So the moment has come where you’ve finally decided that you need to move on from your Aquarius ex. Moving on isn’t easy, and we can all do with a little help, especially if you’re still yearning for him. Here are some of the best ways to help you forget him and open your heart for new love.
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It’s normal to be devastated after a breakup. You’re questioning everything about your relationship and yourself.
In my years of experience as a relationship astrologer, I have seldom seen anyone move on quickly from a breakup—maybe a few fire signs!
Are there any ways of moving on a bit faster, to allow new opportunities for love into our lives? Of course, there are! There are plenty of proactive ways to move toward opening our hearts again and letting go of the one who wasn’t the one.
It’s not easy, of course. Aquarius men have a special sort of magic that can leave some women wanting to keep that door open! His detachment and sometimes cold rationality can leave many women seeking emotional closure.
Here’s the thing: you’re not always going to get it from him.
Once an Aquarius man is done, he very rarely looks back. He can simply cut you off, and while they often stay friendly, this severing of emotional ties can feel hurtful and confusing.
That’s why I’ve put together a few tips on helping you to move on, whether or not you have closure!
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women trying to move on from an Aquarius man, and I will tell you what I tell every one of them: what you are feeling right now is normal, and it is not a sign that something is wrong with you. Aquarius is the most emotionally independent sign of the zodiac, ruled by unpredictable Uranus, and that same detachment is exactly what makes him so hard to release. You are not weak for struggling. You loved a man who is wired to pull back, and now you are simply learning to pull yourself forward.
In a survey of more than 2,600 women involved with Aquarius men, 9 percent said he was already an ex, and another 4 percent said they were right on the verge of a breakup. So if it feels like you are the only one sitting with a half-closed door and no real closure, you are not. This is one of the most common stories I hear about Aquarius men, and there is a clear path through it.
If you want to understand the deeper why behind his behavior, the way his Uranus-ruled mind processes endings, and what would actually reach him, my full guide Aquarius Man Secrets walks you through his emotional wiring step by step. For now, here are the tips that have helped so many women open their hearts again.
7 Tips to Move on From a Breakup With an Aquarius Man
1. Realize That He’s Moved On, Too.
This may hurt to hear, but the truth is that he’s moved on. Even if there are certain things about you that he will always hold onto, he has done that Aquarius thing and snipped the connection between you.
That may look like him wanting to be friends, or being on the dating scene again. It may look like him spending a lot of time with friends, or diving into a cause that’s close to his heart.
You need to do yourself the honor of looking towards your own future. As much as it stings, knowing he has moved on will help you to find more freedom and give you the chance to explore other options for love.
2. Embrace Your Friendships
Aquarius is a friendship-focused sign. They’re generally very social and outgoing and love to be around people who share their ideals and dreams.
Why not use this breakup as an opportunity to rekindle your own friendships? It’s common to put your love relationships ahead of friendships.
This is your time to rediscover your girlfriends, to have a regular girls’ night again, and to enjoy drama-free activities together. There’s nothing quite like a community of women to support and uphold one another, and help you move on after a painful heartbreak.
Immerse yourself in other relationships, and you’ll soon see that they can be just as fulfilling as having a partner at your side in a different way. This includes your family bonds.
3. Enjoy Your Freedom
Even in the best relationships, freedom is limited. We always have to take someone else into account, and very often we put aside our own needs and desires for the sake of the relationship.
To be fair, Aquarian men give more freedom than most. But with that comes a sense of disconnection and detachment.
Use this time to truly embrace your freedom—eat what you want, wake up when you want, and decorate your home the way you want it to be. Rediscover yourself.
This is one of the most rewarding things about any breakup! There’s nothing quite like the sweet taste of freedom.
4. Be Open to Emotional Connection with Other Men
Here’s a silver lining to your breakup.
Aquarius men are air signs, which means that they are famously disconnected from their feelings, even more so as guys. When you’re yearning for his presence again, just remember that it may not have always been an emotionally close connection.
So now, you have the door open to spark that connection with another man, perhaps someone a bit more sensitive and in tune with his feelings—and yours.
As the saying goes “there are plenty of fish in the sea”. And sometimes, when we are so wrapped up in someone else, it can be hard to see that there actually may be someone better for us out there!
5. Get on the Apps!
The hard truth is that your Aquarius man will most likely get back into the game quite fast. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s dealing with your breakup, though.
Try not to let that get to you, and instead, get into online dating yourself, even if you have no intention of dating right now.
The flirting and flattery can bring you a great deal of much-needed self-confidence and help to remind you why you are so wonderful with much less pressure than meeting face to face.
You don’t have to take it too seriously or compete with your Aquarius ex. Just enjoy the freedom and fun of being pursued!
6. Avoid Playing Games
It’s oh-so-tempting to try and play games with an ex. Who’s moved on faster, for example, or who’s dating again, who’s doing better and so on.
Avoid these painful games. It’ll close your heart to new love and won’t help you close the door on your Aquarius ex. And the chances are, he may not care about playing games with you, either. An Aquarius man is typically not one to engage in mental warfare.
Instead, focus on you. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else! Your process is your own, no matter how you choose to heal—remember that.
Read next: Aquarius Man Acting Hot And Cold: What Is His Deal?
7. Be Open to Friendship
This is hard, and no one expects you to be buddies right away. You’ll need to heal first and let go of the deep romantic connection you had.
Your Aquarius guy probably really, really wants to be friends. Don’t allow him to pressure you before you’re ready, but don’t be closed to the idea in the future if you think he’d add value to your life as a pal.
After all, you loved him once, and that connection can be valuable for both of you in the future. You know each other inside and out, and once all the hurt has passed, he may be the best friend you ever had. And, more than likely, he’ll be a far better friend than partner!
Why an Aquarius Man Can Cut You Off So Cleanly
One of the hardest parts of a breakup with an Aquarius man is how final it can feel, almost overnight. One week he is in your life, and the next he has quietly closed a door inside himself that you cannot see. This is not cruelty, even though it can feel that way. Aquarius is a fixed air sign, which means he lives in his mind far more than in his body or his heart. When he decides something is over, he decides it intellectually first, and his feelings follow that decision rather than leading it.
Ruled by Uranus, the planet of sudden change and clean breaks, he is truly capable of detaching in a way that more emotional signs simply are not. He files the relationship under a new heading in his mind, often as a friendship, and moves the energy somewhere else. The cruel irony is that the very independence you may have admired in him while you were together is the same trait that lets him walk away without looking back. Understanding this will not make it stop hurting, but it will stop you from blaming yourself for a pattern that was written into his chart long before he met you.
How Long Does It Really Take to Get Over an Aquarius Man?
There is no calendar for the heart, but I will be truthful with you, because that is what you deserve. Aquarius men leave a particular kind of ache because the connection often felt mental and rare, like meeting someone who finally understood the way you think. In our survey, 24 percent of women said the connection with their Aquarius man had been real but was fading, and that slow fade is often harder to grieve than a loud, obvious ending. You are mourning something subtle, which means you need to give yourself more time and more grace, not less.
The women who move on fastest are the ones who go quiet rather than chasing answers. An Aquarius man rarely offers the closure conversation you are hoping for, so waiting for it keeps you frozen. Instead of staying tethered to his timeline, set your own. Give yourself thirty days of focusing entirely on your own life, your friendships, and your future before you even evaluate how you feel. Almost every woman I work with is surprised by how much lighter she feels once she stops trying to decode a man who has already moved his attention elsewhere.
The One Move That Keeps You Stuck on Your Aquarius Ex
If there is a single thing that keeps a woman trapped in the orbit of an Aquarius man, it is agreeing to be his friend before she has healed. He will almost always want this, and he will make it sound so reasonable, because to him friendship is a true form of love. But for you, staying close while your heart is still raw means you never get the clean break your nervous system needs. Every casual text restarts the clock.
Protect your healing by giving yourself real distance first. You are not being cold or dramatic by stepping back, you are being wise. The friendship can come later, once you are steady enough that hearing his name does not move you. If you do want to leave the door open to reconnecting one day, the way you communicate now matters enormously, and my Aquarius Man Magic Phrases shows you the exact words that keep his respect and curiosity without keeping you stuck waiting.
Frequently Asked Questions About Moving On From an Aquarius Man
Will an Aquarius man come back after a breakup?
Sometimes he does, and Aquarius men are famous for resurfacing months later with a casual message, as if no time has passed. Because he detaches rather than burning bridges, the door in his mind often stays slightly ajar. But you should never organize your healing around the possibility of his return. If he comes back, it will be on a sudden Uranian impulse that you cannot predict or force. The healthiest thing you can do is build a full life that does not have a him-shaped hole in it, so that if he reappears, you are choosing from strength rather than waiting from longing.
Do Aquarius men regret breaking up?
They can, but they express it differently from other signs. An Aquarius man is unlikely to send a flood of emotional messages or beg for another chance. His regret tends to show up as renewed curiosity, a sudden interest in what you are doing, or him keeping tabs from a distance. He values rare connections, and if yours was truly stimulating to his mind, he does not forget it. That said, his regret will not look like grief, so do not wait for tears to feel validated. The connection mattered to him in his own quiet, intellectual way.
Does an Aquarius man miss you after a breakup?
He often misses the conversation and the companionship before he misses anything physical, because his attraction begins in the mind. What he tends to miss most is the feeling of being completely understood and accepted, especially for his quirks and his need for freedom. If you gave him that, you became rare to him, and rare is the highest compliment an Aquarius man knows. But he will rarely tell you he misses you outright. He shows it by reaching out about an idea, an article, or a memory rather than by confessing feelings.
Should you go no contact with an Aquarius man after a breakup?
For your own healing, a period of no contact is usually the kindest gift you can give yourself. It breaks the loop of analyzing his every word and lets your heart actually settle. The interesting twist with Aquarius men is that distance also tends to make them more curious, because they are drawn to what is independent and self-contained. So no contact serves you twice over: it heals you, and it quietly reminds him of the strong, free woman he was with. Do it for yourself first, though, never as a tactic to win him back.
How do you make an Aquarius man regret losing you?
You do not chase, and you do not perform. The thing an Aquarius man respects above almost everything is a woman who has her own full, interesting life and does not need him to complete it. When you pour your energy into your friendships, your passions, and your own growth, you become exactly the kind of independent spirit he is wired to admire. If he was going to feel the loss, that is what brings it on, not pleading or jealousy games. Become the most authentic, self-possessed version of yourself, and let that be enough whether he notices or not.
Are you having trouble getting past a breakup? Please feel free to air your feelings in the comments section. I’m here for you.
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Anna Kovach
I am confused about the mixed signals he sent me. I don’t know what to do and its stopping me from moving on. I read through most of this sites information about his star sign (Aquarius) and I can’t help but fall further into confusion.
We had a good thing, he took my virginity and told me he loves me. I gave him all my attention and he gave me all his. A few months he pulled back and I didnt know why, turns out the reason was that he found out he was a father. He is the army and back home he got his girlfriend pregnant and then they broke up and he left. Which was his past. We never dated because I said no to him due to the place we were at in our realtionship prior to the baby incident. So any way we had a fall out and I suggested we try friends with benefits and then it wasnt like that because we ended up being loyal to each other without the tittle, however his communication wasn’t good and we stopped doing things all together and didn’t talk for about a month. He randomly calls me to check up on me and we just started speaking as friends, then he tells me that he is loyal to another women, which is his baby mama started posting her and stuff. Then one night he was out with the boys and called me drunk saying that he needed me and from that call we went back and he said ” remember when I said I loved you, I meant it ” and I was taken by that. We ended up sleeping together again but never going further just because he will be leaving to go home to his daughter in a month. He left and stopped talking to me all together. The last call we had was when arrived in America. Never again its been more than a month and now he posted his daughter and his baby mama calling them his world. If according to all this, why is it that he said all of that to me if he was going to move on that quickly? Was I being played ? Did I fall for his nonsense ? I am confused.
He’s not playing games. You have a place in his heart. But he has a child with someone else so you need to wish him well and say a prayer that you and him never rekindle again. It’s not fair to the other 2 people. Just be grateful the guy you lost your virginity to wasn’t only after one thing like most. 🙂