Every month, the planets change signs and affect our relationships. Depending on the planetary movements, it may be tough to understand the needs and desires of the Aquarius man. But with my tips based on the monthly energy, you can draw the attention of an Aquarius man or improve your relationship with one in October 2020.
Attracting an Aquarius Man in October 2020
1. Have Some Fun
If you asked an Aquarius man what he wanted out of a relationship in October 2020, he would probably say someone who knows how to have a good time and meet new people. Someone who isn’t afraid to be uncomfortable or take a risk for love.
Although one would think that the nonconformist and visionary Aquarius man would be busy working away all month, October 2020 showcases a different, more sociable and free-spirited side of the Aquarius man.
From October 1 until October 22, the Sun in Libra will journey through his ninth house of adventure and foreign destinations.
Because the ninth house rules expansion and exploration, and Libra rules relationships, the Aquarius man will be more open to explore a new relationship or group of people. This month, he may be more inclined to date outside of his normal status, physical type, or race.
Instead of being overly critical or analytical like he was in September, the Aquarius man is learning to loosen up on his thinking process and share the burden with others. He is realizing that he does not have to be alone.
If looking for fun activities to do during Libra season to help lighten his mood, perhaps you should invite him out for a casual karaoke night with friends or game night at the local pub — anything that forces him out of his shell and into society.
On October 22, the Sun will leave the Aquarius man’s ninth house of Libra and enter his tenth house of Scorpio.
During this awakening transit, focus on building an emotional and spiritual connection with the Aquarius man.
Instead of focusing on ways to have fun and enjoy each other’s company, focus on building a long-lasting foundation your partnership can thrive from.
2. Listen
If there’s one thing that turns the Aquarius man on the most, it’s a woman that knows how to listen.
After a month of Venus’s transit through fiery and impulsive Leo, Venus, the planet of love and romance, finally enters a grounded and methodical Virgo.
From October 2 until October 27, Venus in Virgo will spotlight the Aquarius man’s eighth house of sex and emotional intensity.
Because the eighth house is often associated with dominance, and Virgo is associated with the mind, this is a transit where the Aquarius man actually wants the floor and the freedom to talk. He wants to be in control of the conversation and decision-making.
Therefore, during this transit, the Aquarius man is most attracted to the woman who is emotionally stable and considerate. He wants a woman who knows how to listen and follow directions.
Although some may see this as control, the Aquarius man sees it as building a healthy relationship of mutual love and respect. He sees it as choosing a woman who trusts him to lead her to higher ground.
By no means am I suggesting that you be submissive to the Aquarius man all the time, but at least be submissive in the bedroom during this time if you’re not comfortable letting him lead anywhere else.
Instead of always being the one to tell him what to do, let him take the reins.
So whether it’s which route to take, what you should cook for dinner, or how this sensual man likes to be pleased, learn to listen if you want his heart!
He’s ready for you to follow his lead!
3. Be In It for the Long Haul
When it comes to love and life for the Aquarius man in October 2020, he would prefer to focus on the future than get caught in the illusions of the present or nostalgic memories of the past.
Unlike September 2020, where his thoughts were on keeping things simple and taking it one day at a time, October 2020 is a month where the Aquarius man is feeling emotionally heightened and fragile.
Therefore, if you are trying to attract or maintain the attention of the Aquarius man, it would be in your best interest to focus on being a solid base of support and reliability. Otherwise, you run the chance of scaring him off.
If you’re wondering what is behind the change in the Aquarius man’s thinking in October 2020, it’s because Mercury, the planet of communication and thought, is no longer transiting the Aquarius man’s ninth house of exploration and curiosity in Libra.
Instead, Mercury will spend the majority of October transiting the Aquarius man’s tenth house of Scorpio.
Because the tenth house is associated with long-term relationships and commitment, and Scorpio represents emotional intensity, the Aquarius man strongly wants someone he can feel safe committing to; someone who can connect with him on a deeper level.
During this transit, focus on building a spiritual and emotional connection with the Aquarius man. Find healthy ways that allow you to build a solid bond of commitment and trust.
Read next: 7 Things You NEED to Know About Being Married to an Aquarius Man
4. Be Patient
After months of Saturn, Jupiter, and Pluto retrograde, October is the first month since April all three planets are moving directly.
In astrology, when a planet is retrograde, thoughts, ideas, and actions are delayed and dramatically slowed down.
You may be wondering, what does this have to do with the Aquarius man?
Well, all three planets (Saturn, Jupiter, and Pluto) were retrograde in the tenth sign of Capricorn. In astrology, Capricorn naturally rules the Aquarius man’s twelfth house of ending and isolation.
Because the twelfth house is associated with ending and isolation, and Capricorn is associated with barriers and limitations, the past five months have been a difficult time for the Aquarius man, and he may have been more secluded or withdrawn than usual.
However, with all three planets moving full-speed ahead in October, the Aquarius man is coming out of his hibernation box, so be gentle and patient with him as he prepares to slowly open his heart again.
Let him know that you are okay with giving him the time he needs; do not pressure him by talking about how much you miss him or how neglectful he may be.
Instead, give him his space and quietly let him know you’re there if he wants to talk. Let him make the decision to come to you.
Overall, if you are looking to attract an Aquarius man in October 2020, focus on having some fun, learning how to listen, committing for the long haul, and staying patient.
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What are you hoping October will bring to your relationship? Let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!
I look forward to hearing from you.
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
Anna, you are right, I can feel that my Aquarius man being distant in the last few months, distant deep down but act normal on the surface, a bit impatient and critical at everything.
Just before I read your article, he pulled away again and said that he doesn’t feel like any of this. I suggest to have a break or breakup rightaway, he said let’s have a break and see what happens, said when he hasn’t been feeling right about “things” and when he pictured him moving back to his town, it’s always by himself. He wonder if it means he is leading me on or wasting my time.
How can I let him see that I can be the one to settle down for the future?
Hi Carol N!
Bah… over analytical Aquarius… yes. When anything changes they feel as though something is wrong when maybe nothing is. Maybe he is changing. Whatever it is, he’s pulling back to gather himself and decide whether or not he wants this relationship. He may just be scared to move honey. I can tell you a whole lot more about Aquarius if you’d like. Check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.
I’m hoping October will bring me my gorgeous Aquarian man who is so amazing. The signs are there he has a thing for me. Just waiting for him to open his heart and act on his feelings! I’m ready baby ?
Hi Keighleigh!
I hope October worked out for you honey. Aquarius men are a bit hard to read at times unless you learn all you can about them. If you want to know more for future reference with Aquarius man, please check out my book “Aquarius Man Secrets”.