Have you ever dated an Aquarius man and wondered, is he really into me?
Have you ever asked yourself if this relationship going somewhere, or am I just wasting my time?
If you answered yes to either of those questions, you are not alone. It can be confusing at times to understand the unconventional Aquarius man.
Between his kind, warm-hearted, and curious nature, to his cold-and distant attitude, the Aquarius man is tricky love to pin down.
Known for his charismatic attitude and playful behaviors, it’s important to understand the Aquarius man’s intentions about your relationship.
By knowing his intentions, you will be able to determine whether he’s serious about you or playing games. This way you will know for sure if you should give the relationship more time to develop or walk away.
But no worries if you aren’t sure. As a relationship astrologer, I’m here to share with you the top four ways to identify when the Aquarius man is wasting your time.
Let’s dive in!
How to Tell If You Are Wasting Your Time With an Aquarius Man
1. He Doesn’t Make Time to See You
If there’s one way to know if the Aquarius Man is wasting your time, it’s if he starts ignoring you and cancelling your plans — or better yet, when he stops making plans with you altogether.
Granted, the Aquarius man isn’t one for romance and spending all of his time with his lover — he is one of the zodiacs most avid defenders of independence and individuality. He feels suffocated if he doesn’t have time to himself.
However, the Aquarius man is also a proud man, holding values of honor and self-respect. He goes above and beyond to be a leader and role model citizen in his community. He doesn’t take these commitments lightly.
Therefore, if he starts dodging you (canceling dates, etc) it’s probably because he’s not interested and you are wasting your time.
Missing one date because he had to help his family or a co-worker is one thing, but finding excuses to disrupt plans every other weekend is not acceptable.
Pay attention to the signs.
Rather than continuing to play into his games, stop asking him out. If he contacts you to figure out what’s wrong and to make plans to see you, then you know he was in one of his hot and cold spells — he may actually like you.
But, if he doesn’t contact you and instead keeps living his life like nothing ever happened, it’s time to move on.
2. He Doesn’t Ever Want to Talk
If you’ve ever dated or spent an adequate amount of time with an Aquarius man, you know at times he can be a chatterbox, especially when he feels passionate and well-educated about a specific subject.
Therefore, when this air-ruled man turns silent, it’s a dead giveaway that something is up.
If he’s ignoring your calls and not texting you back, it’s not by accident.
As one of the most observant signs of the zodiac, he’s making an active decision not a ‘mistake.’
If he’s ignoring you and doesn’t ever want to talk. You are wasting your time and need to move on.
This stubborn man is not going to change his mind (or answer the phone).
The answer to your problem is simple, stop calling and texting him.
3. He Keeps Saying You Two are ‘Just Friends’
If you ever heard of the “we’re just friends” speech, know that it originated from an Aquarius man.
As the eleventh sign of the zodiac, Aquarius rules the house of friendships, groups, and vision. They are the bridge between the personal and the public.
Because Aquarius rules the house of friends, it can be hard for the Aquarius man to build relationships that go beyond the friend zone.
He is not one for traditional relationships, marriage, or long-term commitments.
Although he is very comfortable being friendly and having deep conversation, he falls short when it comes time to emotionally investing.
He doesn’t handle emotional attachments very well.
Rather than opening himself and allowing himself to connect, the uninterested or unavailable Aquarius man will use his “let’s be friends and get to know each other” speech to keep you around but only on his terms.
He doesn’t want to let you go but he doesn’t want to settle down either.
Now, this doesn’t mean that all “let’s be friends first speeches” by Aquarius men aren’t genuine.
There are lots of Aquarius men who have a strong desire to settle down and commit.
But if after six months of dating he still is calling you his “close friend,” he is playing mind games and you are 100% wasting your time.
4. He Acts Distant in Person
You may be wondering what happens if the Aquarius man still chooses to spend time with you, but is acting cold and distant on dates?
You may even be thinking, if he’s detached from his feelings does that mean he’s detached from me?
If the answer to either of the above questions is yes, then the Aquarius man is probably not interested and you are wasting your time.
Although the Aquarius man can be emotionally detached, he is still always conscious and present. He makes a point to communicate and express his thoughts to his partner.
Therefore, if he’s acting distracted and distant, it’s because his attention is somewhere else. He can’t be detached emotionally and still connected to you.
Read next: The Best Ways to Respond When an Aquarius Man Ignores You
Now that you know my top four ways to identify if an Aquarius man is wasting your time or not, ask yourself, have I seen any of the mentioned behaviors?
And if yes, then what am I going to do about it?
Although it can be frustrating when you’re feeling confused or neglected, remember that not every relationship is a good match.
If you’re wondering if you and your love mate are a good match, check out my quick and easy, free love compatibility quiz here.
Also, I would love for you to share any thoughts or tips you have about dating an Aquarius man that you feel is wasting your time.
How did you find out he was playing you, and what did you do when you found out?
Sending you lots of love on your journey,
Your sister and friend,
I bought your book and cannot find it and really need it now. Mumsonholiday2@yahoo.co.uk. He was just amazing we got on so well, he couldn’t wait to see me, we had great times, he wanted to come to my daughters wedding, I have never felt so close to anyone. We had been intimate and it was amazing. Then one morning he laid in bed mumbling about being him and I didn’t understand we got up, I tried to make an arrangement to see him as he’s always busy, then he said leave it and we’ll arrange after. I had to go. Then he didn’t read my messages. Then he sent a message saying his head was all over the place and he wasn’t in a good place????? I just don’t understand. Then he said he just needed to sort his head and he disappeared, just like that, nothing!! I just can’t work it out
You would need to reach out to my support team at firstname.lastname@example.org… It sounds like he’s doing the typical hot and cold thing that Aquarius does. Yes they are typically busy people and don’t like anyone telling them the way it is or what to do. It could be very true that he has too much going on and is overwhelmed which makes him unable to put focus into a relationship. You definitely need my books. Email my support team about it and they’ll help you.