relationships. But it’s not.
In order to crack the code to an Aquarius man’s heart, you must first understand his unique energy. A relationship with an Aquarius man is unlike any other.
What Sets Aquarius Man Apart
Astrology is an ancient system—one of the first sciences—concerned with studying the alignment of planets and the influence of planetary energy on world events and personality. Its wisdom is timeless, so it’s no wonder everyone from world leaders to celebrities to star-crossed lovers look to Astrology for answers.
Deeper examination of a birth chart reveals deeper secrets of someone’s path, and the Sun sign unlocks the code behind someone’s personality. You can understand what makes someone tick once you understand their Sun sign.
Aquarius is the sign of the rebel. The innovative genius and intellectual visionary. The most important thing to remember about the Aquarius man whose stolen your heart is that he is a born rule breaker. He craves freedom and is attracted to ideals as much as he is to reality.
When Your Aquarius Man Calls it Quits – 5 Tips to Pull Him Back
Nothing hurts worse than the feeling of loss when the man you care about breaks up with you, and with an Aquarius man, it may seem to have come out of nowhere.
Take a breath and prepare for a period of personal soul-searching and reinvention. You’re about to embark on a wild ride, but you may need to wait out the urge to chase him down.
I mean it—you’re going to need to be patient. It will be worth it.
Brace yourself for some downtime because chances are that is what he is seeking. In order to get your Aquarius man to come back, you have to think like him.
This can be quite a trip because he’s unpredictable. He values excitement, adventure, friends and anything new.
1. Make Use of Your Newfound Freedom
Take space for yourself. Reconnect with your friends. Pursue your intellectual interests and find groups to hang out with.
Be as adventurous and unpredictable as he is.
You may be thinking, “But what if I give him space and lose him forever?”
Here’s a little secret: To him, a ‘breakup’ is often more of a ‘time out.’ So, while he retreats into his social group, hobbies, or mad scientist lab (you know he has one), your best bet is to bring excitement and change into your life.
That wild hairstyle you always wanted to try? Go for it. Your old group of friends you haven’t seen in a while? Call them and get together for a wild weekend road trip.
Immersing yourself in you will help you get your mind off the breakup.
2. Try Exciting New Things… And Let Him Notice
In addition to the purely personal, you can also think of this as a time to gather unusual and fun experiences that you can share with him when he finally gives that signal that he misses you and wants to talk again.
Do the things that add sizzle and unpredictability to your life. Do it because it will fill your life with new and exciting energy—if there’s something he can’t resist, it’s anything new and exciting.
And post pictures online of the adventures you’re having.
Aquarius men want to innovate, solve problems, and discover new things. You will be sure to catch his interest if he can see that there are changes happening in your life. Prove to him that what is going on in your life is anything but routine.
Trust me on this one; your Aquarius man is enticed by novelty. He may have walked out the door, but he’s hooked on the internet. Chances are, he’s keeping an eye on your social media. Distance is his comfort zone.
He already knows what it was like to be with the ‘old’ you, so smothering him with reminders of your past together is not going to help. Let him fantasize about what it’s like to be with the ‘new’ you.
Read next: How To Make an Aquarius Man Want You: Trigger His ‘Desire’ Buttons
3. Don’t Chase Him
It’s an understandable mistake many women I’ve worked with have made: thinking that keeping in touch will tempt him back to your warm embrace.
This is a bad move. He’ll feel intruded upon. Reassuring him of his special status as the love of your life will only make him feel like you’re stuck in the past.
He doesn’t want to be associated with any kind of ‘stuck’ energy.
Don’t reminisce about your favorite vacation or cute nicknames for each other. That was then, this is now, and he is living in the future.
A word of caution here, ladies: The last thing you want to do if you are serious about your Aquarius man coming back is to keep a public diary of your heartbreak online.
He’s not comfortable with his own emotions and will react to any outpouring of emotion as if you just started speaking Klingon to him. In fact, he may be more attracted to your knowledge of Star Trek languages than emotional language.
It may sound harsh, but he is not going to come back out of mercy or guilt. He will see any public pleas for a second chance as embarrassing and suffocating. Rather than empathizing with your pain, he will run even further away.
Remember: independence, freedom, and space to tinker with the 3D printer or organize a humanitarian campaign are just part of an Aquarius’s varied interests. How you react to his absence from the relationship teaches him valuable information about whether he can count on you to give him space when he wants it while in the relationship.
4. Don’t Try to Make Him Jealous
I know you’re tempted to make him jealous with a rebound relationship.
He’s imaginative. He wants to picture himself with you as you take a wild ride through life. He doesn’t want to envision himself having to compete for your attention.
Aquarius men are all about ideals and principles. If you’re tempted to vent frustration in ways that lower your standards, that will turn him off. He’s highly intuitive and intellectual. If he senses manipulation, he’ll be out of there fast.
You already know he has a sensitive side. Be careful not to intentionally toy with his feelings.
Don’t lie or fake it—he’ll know the difference. He’ll lose respect for you if he thinks you’re being inauthentic. And don’t play on his insecurities.
Show him you are grounded enough not to go for the easy route and play the jealousy card. With an Aquarius man, it’ll never work.
Read next: Why Is My Aquarius Man Ignoring Me? What Can I Do?
5. Show Him What He’s Missing When You Talk to Him Again
Your Aquarius man wants to be reassured that you’re as independent as he is and that you can find interesting, creative, unusual, and progressive things to do with your downtime.
He wants to be intrigued by rediscovering the new and exciting elements of your life.
When you’ve taken my advice and followed the first tips, the next time you do talk with him, you’ll have plenty to say.
Show him that you have put thought and intellectual energy into interests that will attract his attention such as science, spirituality, conspiracy theories, technology, and progressive campaigns.
When you talk to him, keep it light and entertaining. Save your heartbreak and tears for friends. Don’t try to bring up the past or narrow him down for a commitment.
It’s all about the present at this stage—be in the moment with him, and he’ll see what a mistake it was to drop you.
The more he sees you as a lost treasure, the sooner he will want to return to you before anyone has a chance to sweep you off your feet.
If you have a unique story about patience paying off, or if you are struggling to find more answers about your love interest, I want to help you get through this! Leave a comment or question below, and I will get back to you!
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Hi Anna My name is Ellen Im dating an Aquarius man we are in our 6th year together. Recently we broke up. He is a Narcissist !00% I love him immensily. He seems to have an off and on switch when it comes to his feelings. WE have many things in common. Yes we are great lovers !!! Im an Sagittarius so we are definitly compatable. And have many things in common. Im at my wits end on how to make him relize we have a future together as he doesnt think so or maybe he trying to convince himself of this. Pluh-leese Help!!!!! Thank you Ellen
Ouch yes they can sometimes be narcissistic. If you have so much in common then I’d go back to focusing on what brought you two together in the first place. Remember why you two met and became a couple. Get back to that and try to regress back to that first moment you two got together. If you can do that then you may find some progress yet again. You both need something fresh and exciting. Go backward to when it was that way. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.
I’m a Sagittarius. My relationship just ended when my Aquarius man told me “he will never marry me”.
This is making me feel as though he thinks he is too good for me / better than me; that I am not good enough for him…
Though that statement is incredibly direct, I feel as though he is making up excuses.
I would be someone that can tell you from experience that when a man says he’ll never marry is because he has some past wounds that have caused him to be closed off to the idea. He has been badly hurt or had some experience that has jaded him. It’s often not the truth. With time and patience, their minds typically will change as they work on their own personal healing. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.
Was great with the aqua guy, told me we were gonna get married etc. Thinking yeah, he’s aqua he needs space…I give him space, intellectual convos…kept my emotions in check, etc…he strung me along until the very end with flirty texts etc. Then he tells me he’s not over his ex. Now I don’t want him back.
Oh boy…. he must have started talking to her again. That’s the only way he’d be reverting back and telling you he’s not over her. He was probably doing really well with you and then she made an appearance or reached out to him which got his feelings for her stirred up. I don’t blame you for not wanting him back. Good riddance buddy! Don’t write off all Aquarius men though. They are not all bad. Try checking out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” for more helpful information.
I need my aquarius man back,though I sort of was the one who reacted badly to his emotional detachment from me-im scorpio- i tried to reach him so we can talk about it after that but he was not forthcoming about anything to give me hope it was going to be better going forward. We were friends for over 3 years before we got here.
I miss our friendship most
I can completely understand how you’d miss his friendship. That is very odd that he’s not forthcoming. I’d be asking him straight out “what happened, why did it happen this way?”. I’d want answers. It’s not wrong for you to ask. If he isn’t volunteering then ask. You deserve to know. I wish you the best sweetheart!
I am Rose Patience Wright. I am dating an Aquarius man for two years. And we recently broke up with me.
I want him back and don’t know how.
Hi Rose Patience Wright!
It sounds like you need a bit more help than I can provide with just a simple comment. I recommend you check out my books about Aquarius Man Secrets. It will come with one free VIP consult that you can write in to me personally and I can help you a bit better. Check it out. I will leave it up to you. I wish you all the best!
I’m a Scorpio and my Aquarius man broke up with me after 3 months of dating. He said he doesn’t see a future with me because I’m not patient enough. He was very mean when he broke up with me, but he still wanted to be friends. Sadly I want him back. Do you think he will return and what can I do to get him back?
I read both of your comments sweetheart. Look, I know you care for him deeply but what you’re not seeing are the clear signs that you should be running from. He was trying to give you subtlety by phasing you out but you weren’t picking up on it so he got brutal with it. I am so very sorry. He wanted out probably awhile before you were even aware. That being said, he’s willing to stay friends probably only for sex. He didn’t mention that part but he doesn’t ant a relationship with you. The only reason an Aquarius would keep a woman as a “friend” is for a “just in case” or “friend with benefits”… he already stated that where he said he would have continued having sex and go on dates once in a while until it phased out. I’m afraid that he’s not likely to come back for love and I think you really should move on from him. You deserve so much better than this!
My Aquarius man has been with me for 5yrs and always refused to commit, but also refused to end things. Recently he asked for space and instead of giving it to him, I stupidly pushed him to give me attention. He got his friend to call me pretending to be his girlfriend and when I spoke to him, he said he never wanted to speak to me again and was so mean. I know he’s been like this because he’s in a bad place, but I don’t know if he’ll come back. I’m a Sag by the way.
Your story sounds similar to someone else who commented. What he was doing was biding his time. He knew he didn’t want to commit to you but the time he spent with you was pleasurable for him. When he got his friend to call you like that, it was his way of saying it’s over but probably not the best way to handle it. He should have been a man and told you nicely that you’re not the one for him. Bad place he may be but that doesn’t give him a hall pass for being a jerk to you either. As a Sagittarius you’ll find someone better and soon. Sag always lands on their feet. Find someone better!
Hi Anna, thanks for getting back to me. 5 days after the incident he came back to me saying he was sorry for what he did and he just needs space to deal with his own life, but he wants me to wait for him. Then he told the same girlfriend lie all over a again 10 days later and said he doesn’t even like me. Do you still think he does want to break up or is he just in a bad mental space?
Oh boy…. I think you need to leave this guy alone. If he’s going to keep making up things and lying to you then he isn’t committed to you enough to respect you. It could be he’s in a bad mental space but it could also be that he cannot face up to reality and keeps repeating his mistakes. You do you and leave him be. Someone else out there will treat you far better.
I have been dating with an aquarius man for 4.5 years, he is 3 years younger than me, im 32 and he is 29.
We had a big fight because i asked him if he had plans about our future like settling down. He said he didnt think about it yet. Then he asked me to give him some time to think about the relationship after the fight. 2 weeks later he sent me a message saying that he is breaking up with me. I agreed to him. We had a calm break up… but after a week i begged him for another chance but he said that it is for the best of the both of us.
It’s been 3 weeks after the break up. What shall i do?
Well if he’s already decided he’s not going backwards then you have to take that at face value honey. I know you don’t want to but if after you begged him he still shut you down, he doesn’t want to get back together. I’m afraid that only time will tell if he’ll be back. Until then you’re going to have to work through the process of loss and try to pick yourself up to move forward. Maybe someone else will come along that will love you the way you want. I wish you all the best!
Hi, Anna, I’m a big fan of your works, thank you for writing all these articles that help us.My aquarius guy (not really mine) is exactly what you describe. But our situation is too difficult to describe in a short note, I’m thinking I should just give up…I just like to analyze people and things, that’s why came across your page. Anyways, thank you again!
It’s my pleasure to help you. I’m happy to hear that you’re a fan sweetheart. If it really helps you then I’m all for it. Your Aquarius guy may have birth aspects that make him different from the “norm”. If it’s too difficult then it’s probably not meant to be. Trust your gut and follow your heart. Be open to someone else that may rock your world! I do write for all signs so by all means, don’t be a stranger! I wish you the best!
Hey, Anna… I’ve been on some on and off kinda relationship with an Aquarius man before. The only thing I never understood abt him is that, everything would seem well until he would tell me I should find someone better than him. We started off as friends and that ruined the friendship and I miss that. Last time he seemed genuinely happy, excited and interested to try it out again, but then out of know where he then came and said we can never be together I should find someone better. Like never I was like okay, but then I hated the fact that whenever he wants out he always tell me about someone else. I always wondered what went wrong though I don’t bother him anymore I feel dead inside to accommodate someone new. I always feel like he will come back, is the something wrong with me?
I just got dumped by an Aquarius man last night. I have no idea what happened. We didn’t even have an argument or fight. I made him dinner and we were both enjoying the evening. He drank a couple of my bottles of wine and wanted to snack on some of my chips and I was passive jokingly saying omg I just bought those. And he was like I’ll buy you new ones. I then said i’m kidding all good. And then at one point I asked him to pour me a glass and he accidentely dropped the bottle of red on my expensive rug and I frantically tried to clean it up and was a little upset. He then got up abruptly and said I’m leaving and that he wasn’t feeling comfortable there anymore. I went to hug him and ask why is he leaving and he was all of a sudden cold and stoic and said please just let me go so I did. I then waited a few hours to send him a text and apologized for making him feel uncomfortable and upset and it was fine about the rug. He responded back to say it’s ok and that he hopes I find someone compatible with. And then I said are you ending things with us? He said that he hopes we can be friends someday. No hard feelings. And then I said I didn’t expect things to end between us after what happened and if this was truly how he felt about us and that I was sad. He then responded Me Neither (with a sad emoji). I’m so confused right now! I have no idea what happened and can’t believe he ended it over something like this. We have been dating for 5 months. And he’s professed how much he loved me, cared for me, happy to be with me, needs me etc. I’m so confused. What do I do?