Any Aquarius guy is well known for his innate curiosity and cheerfulness, and having a relationship with this man can be anything but boring or stale.
However, if you feel like the time is right for you to move on, then read how to lose an Aquarius man without losing your mind in this process. You will need the proper strategy and here it is.
Becoming a Sugar Baby
Since day one of your strategy to lose an Aquarius guy, you have to insist on the material side of your life. All of a sudden you will forget the dreams you once shared about the freedom, equality, social justice or your long and passionate discussions about the living conditions of some rare and exotic animals. And with the same zest and power, you will embrace the idea of luxury brands.
No, you don’t have to buy all of that stuff if you are not so interested or you don’t have so much money. You can simply put on some elegant and mono-color clothes and shoes. And in the case you don’t possess such pieces; you will borrow them from your friends or sisters.
The point here is to look expensive, but more importantly, you will have to behave like the material girl. Start with your newly discovered passion for Instagram and don’t miss anything related to shopping, latest fashion shows and checking up on expensive travels.
This will confuse him in the beginning and around day two or three he will be completely and utterly shocked with your transformation.
Set the Plans for Your Properties and Investments
You don’t have the means for properties or investments? No problem what so ever. You should arm yourself with the business books, and you can even get them from the public library. Just sit, read and learn. It’s so simple.
After a while, which truly means after a few hours of focused studying the matter, you should start talking and especially, remember this part. To lose an aquarius guy you should start lecturing him about this subject.
Fill all of the moments you spend with him with endless conversations regarding calculations, taxes, start drawing the diagrams, and think, think and think in the terms of short and long lasting goals, creating multiple streams of incomes and, this is obligatory, your saving’s plan.
Attach to Your Home and Family Values
Speaking about the saving’s plan… You will cut all expenses starting with the home cooking and cutting all your open-air activities. So around the day five or six, while you are wearing something elegant, watching the fashion show and talking about financial issues, you should suddenly announce your magnificent decision to start cooking traditional meals, except for the fancy dining and expensive restaurants where he is going to take you and, of course, pay.
You will also apprise that you will do your yoga or pilates in the comfort of your own home and for the sake of cutting some expenses for the gym. And also, that from this moment on you don’t want ever to hear about the colorful bunch of his friends and their crazy activities.
This will have the effect of the slap on his face and he would feel cut off from the circle of people who mean a lot to him. At the same time, he will start to think about the best pull back strategy… from you, not his friends, of course.
Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend
Around the day seven you will have to have that “conversation” with him, when you will open your big and childish eyes and in a gentle, but serious manner, you will state to him that you intend to save any penny you can on your expenses, but you expect with the full right from him to provide you with fancy dinners, branded clothes, exotic vacations and of course, jewelry.
The jewelry issue is a big thing for any girl and it’s seen as some sort of a good investment because the price of gold, diamonds or other precious stones never goes down. And as a clever girl, you want to be ensured that he will be a good provider and so on…
This talk will seal out his mind regarding any possibility of actually having a future with you and all of a sudden he will start stuttering and thinking about the quick excuses. This is the moment to introduce the drama.
Drama Instead of a Goodbye Kiss
No, at this particular moment you don’t want to be the reason being. In fact, you should behave like a spoiled brat. Remember, you want to get rid of your Aquarius guy, not keep him after all.
So, the next moment he feels you need to look at this situation from the proper angle, you must start crying, yelling at him and convincing him that you have the strict plans for your future and you can’t back off. This way you’ll lose an Aquarius guy.
Then, you should continue about your hard leveling up journey and your dreams of living the highest jet-set life. Your female needs are way higher than some foggy ideas he has about the equal society and you don’t care about the popular culture, mindless socializing with average Joes or any other non-important persona…
Try to sound determined, hard and insulted and don’t let him move you from your newly discovered path to success. And have in mind that you mustn’t have this conversation over the phone or through texting. The only correct way is to confront him personally and if you can do it in the public place, it will be even better.
Conclusion
Now, he will feel betrayed and most likely ashamed for choosing you to be his girl and after the few moments of heavy silence, he will say one bitter “goodbye” and leave.
After some time, there is a possibility that he will try and check on you in the sense perhaps you came up to your sane mind, but be a clever girl and don’t respond to his texts. Ever.
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Your friend and Relationship Astrologer, Anna Kovach
well we started hot and heavy and then he pulled back. he told me all he can give me is friendship right now as he is separated from wife and still has feelings for her but they cannot be together
My Aquarius man just cheats on me. I don’t know why I stay. I know it’s not all him. But cheating is a choice. I’m a Capricorn
@Rosemarie Sanchez, your guy like many guys choose to cheat because it’s about how they feel versus what is said. What I mean by that is, it’s primal for a guy out of a sense of duty, honor, and obligation to assume it’s his job to make you happy. As an Aquarius man I feel the same way, however I wouldn’t cheat on you I’d just leave you if I didn’t feel good around you. One of the main themes in a guy’s life is accomplishment or getting the job done, this is built into their brain’s via testosterone. A guy see’s sex as an accomplishment, giving you a good time in the bedroom is also an accomplishment, we feel it’s our duty to do that. However when we have a woman in our life that’s maybe pessimistic or always negative we tend to take it personal that we did something wrong, anytime you share your feelings with us we feel blamed and criticized even if we’re not at fault and you needing to vent or share your feelings solves the problem, is alien to us, we believe that taking some sort of action solves the problem not talking about it. So in a nutshell I suspect that you talking about things like the relationship, your problems in everyday life, or just your feelings feels very heavy to your Aquarius, so he looks to another female that seems to have less problems, is happier, not so serious and probably lacks what he sees as drama. So the solution is to vent to your girlfriends not him, be happy to see him when he’s with you and avoid complaining about anything and he’ll likely do a 180 degree turn around and stay with you. If you don’t know that you can solve this problem on your own by making these adjustments then know that he is in the process of separating from you emotionally, then soon he will separate from you physically. Good luck.
Hi Rosemarie!
I’m sorry to hear your Aquarius man cheats. It’s hurtful every time no matter what a man’s sign is. Anyone (man or woman) is capable of cheating. It just depends on their background, their beliefs, or what they want. You are right, cheating is a choice. If you don’t want to be cheated on then you need to get out of the relationship. You’re showing him that it’s alright if he cheats because you’ll always take him back. Stand up for yourself and be the strong Capricorn woman you can be! You may want to read more information in my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” to further help you.
Hi RESho!
Yikes, sorry to hear that. He is being honest with you though and that’s a good thing. I guess that if he still has feelings for here then there is no hope between the two of you until he’s possibly over her. Otherwise you might be better of remaining just friends. You may want to read more information in my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” to further help you.
My Aquarius guy has been a friend for 8yrs. After developing a crush and feeling like it was going nowhere, I moved on after about 8-9months. I married a man that was very jealous of our continued friendship, so I wasn’t able to be close to him anymore. Though we weren’t close anymore, he’d still refer to me as his best friend.
My jealous ex-husband cheated on me and once we were separated I was able to re-kindle the friendship I once had with my old best friend, the Aquarius.
After several months of building a new friendship, I started to have feelings again. I told him and I’ve been very honest about my feelings since. His response is that though he finds me attractive, believes I’d be the easiest woman to date, he’s just never seen me in a romantic way. He calls me his soulmate, his other half, the woman that completes him. In a room filled with people, we can have an entire conversation with our eyes. I’ve never had a connection like this and I don’t understand why it’s not clicking for him. I wonder if I’ve done something or if I’m doing something that’s keeping me in the friend zone. I desperately want out of the friend zone, but don’t know what to do.
@Knarpy22, there’s a few things I see here that is working against you. For one you separated not divorced, plus not enough time has passed since your separation to where you then reveal you feelings to your friend. He’s right to be cautioned with you since I’m guessing in the past you crushed on him but didn’t make it known or didn’t know that your friend takes his time in selecting a mate, and he may have felt rushed. It’s almost like we sense a sense of desperation in a woman and won’t move forward with anything romantic because it’s too pressuring to us. Either that or you didn’t make a move or express your feelings to him then and he felt like there was a boundary that couldn’t be crossed so he kept you as a maybe. Considering all that that happened back then, fast forward now and you unfortunately put yourself in the friend zone this goes for guys too, the very act of not acting in a high value attractive feminine way is a turn off for him. He also could be holding a grudge against you for making him a second choice, and that also keeps you in the friend zone, since he would have felt betrayed that you chose another man that he probably knew would cheat on you or break your heart. The only way out of the friend zone is to focus on attraction and connection, nothing else. Hope this helps.
It started up 3 year ago as FWB with this Aquarius guy and I wanted it this way since I did not feel ready for relationship after bad marriage and since I felt he was not my cup of tea relationshipwise since he felt cold(I am a Cancer) but he wanted a relationship. I told him honestly that we are not suitable. We had intellectual confrontations since we are both stubborn intellectually. Unfortunately I have fallen in love with him on erotical basis even if still I am aware that we are not suitable. It became an on and off and I moved but he visited but fell off as usual (always fall off after 2 days in person and after 2 weeks online). I feel it is getting heavy and I would need to feel secure emotionally to bear it but he cannot give it to me since apparently he cannot cope with this heavy thing either and I cannot be light since I have feelings in it. 3 months after the row he connected me but fell off again over the phone since he realized I did not regret my stance I had last time but was hoping he did. It become a power struggle even if he promised to try to complement each other even if we are not suitable since right opposite of each other. But still he started criticizing me for being different from him and told me that he would not let me in his house. It made me really angry so thrown him out. Problem is: my mind says: no, my heart says: yes. Missing him so much but afraid of trying again.
Hi Knarpy22!
If it’s not clicking with him then it’s just not. It’s possible to be soul mates with someone and not be romantically involved. Soul mates come in the form of friends, family, etc. So he sees you as someone he feels very close to but not in a romantic sense. He cannot make himself feel something that isn’t naturally there. You may want to keep the friendship but keep looking. You may want to read more information in my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” to further help you.
@Knarpy22 What is your zodiac sign?
Christ these are so poignant it hurts!
Hi Jo!
Aquarius men can be wonderful but they do have some down sides just like each and every sign does. It’s important you get to know any Aquarius man before writing them off. Knowing mistakes you can make ahead of time can help you to prevent or avoid them. If you would like to know more about Aquarius man, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.
I am really struggling with mine. I feel like I have made adjustments and he just doesn’t acknowledge them and still harps on stuff that happened months ago and has been resolved. Or so I think ?
@Monica, at the very heart of an Aquarius is that of a humanitarian, and that means when we’ve done something wrong we make amends not just adjust our unwelcome behavior. If you haven’t made any amends or asked what you need to do to make amends then likely nothing will be resolved. Most likely whatever you’ve done in the past still hurts him and you won’t be forgiven since we a stubborn lot until amends have been made.
Hi Monica!
I’m sorry that you feel that your Aquarius guy isn’t paying any attention to your changes. They aren’t always the most observant or vocal when it comes to praise. If he thought they were things you needed to do then he doesn’t feel he should have to tell you good job. If you want that acknowledgement then ask him “have you noticed I made changes to this?”. At that point he’ll tell you if he has or he hasn’t. If he has, he will tell you that he has and that you’re doing great. Sometimes you just have to give him a nudge. If you would like to know more about Aquarius man, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.
We started something. But he can’t do anything cause of his ex wife and two kids… He would want something but I think I will let go. For 8 monts we are doing something and nothing.
Aquarius men are confusing. I am that type of women that doesn’t candy coat anything and will give it to you straight up, yet my Aquarius friend, yes, says that he finds this disrespectful. I friend zoned him because of this and ignore him. He can’t stand it. I told him I am one of the most honest and authentic people you will ever meet. His response, I know and that is why I can’t date you. I say to him and that is why you never will. I think that confused him. I don’t understand, he tells mutual friends that I am the perfect woman for him. I hate games and told him this! He is 39, grow the hell up. Why?
Hi Mary!
I hear you! He needs to be able to focus on your relationship and until he can do that, you may have to let it go. However, you can keep a friendship with him and perhaps try later on when he’s in a better position. He shouldn’t be letting his ex wife control his life, however. He should know to stand up and put boundaries into place. If you would like to know more about Aquarius man, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.
I been dating an Aquarius and he cheated on me and when I told him I needed time to figure out what I wanted to do about it he dumped me
Hi Crystal McCaffrey!
I’m sorry to hear that your Aquarius man was unfaithful. It would seem he wasn’t sure if he was ready to commit. Aquarius men only cheat when they aren’t sure or if they really weren’t ready to settle down in the first place thus regretting it later. If he dumped you simply because you needed time to work past it then he wasn’t fully committed to you and so you’ve lost nothing. If you would like to know more about Aquarius man, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.
This Aquarius guy who I had developed feelings for and once we became intimate he went silent. I left a note on his door saying that wasn’t cool. Then confronted him in person very calmly. We continued but he wouldn’t throw the note away. When we got closer and I swear he told me he loved me, he started pulling away. So I said he was going to have to tell me what was going on in his head. He said he had no feelings whatsoever good or bad. Just blank. Bullshit I say. However, after a few weeks we got back to texting as friends then sexting at which point I said why aren’t we just seeing each other again. Typically he just avoided that question. We’ve since become close again but perhaps too close for Aquarius dude because I haven’t heard from him now for a week and a half. I haven’t texted either I have to say. I’m a Leo.
Hi Rebecca!
It sounds like he isn’t sure what the heck he wants and until he figures that out, he’s going to keep repeating the same thing over and over until you put your foot down. You’ll have to tell him either we’re there or we aren’t. If we aren’t, I’m going to move on. He’ll then feel he has to choose. Yes he has to. I mean it’s either that or he’s going to do this to you over and over. Take a stand. You may want to read my book “Aquarius Man Secrets” to further help you.
I’ve been in a casual/FWB with an Aquarius guy (8 yrs younger than me) for 3 yrs now…he was upfront that he didn’t want a relationship just something casual… I was fine with this as I was still figuring things out myself since I had just moved into my own place and was on my own for the first time in 21 yrs…we connected and clicked right from the start…we dated a few weeks but than he said it was too much too fast …he was silent for 6 weeks but than contacted me again… We started up again but I didn’t push or pry for anything… He saw other women and I saw other men but we always came back to one another 1-2 days a week… I was always searching for what I have with him …we have an intense connection physically and emotionally… When I bring up a relationship he says its not what he wants at this time in his life… Back in the fall he was spending more time with me and even asked to spend the weekend (he works in the city I live in and returns home about 2 1/2 hrs away on the weekend)… after that weekend he got distant and cold…I just gave him the space he needs when in the past he has acted like this…he plays hot and cold ….when I feel like we are getting closer he pulls away… In the past gifts for my birthday or Christmas have just been gift cards …nothing personal… This year for my birthday he got me my favourite bottle of wine… And throughout the year would buy me lingerie…. He also gave me his old laptop since i didnt have a computer…This Christmas he really surprised me and got me a new tablet (I complained in the past about my tablet being old ) and a necklace with a swarovski pendant… I am not sure what this means…I am really confused by this…I feel like he wants more but is holding back maybe because of the age gap ( I will be 48 and he’ll be 40 )…I’m afraid to ask because in the past he has disappeared when I mention anything serious between us…any thoughts?
Hi KF!
If you are confused then you need to find the direct path to asking him. Ask him what is going on with the two of you and where does he see it headed. He should be very honest with you and tell you if he still sees you as a FWB or if he wants more with you. It’s not a weird thing to ask and it’s not something that he should feel pressured by. Remember that Aquarius doesn’t normally volunteer information, he will wait until you ask. Go for it and ask so you can get your clarity!
Hi Anna,
I asked my Aquarius guy where he saw things “proceeding”… He answered back that he didn’t understand the question… I asked if he saw things the same…more…or less…he answered ” definitely the same and maybe more “…I was asking/emailing him fun questions with a few serious ones mingled in…I was trying to know him on a personal level… We had 2 great dates last week…one was a surprise as he had not planned it and just showed up before I went to work…second datr that week was our usual stay home date as we are in lockdown due to covid and nothing is open…I sent him a fun flirty text the next day and didn’t hear from him all weekend…I reach out after 3 days …says he was ” kinda busy and such”…asked what I was working for the week…then nothing again…ask what is up…says he is still at home and not working this week(he lives 2 1/2 hrs away and works in the city I live)…I did not respond to this… It has been a few days again with no response… I sent an e-mail stating that if I over stepped a line than he needs to let me know…nothing from him…I just dont understand what is going on…
Hi KF!
Ah yes, direct questions are the best way to handle Aquarius man if you want answers. Sounds like he has other things going on. be if you text him saying “hey, checking in, hope you’re alright since I haven’t heard from you”. See if that gets a response otherwise you may have to withdraw a little yourself and see if he starts to miss you enough to reach out to you. It does work sometimes with Aquarius. If you need more tips, check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.
Hi Anna!
My aquarius man left me 3 months ago, after 3 years of relationship, because he doesn’t see a future with me. He’s 34 and I’m 47, he’s does not want kids right now but he’s not sure about it in the future. We love each other, it’s been hard for him also, but i think he’s afraid of commitment. I want him back, i think we can work it out, it’s just that he put this barrier and he’s forcing us to be separated and he wants to try to forget me, so he’s trying to meet new people, going out, etc. What Can i do?
Hi Soli!
If he told you he doesn’t see a future with you then he’s considered more than one angle when it comes to the relationship. He doesn’t see a fit between you two. With him being younger, he does still have the option for kids but with your age, it’s increasingly more dangerous for you (if you even want to have a child or two with him). That being said, I don’t think he’s afraid of commitment, he’s just trying to be a realist which Aquarius tends to be. I hate to say it but all you can really do is try to stay friends with him and give him space. He’ll look around at his options and he’ll have to decide if you’re the best fit or not otherwise, he feels he’s done. So very sorry sweetheart but if you do hang in there, you should check out my Aquarius guides on “Aquarius Man Secrets”. I wish you the best!
Hello Anna,
my aquarium man, is a co-worker, who started chasing me, first introduced me to his group of co-workers, introduced me to his children, always as friends. more romantic. but with a lot of flirting between the two, glances, jokes, details …
until one day we both went to lunch together, which he called a romantic lunch, but at the end of the evening he told me that he had had other relationships and that they did not work after the divorce, that he would go out with someone it was to have something bigger, and that I would be better off alone with my kids … I kept quiet. I couldn’t answer. I collapsed because he told me he didn’t want anything to do with me.
for the next few days at work, he was still sitting next to me for breakfast, but he was no longer joking, he was more serious. and I don’t do drama in front of him, I tried to be the same as before …
so it’s been 2 months, and now he’s back behind me, he’s still sitting next to me, he’s kidding me, he’s made some comments that he could go on holiday where he’s going. makes me personal comments, or more trusted.
so what aquariums are slow to be sure of their feelings, mean many months?
it seems that if he wants something but he stops. I don’t want to ask why he seems unsure and scared. I don’t know what he wants from me.
att virgo
Hi Julia!
Alright so when an Aquarius man acts like this it’s because he has something going on in his life and he doesn’t want to involve anyone else in it. He probably does like you but he’s keeping you at arms length so to speak. He is emotionally unavailable and unless that changes, you’ll probably get more of the same. Leave him be. Maybe with time things will change for the better but until it does, he’s made himself clear that he doesn’t want anything. You deserve someone who knows what they want and doesn’t hesitate. I wish you all the best!
i could never ever ever wanna lose my aquarius guy. he’s my twinflame & the love of my life, with his uber difficult a$@ lol.
Hi avtar!
Well it sounds like you really love your Aquarius man and it shows! That’s fantastic. As long as you have a good understanding of him and realize that Aquarius’ can be difficult then you’ve got it down. There is no reason for you to lose him sweetheart. Here’s wishing you lots of love ahead!
I was with my aquarius guy for 19mths, 8 mths into the relationship if got out of bed to talk with another girl, who is married, he denied that the call ever happened. He says he doesn’t speak with her and hasn’t got her phone number etc, I know this is him gaslighting me as I know the girl in question. We split up this week because I can’t take the lies etc. He said it’s all my fault, he cares deeply for me etc. Why couldn’t he just be honest from the start about the infamous midnight phone call andthe constanttexting her. I’m an aquarius female and honest is everything to me.
Hi Ails!
Oh my gosh. He said it’s your fault? That’s rather narcissistic of him. He’s not taking responsibility and trying top put it elsewhere. That’s very said. I’m so sorry you had this experience. Not all Aquarius men are like this. He sounds immature. You do what you need to do for you. There are good men out there that do not lie like this. I wish you nothing but the best.