Are you thinking of dating an Aquarius man who has gotten a divorce? Are you considering becoming serious with one?
Yes, he can get confusing, and he can also blow hot and cold. What can you do about it? Keep reading, and I’ll help you learn what you need to keep in mind when dating a divorced Aquarius man.
6 Things You Should Know When Dating a Divorced Aquarius Man
1. Divorced Means Experienced
While you may be looking to find someone to be serious with, an Aquarius man recovering from a failed relationship is probably trying to take it easy.
They are naturally slow movers in the first place, but now that he’s divorced, he’s going to be even more cautious.
He knows now what it’s like being serious with someone and where it got him. Whether he was the problem or his ex was, there are still lessons he’s learned from it all.
This will make him want to take a long time to get involved with someone else. He may never want to be serious with someone again, so that’s something to take into account when you’re trying to get closer to him.
You cannot get frustrated with him if he’s straight up in the beginning and tells you he doesn’t want a relationship.
I see this happen all the time. He tells her he doesn’t want commitment. Then because he’s still being cordial with her and acts like they are dating, she’s shocked when he reminds her of what he said before… he doesn’t want a relationship.
He doesn’t mind spending time with someone and having a good experience. He doesn’t even mind having sex. But if he tells you in the beginning he’s not looking for a relationship, he means it.
2. You Cannot Push Him
An Aquarius man is a strong-minded individual. If he wants to take it slow, you’ll have to go with it. If you do not, you will lose him. He will become distant and finally just let you go.
He is in absolutely no hurry to get involved after what he’s been through already. If by some chance he’s an Aquarius who is moving fast, you should be really cautious. He may be trying to bury past pain by moving on too quickly.
The last thing you want to be is his rebound woman. You may end up getting ditched later, and it hurts. Don’t do that to yourself.
Take your time, get to know him, show him that you’re a good woman, and let him see with his own observations that you’re someone he can get closer to.
You also need to consider whether or not he has children with his ex. If so, he’s going to be tied to her for the rest of his life, or at least until his kids are adults. That is going to make him take longer also.
He will absolutely grill you and try to get to you know you for a long period of time before he brings you around to meet his kids. Beware, if you try to push him into a relationship or even exclusivity, you may not be met with good results.
If you’re in a hurry to dive into a relationship, marriage, or having children with someone, then you may need to find someone else—the Aquarius man isn’t likely the one for you.
3. They May Be “Damaged”
Some Aquarius men may be damaged from their past marriage. You need to watch out for some of the signs they may display. It can save you heartache to avoid trying to get closer to someone who can’t handle it.
- He seems to want you to cook or clean his place. He’s looking for someone take care of him, not be his love.
- He may seem to want an inordinate time alone. Aquarius men like having freedom and time to themselves naturally, but when he wants to be alone more often than with you, something is wrong.
- He blows hot and cold with you. He acts indecisive or sketchy, as though he’s keeping things from you that you probably should know.
- He wants to have sex with you but doesn’t want to go out. He won’t introduce you to friends or family. It’s always hanging out at his place or your place.
- He never tells you anything of significance to him. He won’t open up to you at all and seems very hard to decipher.
- He acts needy or desperate. Aquarius men don’t do this unless they’re looking for someone to rebound with.
If your guy is giving you any of these red flags, you probably should run far and fast. He’s not looking for the same things you are, and you’re going to get hurt.
Back out and move on. It’s the best thing for you to do. No one wants to keep chasing after someone who isn’t emotionally available.
4. Family Issues
If you are dating an Aquarius man who is over 30, there is a good chance he had a kid with his ex-wife. Even if not, he’s likely still tied to her family.
There is also his family, who is probably now badgering him about either being careful or staying single. They may be telling him, “Take a break before you get back out there.”
They are basically filling his head with what they think he should be doing. He may listen to them on some level. Aquarius men are normally fiercely independent, however.
Family is very important to him, and he’s not likely to take you home until he’s very serious about you. He doesn’t want them getting attached to someone who may not stick around—since his ex didn’t.
In the case that he’s the one who left, he may not want to introduce anyone to his family until he’s ready to walk down the aisle again. Yes, it can be that long!
An Aquarius man who has been married before has issues much like anyone else. However, the things I’m sharing with you are more specific to him.
5. He Has Emotional Baggage to Carry
Look, this is pretty normal for anyone. The Aquarius man is no different. He is likely to harbor feelings for his ex and may even keep in touch with her.
He will always have a special place for her in his heart, even if he never wants her back. However, you’ll find that he’ll try to see if you have some of the same issues he feels his ex had.
He may compare you, and he may try to carry his own problems over. Until he’s purged himself of his previous marriage emotionally, he’s not very likely to open back up to someone new.
He may want to be an adventurous playboy for a while. Don’t let him pull you in to a “friends with benefits” situation, or you’ll never get more from him. He’ll get cozy with the way it is, and it will never change.
6. He Needs You to Take Your Time—and You Need That, Too
It’s not just the Aquarius guy who should take his time. If you’re going to date a divorced man, you need to take it slow so that you can be sure he’s a good guy for you and that he’s someone you can have a future with.
Beware of any Aquarius man trying to move lightning-fast. Something is up and could fail miserably. Just be leery and know what you will and will not accept from someone in a relationship.
Express what you’re looking for in the beginning so he can tell you he’s either looking for the same or he’s not. That way, you know and can move on right away if you sense it’s not going to work.
Don’t let him play the “I’m confused” card with you. He knows mostly what he wants or doesn’t, and if he tells you he’s not sure, then he probably is but doesn’t want to be honest.
Let time dictate whether he’s a good possibility for you or not.
Whatever you do, do not have sex with him until you know he’s exclusively with you. You will get hurt and will be emailing me wondering how to get him back or how to get him to commit!
Sex doesn’t mean he will commit, so this is yet another reason to hold off from getting intimate. Find out what he’s looking for first. When you don’t and just assume, you end up with a broken heart.
Wise up and watch him. Do what is best for you!
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Wishing you all the luck of the universe.
Your friend and relationship astrologer,